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To go on a city break leaving behind sick baby

231 replies

Phuquocdreams · 17/01/2018 21:18

Sigh, I kinda know I am...
Meant to be going on a city break this weekend with friends and family. Flight booked. 18mo has come down today with a bug, hot, clingy, just not well. I work full-time so I'm not even going to be there much to comfort him before the weekend. He doesn't sleep as a rule (wakes 3-4 times), won't accept dh at night, still feeds and I was desperately looking forward to a weekend away to SLEEP, have a drink, spend some time with a sibling whose having a hard time. And also hopefully let dh make a start on night-weaning (again) without milky boobs mum (he is only too happy to delegate almost all night responsibility to me on basis "he can't comfort baby" - he can but we always seem to slip back to me doing it all).
Anyways I can't really put a sick baby through the stress of that, can I? Think I know the answer...

OP posts:
kaytee87 · 17/01/2018 21:20

The baby will be fine, his dad will be there.

Off you go on your much needed break.

Chugalug · 17/01/2018 21:22

No..you go ...you need this..your baby needs a happy mum..this will make you happy.dad is more than capable

LadyBunnysWig · 17/01/2018 21:22

Yes you can!!

It would be completely understandable for you not to go, but on the other hand, your baby will get hundreds of bugs and you can put you're life on hold for every sniffle.

I genuinely believe you need time to refresh every so often and I think you sound like you need this.

ijustwannadance · 17/01/2018 21:23

It's 2 full days away yet, hopefully if just a bug he will improve by then so no need to decide yet.

If he improves then no reason his dad can't look after him.

LemonShark · 17/01/2018 21:23

Go! Babies survive and thrive through much, much worse. He has his dad, who is just as much his parent as you and it'll force him to start stepping up to night comforting/give baby chance to learn that his dad can comfort him without you rushing in. Enjoy yourself!

RadioGaGoo · 17/01/2018 21:24

I must admit, I wouldn't, but I wouldn't judge you at all for doing it. Dad will be fine!

DearMrDilkington · 17/01/2018 21:24

Baby will be fine.

Have a wonderful time!

minipie · 17/01/2018 21:24

If it was you and DH going I'd be a bit doubtful but he will have his dad! gooooo!

Idontdowindows · 17/01/2018 21:25

Yes you can go. He has a parent at home to look after him. Go. Get some sleep and have some fun and some sibling chat.

clumsyduck · 17/01/2018 21:25

Oh a lot can change by the weekend hopefully be much better ! Also his dad will be with him it would be a bit different if family were baby sitting

Crunchymum · 17/01/2018 21:25

My advice is go, he'll be fine with dad (although I freely admit I probably wouldn't if it were me)

RadioGaGoo · 17/01/2018 21:25

I wish I hadn't have said 'I wouldn't' now. I have a completely different situation with a nine month old. Me saying that was irrelevant to yours. Go, go, go!

Justanotherzombie · 17/01/2018 21:26

Baby will be with dad. I think it's important for dads to be that person (who comforts and minds when sick) too sometimes. Go for it.

HumphreyCobblers · 17/01/2018 21:26

He has his dad. I would go.

DrRanjsRightEyebrow · 17/01/2018 21:26

I wouldn't myself (if still ill when it's time to go), but wouldn't judge you for doing so. If you do go, have fun!

Browntile · 17/01/2018 21:27

Go go go. Do dad some good to have some one to one bonding by the sound of things ;-). Also a sick baby with a high temp today could just be a baby with a few sniffles by Friday. Go and enjoy.

Allthewaves · 17/01/2018 21:29

I'd go. Baby is with his Dad, he's just as able to parent as you.

Newtothis2017 · 17/01/2018 21:29

Go. It will be good for baby's dad to be the parent in charge!!!! It really will be good for both of them and good for you

BubbleAndSquark · 17/01/2018 21:30

I would think baby would be over the worst of it by then its 48 hours away still. It will be good for him and his dad to have some bonding time, and you need a break and also need to be there for your family member so don't feel guilty! He's got his dad there it's not like he's with a babysitter or someone unfamiliar Smile

Absolutelynothing · 17/01/2018 21:33

I know that I wouldn't, but that's me. I wouldn't judge you for going however, dad will be there!

It is only Wednesday though, a lot can change by the weekend.

silvousplaitmerci · 17/01/2018 21:33

Oh it's hard isn't it OP? I went on a hen weekend when my DS was one and he had a bout of diarrhoea and clinginess the day before I went. My husband had him the full weekend....and I came down with the exact same thing on the hen do Angry

Just go and enjoy yourself

ememem84 · 17/01/2018 21:34

I think I’d still go if it was me.

If both you and dh were going and baby was being left with someone else maybe not. But dh will be there. Go! (And take me with you ds is being a bugger today!)

Original poster
Phuquocdreams · 17/01/2018 21:34

If it was my first baby, no problem, dh was much more involved and in fact I had unavoidably been away for a good few days with work by this age. But this baby has always been a complete mummy's boy, we've fallen into the habit of me always putting baby to bed, then having to be the one doing all night wakes...desperately needs to change before I burn out completely but damn, not on a weekend when the poor little bean is going to want his mummy. Tough on dh as well, with 2 smallies to look after. Oh fingers crossed he feels better but I know a virus has been going round and I think it's meant to linger a bit. So typical this happens now!

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Rainbowsandflowers78 · 17/01/2018 21:35

Personally I wouldn’t go

Rainbowsandflowers78 · 17/01/2018 21:36

Can you go for part?