I would really appreciate some opinions on my situation please!
Long story short, my ExH managed to convince the Child Support Agency, that he earned £32,000 per annum, when in fact his salary was £132,000.
This deception went on for 3 years, where he was paying me substantially less than he should have been (circa £500 less per month than what he should have been paying).
I knew that it was wrong, but the CSA fobbed me off! But...for various reasons, the CSA have now uncovered his deception, and have calculated a substantial arrears figure that he owes me (currently £4k, but set to rise to £12k, when they complete their investigation).
Now here's the dilemma....the children have now left home and are at Uni. So, there is no existing child support arrangement.
However, the CSA are suggesting that they arrest his wages to collect all of the historical arrears that he is due me. I would have no hesitation if the kids were still at home, but I am torn as they have left now. I'm not sure if I'm being a massive twat even wavering....but I have always been a softy. I guess it just feels a bit weird and I don't want to be viewed as a gold digger.
The current situation (for context), is that me and ExH both subsidise the kids, as their student loans don't cover rent and expenses. ExH will only ever give an equal amount to what I give them, despite him earning well over £100k per annum more than me. This I find odd, as if I was on his salary, I'd give them way more.
If you were in my shoes, would you give the CSA the go ahead to arrest his wages and get what was due, or would you just leave it?
So as not to drip feed, not sure if this is even relevant, but I left him, due to his excessive cheating, gas lighting, and a few assaults.
Sorry, that's all a bit jumbled!
I guess the crux is, that I don't want to be seen as a grabby person if I pursue this now....