AIBU

[MissingWinter]

I went to visit my friend round at hers on Thursday, we were sat together at her laptop, she went onto a particular site and started looking at some shoes and other clothing, once she had finished I took over and went to the men's section. Me DP and DS are due to go on holiday and I have been wanting to buy DP a few nice pairs of swim shorts. I see a nice pair which I liked and I was pretty sure that he would like (they were delivered today and he likes them)

As I clicked on them I said "Oh these are nice aren't they?" she just rolled her eyes, then she had a sudden outburst and said "You really make me sick why would you spend so fking much on a pair of swim shorts for him and no they're not nice I feel as if you are taking the p out of me, you want to spend that amount on s** but I don't see you giving money to people that need it"

I stayed silent because at that point I had to back track to make sure that is what she really said, and that I wasn't hearing things, before I could answer back she that she needs to go out and that I need to leave, but we were suppose to be spending the whole day together, and I had to travel pretty far to her house.

She always makes snide comments and I just ignore her, as I don't like confrontation, I haven't heard from her since and I have been wanting to call her today to apologise as she said that it felt as if I was taking the p* out of her.

Now I am thinking why should I call her and apologise? and why shouldn't I be able to spend what I like on him? Do you think I'm the one being unreasonable here?

www.farfetch.com/uk/shopping/men/gucci-bengal-print-swim-shorts-item-12023073.aspx?storeid=10648&from=listing&tglmdl=1

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She handled it badly, she was obviously surprised at £450 on a pair of swim shorts. That is hard for most people to comprehend and if you have helped her in the past then she probably did feel you were rubbing her face in it. The amount definitely changes it. Are you like this all the time? People can spend what they have on whatever they like but I must admit if I was getting by and a friend came over and dropped that money on swim shorts I would think wtf

Last post and then I'll get over myself, but blatantly spending £450 on a pair of shorts is just showing off, YABU

You both sound a bit nuts tbh.

Icanseethepigeon I posted on here to see if anyone thought I was being unreasonable, not to be accused me being a wind up, an online retail partner is a site that takes on other brands and sells them on their site.

i'm out. Overkill.

geekone yes those are the swimshorts.

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£450 on an item of clothing is fucking nuts.

What on earth do you do for a living that allows you that level of disposable income?

£450 is my mortgage for the month... I'd be pretty disgusted if you were my friend showing me that!

I wouldn't react how your friend did, but I'd be jealous of your surplus income and feel like you were rubbing it in my face to show me (even if you didn't intend to)

Well op, your friend was right, those shorts are fucking hideous

Yes, well. I'm out too.

She's not a friend and imo the chucking you out was a control thing

PatriciaHolm I have changed my username but this thread is not the reason for me doing that.

I need to see the shorts - link please

£450 for a pair of hideous swimming shorts? That's 3 weeks rent for me. If she had disclosed to you that she was struggling to pay the bills and making it to the end of the month and then you wanted to spend that amount of money of those monstrosities then I can understand why she would be upset. She didn't go about it the right way but I think there's more to this than you realise

What have her previous 'snide comments' been about? Does she generally feel you're insensitive towards her financial situation?

I will not be accused me telling lies or making things up, I posted on here for opinions on whether I was being unreasonable or not.

I think I have got the answer I want

I like the shorts.