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MissingWinter · 22/07/2017 22:07

I went to visit my friend round at hers on Thursday, we were sat together at her laptop, she went onto a particular site and started looking at some shoes and other clothing, once she had finished I took over and went to the men's section. Me DP and DS are due to go on holiday and I have been wanting to buy DP a few nice pairs of swim shorts. I see a nice pair which I liked and I was pretty sure that he would like (they were delivered today and he likes them)

As I clicked on them I said "Oh these are nice aren't they?" she just rolled her eyes, then she had a sudden outburst and said "You really make me sick why would you spend so fking much on a pair of swim shorts for him and no they're not nice I feel as if you are taking the p out of me, you want to spend that amount on s** but I don't see you giving money to people that need it"

I stayed silent because at that point I had to back track to make sure that is what she really said, and that I wasn't hearing things, before I could answer back she that she needs to go out and that I need to leave, but we were suppose to be spending the whole day together, and I had to travel pretty far to her house.

She always makes snide comments and I just ignore her, as I don't like confrontation, I haven't heard from her since and I have been wanting to call her today to apologise as she said that it felt as if I was taking the p* out of her.

Now I am thinking why should I call her and apologise? and why shouldn't I be able to spend what I like on him? Do you think I'm the one being unreasonable here?

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Fruitcocktail6 · 22/07/2017 23:07

At first I thought she was BU but I would personally not be friends with someone who spent £450 on swim shorts. Or who did online shopping for their DP while spending the day with me.

Slinkymalinky1 · 22/07/2017 23:07

You don't need carpets.....do you? Grin

Fruitcocktail6 · 22/07/2017 23:07

You dont have to be broke to think £450 on swim shorts is insane.

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MissingWinter · 22/07/2017 23:08

Butteredparsnip1ps I did not buy the shorts in front of her, she practically kicked me out 3 minutes later. I don't think she is jealous but she is always making snide comments which she never apologies for.

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WorraLiberty · 22/07/2017 23:10

The shorts where £450

Hahahahahahahaha! And you made a point of showing them to her? Grin

Quite apart from anything else, I'd think my friends had taken leave of their senses if they were A.) Buying their adult husbands clothes for them and B.) If they thought I was interested in what their adult husbands were wearing on their holiday.

And that's before we get to the actual price Grin

StickThatInYourPipe · 22/07/2017 23:10

What does she make the snide comments about OP?

chocatoo · 22/07/2017 23:13

I suspect that she was upset at your lack of tact. Surely you can see that's a lot of money to spend on such an item and to do so in front of someone struggling for funds is tactless.

AnathemaPulsifer · 22/07/2017 23:13

My best mate buys all sorts of designer gear in front of me. I think it's bonkers but it's not offensive or tactless because I could afford to spend more money on clothes myself if I chose. OP was hugely tactless.

chipscheeseandgravy · 22/07/2017 23:14

£450 is more than my mortgage per month Grin and I live in a good sized 3 bed 😂.
If that's your normal pattern of spending that's fair enough, if she's just mentioned how she's struggling for cash and you then start buying those monstrosities then that's taking the piss and her response would be fair enough.
By the way - those shorts are bloody hideous Confused

ilovesooty · 22/07/2017 23:18

I can't believe someone really spends that amount of money on swim shorts and rubs it in someone else's face. Yes she might have been rude but I'm wondering if you make a habit of showing off.

AnUtterIdiot · 22/07/2017 23:20

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MissingWinter · 22/07/2017 23:21

Slinkymalinky1 An Irish guy once asked me that question, I don't understand why that question is being asked by you. In terms of snide comments she is always saying that "some of us have to work for our money" etc, she is not unemployed she has a job. In answer to the price of the swimshorts I do not particularly see the purchase as a large sum of money, I understand that it may be to other people.

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StickThatInYourPipe · 22/07/2017 23:22

If she is making comments like that op I am thinking your wealth is often pushed into her face.

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MissingWinter · 22/07/2017 23:26

I don't see her regularly because we live far apart, I always invite her round but she never wants to come, but we speak on the phone a lot.

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YouTheCat · 22/07/2017 23:27

Holy fuck! Why couldn't you just note the website and then buy them once you were at home? She'd have been none the wiser. and they look so shittily crap and I don't care if they're Gucci

Teaformeplease · 22/07/2017 23:29

You definitely can't buy class! I wouldn't spend £4.50 on those fugly shorts.
Unless your friend has the same amount of money to waste YADBU.

PaulAnkaTheDog · 22/07/2017 23:29

They are fucking hideous. I'd suggest spending that money on replacing the skanky carpet in the nursery.

FormerlyFrikadela01 · 22/07/2017 23:31

In answer to the price of the swimshorts I do not particularly see the purchase as a large sum of money, I understand that it may be to other people.

And here is you answer to her snide comments and behaviour. You clearly don't know the value of money which tells me you've probably always had. I'm prepared to be corrected though.
Even most people that could easily afford a £450 pair of shorts would still consider it a lot of money to pay for shorts. The fact you don't see it as a lot of money speaks volumes.

peachgreen · 22/07/2017 23:32

This is my favourite dripfeed of all time. £450 for the world's ugliest swimming shorts. Goodness me.

OP your friend was definitely rude, but she was also right. That's a ridiculous amount of money, and very braggy to talk about buying them in front of someone, unless you're all millionaires (and even then it's still a bit tacky!).

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MissingWinter · 22/07/2017 23:33

PaulAnkaTheDog huh? you really think I am someone else? my child is not of nursery age I see the troll hunters are really out in their forces tonight.

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user1495025590 · 22/07/2017 23:33

If you havem't got enough to make ends meet, it is horrible-it preys on your mind 24/7. It would be really incentive to practically burn money in front of her like that.Not much better than that Oxbridge tory-boy burning notes in front of the homeless man

Fattywattyswalkofshame · 22/07/2017 23:33

They are horriffic and I think you did it to show off.

They only time I have ever used someone elses laptop/ipad to purchase spmething is if we were booking a holiday together.

I would have thrown you out for your poor taste alone.

Only1scoop · 22/07/2017 23:37

Crass and grim

JaniceBattersby · 22/07/2017 23:38

Was it you who upset another friend when you bought a pair of Hermes mittens for your newborn? If so, YABU, again.

feral · 22/07/2017 23:38

You're batshit if you would spend £450 on shorts!

That would be the point where I'd ditch you too.l to be honest.