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Ds has forgotten its own clothes day at school and is there in his uniform. Am I unreasonable not to take some clothes in for him to change into

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hmcAsWas · 14/07/2017 09:03

I should point out we live rurally some 17 miles from school and it is a 1 hour round trip.

I have already driven him and his sister in this morning - he didn't realise until we got to the school gates and he saw his mates. I reminded him about it yesterday but he'd forgotten by this morning, and it wasn't on my radar as I had already told him.

He is in Y8. There are a couple of other boys that I spotted that had forgotten. They looked as forlorn as him. He is bound to be the subject of 'banter' from his peers, and I know that he will hate this (he can be oversensitive)

I don't feel that I should not have to waste another hour of my morning driving in and also that he should own his mistakes...but I also feel guilty for not driving in Sad

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Notsosureanymoors · 14/07/2017 09:04

Brutal. I'd take clothes in.

hmcAsWas · 14/07/2017 09:04

Oops double negative in last sentence - should read "I don't feel that I should have to waste..."

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caffeinestream · 14/07/2017 09:04

No way would I drive that far! If it was round the corner, I would say it would be kind to drop it in, but not when you'd have to drive ninety minutes to get home, go back to school and drive home again.

hmcAsWas · 14/07/2017 09:05

Really? Even though its a 34 mile return journey?

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Madbum · 14/07/2017 09:05

He'll be fine, it's only one day and it will remind him for next time.
It's tempting to 'bail them out' when things like this happen (forgotten pe kits/homework etc.) but they'll never learn for themselves if they don't feel the consequences.

Dancinginthemidnight · 14/07/2017 09:05

I would take them in. Why didn't you remind him this morning?

TheSnowFairy · 14/07/2017 09:05

I live 10 mins away and would do this but an hour? No way.

He'll live.

showergel1 · 14/07/2017 09:05

I wouldn't. He's already done the hard part arriving in school in uniform. After that people stop noticing.
He'll remember next time.

arsenicistheanswer · 14/07/2017 09:05

I'd go. I do realise that's not popular in MN, but I would do it if I could.

Smallangryplanet · 14/07/2017 09:06

Too late now. The worst bit would have been going in and that's over now.

caffeinestream · 14/07/2017 09:06

Really @Notsosureanymoors you'd drive 90 minutes (drive home, plus another round trip to school) just to make sure your 13 year old wasn't in uniform for one day?

thisismadness77 · 14/07/2017 09:06

I wouldn't go back when it's so far. The others will have seen him now, he might as well ride it out.

Shoxfordian · 14/07/2017 09:06

He'll be fine

He'll definitely remember next time

cantthinkofagoodone24 · 14/07/2017 09:07

Depends what else you are doing.

I would - I think it would be kind. But then he won't learn from mistake.

Equally he is still young and you also forgot this morning...

PantPlot · 14/07/2017 09:07

No way

Longdistance · 14/07/2017 09:08

No, don't. He needs to learn that he can't be bailed out. If there are others there, he'll be in good company.

Bokky · 14/07/2017 09:08

To be honest, I'd probably do it!

PantPlot · 14/07/2017 09:08

He's Y8. I bet he'd feel equally as daft getting changed now anyway

Floggingmolly · 14/07/2017 09:09

I'd do it. I wouldn't take the morning off work to do it; but if you're just sitting at home on Mumsnet...

KoalaDownUnder · 14/07/2017 09:10

No, I wouldn't.

It's pointless as he's likely to get even more hassle for getting changed mid-morning.

isupposeitsverynice · 14/07/2017 09:10

I did this for my son a couple of times in primary school, but we didn't live far from the school. I'd not be doing a 90m trip for own clothes for a 13 year old, no way. He'll remember the next one himself this way

BertrandRussell · 14/07/2017 09:10

People don't learn from mistakes. They do, however, learn from the kindnesses they are shown.


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hmcAsWas · 14/07/2017 09:11

"and you also forgot this morning..."

Yes but it wasn't up to me to remember for him was it? Its not like he is 7 years old.....surely?

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beelover · 14/07/2017 09:12

Another one here who would take clothes in too.

Writerwannabe83 · 14/07/2017 09:13

I can see why you wouldn't.

But how on earth did you not notice he was in his school uniform this morning when you knew it was an 'own clothes' day?

I think I'd probably take something in for him to be honest.

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