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Ds has forgotten its own clothes day at school and is there in his uniform. Am I unreasonable not to take some clothes in for him to change into

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hmcAsWas · 14/07/2017 09:03

I should point out we live rurally some 17 miles from school and it is a 1 hour round trip.

I have already driven him and his sister in this morning - he didn't realise until we got to the school gates and he saw his mates. I reminded him about it yesterday but he'd forgotten by this morning, and it wasn't on my radar as I had already told him.

He is in Y8. There are a couple of other boys that I spotted that had forgotten. They looked as forlorn as him. He is bound to be the subject of 'banter' from his peers, and I know that he will hate this (he can be oversensitive)

I don't feel that I should not have to waste another hour of my morning driving in and also that he should own his mistakes...but I also feel guilty for not driving in Sad

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Notsosureanymoors · 14/07/2017 09:04

Brutal. I'd take clothes in.

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hmcAsWas · 14/07/2017 09:04

Oops double negative in last sentence - should read "I don't feel that I should have to waste..."

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caffeinestream · 14/07/2017 09:04

No way would I drive that far! If it was round the corner, I would say it would be kind to drop it in, but not when you'd have to drive ninety minutes to get home, go back to school and drive home again.

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hmcAsWas · 14/07/2017 09:05

Really? Even though its a 34 mile return journey?

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Madbum · 14/07/2017 09:05

He'll be fine, it's only one day and it will remind him for next time.
It's tempting to 'bail them out' when things like this happen (forgotten pe kits/homework etc.) but they'll never learn for themselves if they don't feel the consequences.

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Dancinginthemidnight · 14/07/2017 09:05

I would take them in. Why didn't you remind him this morning?

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TheSnowFairy · 14/07/2017 09:05

I live 10 mins away and would do this but an hour? No way.

He'll live.

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showergel1 · 14/07/2017 09:05

I wouldn't. He's already done the hard part arriving in school in uniform. After that people stop noticing.
He'll remember next time.

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arsenicistheanswer · 14/07/2017 09:05

I'd go. I do realise that's not popular in MN, but I would do it if I could.

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Smallangryplanet · 14/07/2017 09:06

Too late now. The worst bit would have been going in and that's over now.

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caffeinestream · 14/07/2017 09:06

Really @Notsosureanymoors you'd drive 90 minutes (drive home, plus another round trip to school) just to make sure your 13 year old wasn't in uniform for one day?

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thisismadness77 · 14/07/2017 09:06

I wouldn't go back when it's so far. The others will have seen him now, he might as well ride it out.

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Shoxfordian · 14/07/2017 09:06

He'll be fine

He'll definitely remember next time

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cantthinkofagoodone24 · 14/07/2017 09:07

Depends what else you are doing.

I would - I think it would be kind. But then he won't learn from mistake.

Equally he is still young and you also forgot this morning...

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PantPlot · 14/07/2017 09:07

No way

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Longdistance · 14/07/2017 09:08

No, don't. He needs to learn that he can't be bailed out. If there are others there, he'll be in good company.

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Bokky · 14/07/2017 09:08

To be honest, I'd probably do it!

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PantPlot · 14/07/2017 09:08

He's Y8. I bet he'd feel equally as daft getting changed now anyway

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Floggingmolly · 14/07/2017 09:09

I'd do it. I wouldn't take the morning off work to do it; but if you're just sitting at home on Mumsnet...

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KoalaDownUnder · 14/07/2017 09:10

No, I wouldn't.

It's pointless as he's likely to get even more hassle for getting changed mid-morning.

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isupposeitsverynice · 14/07/2017 09:10

I did this for my son a couple of times in primary school, but we didn't live far from the school. I'd not be doing a 90m trip for own clothes for a 13 year old, no way. He'll remember the next one himself this way

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BertrandRussell · 14/07/2017 09:10

People don't learn from mistakes. They do, however, learn from the kindnesses they are shown.

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hmcAsWas · 14/07/2017 09:11

"and you also forgot this morning..."

Yes but it wasn't up to me to remember for him was it? Its not like he is 7 years old.....surely?

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beelover · 14/07/2017 09:12

Another one here who would take clothes in too.

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Writerwannabe83 · 14/07/2017 09:13

I can see why you wouldn't.

But how on earth did you not notice he was in his school uniform this morning when you knew it was an 'own clothes' day?

I think I'd probably take something in for him to be honest.

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