Ds has forgotten its own clothes day at school and is there in his uniform. Am I unreasonable not to take some clothes in for him to change into

[hmcAsWas]

I should point out we live rurally some 17 miles from school and it is a 1 hour round trip.

I have already driven him and his sister in this morning - he didn't realise until we got to the school gates and he saw his mates. I reminded him about it yesterday but he'd forgotten by this morning, and it wasn't on my radar as I had already told him.

He is in Y8. There are a couple of other boys that I spotted that had forgotten. They looked as forlorn as him. He is bound to be the subject of 'banter' from his peers, and I know that he will hate this (he can be oversensitive)

I don't feel that I should not have to waste another hour of my morning driving in and also that he should own his mistakes...but I also feel guilty for not driving in

[steppemum]

no. Too far.
But even if it was roudn the corner I probably wouldn't. By year 8 they need to remember stuff for themselves.

ds had to go in in winter uniform last week as photographers were coming in. Each time an email arrived I told him, and the day before, but on the morning I forgot.
he remembered because it was in his planner, so when he packed his bag he saw it.

If he had forgotten, I wouldn't have bailed him out.

The worst bit is arriving at school. Now they all know, ribbing over, and if Mummy turns up with some clothes he will get a second ribbing over Mummy bringing clothes to school

[Notsosureanymoors]

This is hard i find it brutal but i only have a 11 week old baby haha so to me of course I'd rather just take clothes in. Now I've seen all the replies i think actually yeah he'll live. I remember this happening when i was at school and the boys that came in uniform used to just style it out and loved the banter so hopefully he'll just do that. Plus i live in a city so didn't really think about such a long journey.

[pasanda]

I wouldn't. I have a yr 8 dd. I live half an hour from the school. If I had already taken them in there is not a chance I would drive back for that reason. I have done numerous return journeys for forgotten items (cookery stuff, trainers, phone chargers if going to their dads for the weekend!!) and am quite soft when it comes to things like that, but I wouldn't for this. By the time you get back again, it will be too late anyway and the school day will just be getting on with (does that even make sense!!!)

[oldtrees]

I'd go.

[EdmundCleverClogs]

If he was in year 9+, I'd say 'you're a teen now, you need to learn to remember these things, it's tough'. I remember year 8 though, I personally still felt like a small fry and would have been really embarrassed to draw attention to myself in that way. I'd take a change of clothes, but I'd be very firm in 'you're growing up now, if this sort of thing happens again then you'll just have to deal with it.'.

[Mothervulva]

He can't be that bothered if he forgot, I used to plan my clothes for non uniform day for weeks in advance.

[PunjanaTea]

Of course people learn from mistakes. What on earth are you talking about bertandrussell.

If I forget something, I learn that I need to do things that will help me remember such as checking my bag before I leave, putting things out the night before, I could go on.

[PunjanaTea]

I can't believe how many people would go. He'll be fine, don't bother.

[JumpyCastle]

I wouldn't for year 8, damage has been done anyway.

There's always one or two.

[AntiopeofThemyscira]

I would take clothes. I didn't realise once when DD started a new school. We arrived and saw own clothes so we turned round and went home to get changed. She was late but it was worth it to her.

[HipsterHunter]

Nah, its too late now it won't do any good to take his clothes in.

He'll have to brave it out.

[WindwardCircle]

would he feel even more embarrassed by his mum turning up mid morning with a change of clothes? By the time you get there the initial 'ha ha, xxx forgot it was own clothes day' will be over and the school day will be in full swing. I'd leave it, it'll be a life lesson for him to be more organised next time.

[KoalaDownUnder]

The worst bit is arriving at school. Now they all know, ribbing over, and if Mummy turns up with some clothes he will get a second ribbing over Mummy bringing clothes to school

Yes, this. I honestly think it will backfire.

[HipsterHunter]

It will draw MORE attention to him self having mummy bring his clothes in and getting changed.

[Sashkin]

By the time you get home, pack clothes and get back to school it will be gone 11. So he'll be changing at lunchtime. Seems really pointless to me.

[YouTheCat]

Not a hope in hell, even if it was around the corner.

It'd be even more embarrassing to have a parent turn up mid-morning with a change of clothes and then all the kids knowing that not only had you forgotten but your mummy had rushed around after you.

It won't hurt for him to realise he needs to be a bit more organised and if it was that important to him I'm sure he would have remembered.

[Smartiepants79]

He's 13. I wouldn't be going that distance I don't think.
At what point to you expect them to be responsible for themselves and their lives.
I've got a 11 yr old in my class currently. He is forever forgetting his lunch/kit/homework... mainly because mummy keeps enabling him and running into school at the drop of a hat.
He goes to secondary next year, 30 mile round trip. It's going to be a steep learning curve....

[JamesSpaderMadeMeDoIt]

I'd take them.

I'm in my late 30s and still remember the humiliation of having the wrong colour pumps for PE.

He's learnt his lesson and he's not going to forget again.

[AntiopeofThemyscira]

People don't learn from mistakes. They do, however, learn from the kindnesses they are shown.

Couldn't agree more with this.

[gemsandstones]

Don't do it. It'll be worse mum bringing his change of clothes in. They'd have all forgotten he's not in mufti by now.

[mrsm43s]

I wouldn't take clothes in.

I would have taken responsibility for reminding him in the morning that it was own clothes day, though.

[Alittlepotofrosie]

I wouldn't and my mum wouldn't have either when i was at school. Maybe if he was primary age. What age do kids have to start taking responsibility for remembering things for themselves? It's not going to kill him to be in uniform and he would never forget again.

[thereallochnessmonster]

Year 8! No. He needs to remember for himself - unless he has SN.

But if I had remembered - it would be in my diary - I would have reminded him this morning!

[RainbowPastel]

I would go in a heartbeat.