AIBU to think 18 year old DD could get the shopping delivery in?

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Hi, I'm willing to hear I'm BU (I'm not one of those ) so be as honest as possible.

I have a food shopping delivery coming tomorrow (a rather large one at that) but something has come up and I can't be in the house. However, DD will be home all day. She's 18. I asked her if she'd be okay getting it in and she said she'd rather not. She says she has never done it before, etc. AIBU to think it's fine to expect her to do it? Obviously if she won't, I'll have to change it. Is it something your 18 year olds would be happy to do?

What exactly is it she can't do? Bring the shopping in from the front door?

My 14 year old does this regularly, without comment, as long as there's no alcohol.

Why can't she do it? It's literally just putting the stuff away isn't it?

At 18 I'd lived in another country alone (but on a flat-share if you know what I mean).

Is she never going to move out or buy herself anything on line ???

It's something my seven year old can do.

Unless there are sen issues why on earth couldn't an adult put some shopping away

Presumably she'll be eating the food too? If she's home all day, I would have told her she needs to get the shopping in, not asked her if it's ok.

I'd be unimpressed if DS (17 ) refused. It is a nuisance to have to put a big shop away, but one of those necessary jobs you just have to get on with.

she can't answer the door and put the shopping in the kitchen?! and she's 18?

unless there's a huge back story here she us definitely being U!

I know people are probably going to say you're crazy and that an 18 year old is more than capable however at 18 I was really socially nervous and answering the door to a delivery man sent me into almost a melt down. It's something I've overcome now I have my own home and family but at the time it was a big thing. If this is why then YABU however if she just can't be arsed YANBU

Does 'I'd rather not' simply mean 'I can't be arsed?'

Cos I'd rather not do a lot of things.

My toddler helps to bring the food in!

If your 18 year old can't bring in and put away a shopping delivery then surely that's down to your parenting?

She's a bloody adult, what would she do if she lived alone?

Is there more to this?! She's being ridiculous

however at 18 I was really socially nervous and answering the door to a delivery man sent me into almost a melt down.

If this is the reason then it's understandable. If it's not I'm baffled unless I've missed something about this potential situation.

Im baffled by your question . Why on earth cant she take some bags of food from a delivery driver and put the food away?

Is she incapable of other normal tasks?

Is this a serious thread?

What's her problem with it? That she'll have to put it away/talk to the delivery person/be out of bed at a certain time/ what? Just tell her to or no food

Bugger that. I just tell mine it's coming and expect them to get on with it. They're going to eat it, after all.

I do have to remember to take the wine off of it's the 16 yo not the 18 yo though.

Oh gosh! I didn't even say she needed to put it away, only that she needed to put the frozen bits away. She says she doesn't want the whole hassle of speaking to the person and trying to get it to fit in the hall way while they hand it over to her

I don't know if I should feel pleased I'm not BU or sad that she can't even do it and your 14 year olds can!!

Bear in mind that if there's any booze (or solvents, or cutlery) in the order she may need documentary proof of age to accept delivery. But as long as her passport is to hand it should be within the ability of a normal 18 year old.

Does she suffer from anxiety?

I put shopping away from parents when I was small, but when I was suffering from anxiety I would have felt really nervous about answering the door to a delivery driver and going through the social interaction of it. However, I would have done it for my mum if she gave instructions.

I don't have an 18 year old, I have a 10 year old. But I think even he would be capable of receiving and putting away the shopping. (Though I don't leave him home alone).
Why don't you ask her what she's worried about - is it querying weird substitutes or something?
Unfortunately life is one whole series of things you've never done before - part of being grown up is being able to cope with new experiences.

Good grief. My dc aged 9 to 12 all do this regularly.

We're overseas & use an app which involves groceries being dropped in a locked box to our front door. Emptying the Goodsmart box is a regular job they fight over because it's an easy pre school chore hence Brownie points when a less desirable job needs doing!

Honestly, I'd be telling my child (of any age over about 7) that the food doesn't walk to the fridge by itself.

So all she has to do if she's feeling incredibly lazy and you are going to let her get away with it is to open the door and put any frozen/refrigerated stuff into the freezer/fridge as you could put the rest away when you get home... Unless she has a disability you have failed to mention she is being ridiculous.
Me and my brother used to bring the shopping in from the car and put it away from about age ten, before that mom would get us to carry a lighter bag in while she did the rest. YANBU, she can accept the delivery and put the shopping away it won't kill her.