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AIBU?

To tell neighbour no?

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TheRugbyValkyrie · 12/06/2017 01:22

My neighbour popped round at about 12:45 today to ask us to turn the music off. I told him no.
Background - my 20 year old DS popped to the shop for me before going to meet friends. When he got back he pulled up outside, left the engine running and music on. When he opened the door I could hear his music. As he was in a rush, I helped him sort out a packed lunch. We has just finished when there was a knock on the front door. I opened it (and could once again hear the music) and it was my neighbour. He asked me to turn the music off or down. I said no, that it was the middle of the day and you couldn't hear the music inside or only faintly if the windows were open. He got quite huffy, said that it was too loud and he was only asking politely.
While this was going on DS had gone out the back door and was going back to his car, total time at home, less than 10 minutes.
I said to him that his wife had previously complained (in the middle of the afternoon) and that I said the same thing to her. It was the middle of the day and they were BU.
I know my response has been influenced by the fact that the guy does all his loud gardening jobs on a Sunday afternoon, which drives me up the wall, but I don't say anything. Oh and he always parks in my parking spot.
Was I BU to tell him to stuff his request?

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Whaddayado · 14/06/2017 20:34

Wait until you're in a really good mood, then go round to your neighbours to apologise. Explain that you are wondering if it might have been unreasonable, and just tell him everything he wants to hear.
Then suggest that maybe he could consider reducing the use of power tools on Sunday.
If you both agree to reduce the amount of noise you make, you could foster a respectful relationship and live in a slightly more peaceful neighbourhood.
win win!
Peace out x

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Whaddayado · 14/06/2017 20:40

Using power tools, lawn mowers etc on Sunday is illegal in Swizerland

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Jeanneweany · 15/06/2017 22:27

I didnt think AIBU was a trial. Thought it was fun? So serious. Plus many responses are repeated by others and am amused by the outrage over things.

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Jeanneweany · 15/06/2017 22:35

Notyoda. I already said I read posts and yes some responses run into thousands. I go off fact. Proven to be wrong by who? You? How do you prove something from an untested source. It is not compelling evidence posting on mumsnet. I mean come on. Plus other posts are personal opinion, like mine. I address my answers to the OP. You can ignore me if you wish.

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SoupDragon · 16/06/2017 06:04

Proven to be wrong by who? You?

Often by the OP whose responses people cant be arsed to read.

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BoysofMelody · 16/06/2017 06:10

Seems the apple doesn't fall far from the selfish and inconsiderate behaviour tree.

If he'd left his car with the music pounding and the key in the ignition and after having made a polite request to turn the racket down, If I were the neighbour I'd have been tempted to hop in, and then doughnut the car on your front lawn, for 20 minutes.

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Deejoda · 16/06/2017 10:45

Why didn't the neighbour just ask the 20 year old driver who was clearly still there? Weird!

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TheRugbyValkyrie · 17/06/2017 21:30

@PidgeonSpray - the apology went well. I took half a dozen eggs from from the girls and apologise for the way I had spoken to him. He asked if there was anything that he had done to upset me and I mentioned the three consecutive Sundays of chainsaw & woodchipper. He apologiseed for that.
All good. his little ones are coming for a chicken visit tomorrow. It has taught me to raise issues when they arise and not sit here fuming.
Could have done without the name calling and assumptions that I am some sort of evil neighbour from hell. It's the first time in 7 years there has been a problem. I have always spoken to neighbours if there might be noise and followed it up with a visit during the relevant occasion to check.

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Aridane · 17/06/2017 22:49

Well done, OP!

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zeeboo · 17/06/2017 23:00

I live next to people like you and your son. It is deeply unpleasant and they clearly have never, ever been taught what consideration is. It doesn't matter what time of day it is, if it is non essential, i.e. Mowing the lawn, children playing then it's a noise nuisance and you are being a bad neighbour.