To tell neighbour no?

[TheRugbyValkyrie]

My neighbour popped round at about 12:45 today to ask us to turn the music off. I told him no.
Background - my 20 year old DS popped to the shop for me before going to meet friends. When he got back he pulled up outside, left the engine running and music on. When he opened the door I could hear his music. As he was in a rush, I helped him sort out a packed lunch. We has just finished when there was a knock on the front door. I opened it (and could once again hear the music) and it was my neighbour. He asked me to turn the music off or down. I said no, that it was the middle of the day and you couldn't hear the music inside or only faintly if the windows were open. He got quite huffy, said that it was too loud and he was only asking politely.
While this was going on DS had gone out the back door and was going back to his car, total time at home, less than 10 minutes.
I said to him that his wife had previously complained (in the middle of the afternoon) and that I said the same thing to her. It was the middle of the day and they were BU.
I know my response has been influenced by the fact that the guy does all his loud gardening jobs on a Sunday afternoon, which drives me up the wall, but I don't say anything. Oh and he always parks in my parking spot.
Was I BU to tell him to stuff his request?

[BeautyQueenFromMars]

I'm a bit worried by the distinct lack of reading comprehension displayed by a large proportion of the posters on this thread...

[Chickoletta]

Antisocial, dickish behaviour from both you and your son.

[NotYoda]

Beauty

Oh, you assume they've read the stuff

[Yellowbird54321]

Cancel the cheque!

[CheeseQueen]

I have RTFT - was just replying to the bit that was addressed to me

[AwaywiththePixies27]

Is mowing your garden on a Sunday afternoon considered a nuisance now?

Shit that means I get to yell at practically most of my street then

You can't really compare gardening activity to constant music blaring, and why in the name of all the saints is he parking 100metres away?

[Delilah21D00LoT]

"I said no, that it was the middle of the day and you couldn't hear the music inside or only faintly if the windows were open. He got quite huffy, said that it was too loud and he was only asking politely."

But clearly he could hear the music and must have been louder than 'faintly' otherwise he'd not have come around. Maybe you are unaware of how loud the music actually is?
I'm sure it wouldn't be a problem to turn your music down a bit - really.

[LauderSyme]

You refused to turn down music that no one was listening to but that was disturbing the one person who could hear it then ask AIBU?

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Glad to read your update OP, I think that's a good response from you. I hope you find a way to mend fences, I'm sure an apology would go a long way.

I'm afraid you and your family have allowed yourselves to be incredibly inconsiderate neighbours. Other posters have expressed just how most vividly.

To those of you (SoupDragon et al) pointing out the OP's reconsideration and remorse, and urging people to RTFT...

Actually I think it might be rather good for Valkyrie to read the dominant opinion here, and several more pages may give her the chance to fully absorb it

[Mumoftwoandover]

Yes !!! YABVU !
Respect your neighbours!
I have such a nightmare neighbour like that, that whenever I think I will have a restfull quiet day he will be there with his stupid music on the loudest volume as possible, and even worst is that his taste for music is horrible !!!

So please try to learn some manners and teach them to your son too !

[AtHomeDadGlos]

Neighbour should've just taken the keys and tossed them under the car. That would've solved the problem.

[fuckwitery]

YABVU. Jesus wept. No wonder your DS has no idea what's neighbourly behaviour.

[user1489675144]

YABU

I am amazed that you had to ask.

Hopefully the neighbour will remove car keys and drop down nearest drain next time car engine left running, polluting environment with no driver present. A second to switch engine off and take key out. Lazy and stupid.

[Ceto]

Please, please people, RTFT. Or just the OPs posts. What on earth is the point in ranting on about how unreasonable she is when she acknowledged it ages ago and has sorted it out?

[PidgeonSpray]

How did the apology go OP?

[manicmij]

Your son left car with engine running!!!! For ten minutes???? He has committed a massive dangerous motoring offence doing that alone without even considering the noise issue. You seem to be very defensive of anything that happens due to your household but unaccepting of anyone else's actions.

[Ceto]

manicmj, try reading the thread before saying OP is unaccepting?

And maybe you should cancel the cheque.

[GabsAlot]

i know th op is aplogising just to say your ds leaving kys in ignition will invalidate his insurance

[Jeanneweany]

Your son is 20 and they do daft things. But everyone has to be considerate. Wtf sorry what am i saying. Cut the plugs of the ndn gardening equipment. What a twat

[Jeanneweany]

Ps so sick of mn police wanking on about reading threads. Not if there are thousands of responses. Who else reads the initial post then a few replies. Then all the further posts from person plus a few replies? Then ignores the other 9800 posts??? Or am i a slow reader?

[Abra1d]

I don't wouldn't let my two do this. The engine off. Radio off.

[Whatsername17]

Antisocial behaviour doesn't only occur between 11pm and 6am. Ywbvu

[SoupDragon]

Not if there are thousands of responses

There are rarely thousands of responses from the OP. Just reading those will give you an idea whether they've admitted they were unreasonable. It's really not hard.

Actually, there can never ever be thousands of responses at all.

[NotYoda]

Jeanneway

Then you run the risk of saying things that are totally redundant. Or asking questions that have already been asked, or making assumptions that are already proved to be wrong.

And why should anyone listen to you when you can't be arsed to listen to them?

Just at least read the OP's highlighted posts