My neighbour popped round at about 12:45 today to ask us to turn the music off. I told him no.
Background - my 20 year old DS popped to the shop for me before going to meet friends. When he got back he pulled up outside, left the engine running and music on. When he opened the door I could hear his music. As he was in a rush, I helped him sort out a packed lunch. We has just finished when there was a knock on the front door. I opened it (and could once again hear the music) and it was my neighbour. He asked me to turn the music off or down. I said no, that it was the middle of the day and you couldn't hear the music inside or only faintly if the windows were open. He got quite huffy, said that it was too loud and he was only asking politely.
While this was going on DS had gone out the back door and was going back to his car, total time at home, less than 10 minutes.
I said to him that his wife had previously complained (in the middle of the afternoon) and that I said the same thing to her. It was the middle of the day and they were BU.
I know my response has been influenced by the fact that the guy does all his loud gardening jobs on a Sunday afternoon, which drives me up the wall, but I don't say anything. Oh and he always parks in my parking spot.
Was I BU to tell him to stuff his request?
AIBU?
To tell neighbour no?
TheRugbyValkyrie · 12/06/2017 01:22
To all the people who are sayng that the OP ds is dim to have left the engine running
I hope you arent the same people who also leave their engine running in the am to defrost the windscreen. As so many people seem to do (and is seen as a totally ormal thing to do on MN).
He was ou of the car for 10mins.
I'm 
that the neighbourgh couldnt cope with 10mins of music that couldnt be heard inside tbh.
Which makes me think there is much more to it than the two incidents with the music.
Rather i suspect that, just oike the OP, there are plenty of things that annoy them (remember the other neighbourgh did complain about some stuff, even though it wasnt the music) but they never went to see them.
So Im guessing the music is just the tip of the iceberg.
I'm that the neighbourgh couldnt cope with 10mins of music that couldnt be heard inside tbh. Well the neighbours could hear it, whether inside or out it is not acceptable to play your music so loud that it disturbs the neighbours, just inconsiderate, to be honest.
Also, did you read the op's posts where she has also previously said no to the neighbours wife? And where the op herself has had to ask her son to turn the music down as it was on too loud for too long? And where they have pool parties?
Did you miss that? This doesn't sound like a one off where the neighbour went running as soon as the ds left the car!
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Your DS does realise that he is not insured if someone steals his car with the keys in it, I assume.
This sounds as ridiculous as one of my neighbours, who in a similar dispute re car stereo volume with another neighbour argued that as his stereo is a "factory fitted standard stereo, he can play it as loud as he likes" . This particular offender has had previous warnings off the local constabulary when he had very large and booming bass speakers in a previous vehicle!
Your DS was being very unreasonable to leave his music playing and you were equally unreasonable to defend him.
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