OH has fallen out with me and I feel wretched

[CabbagePatchKid91]

Full disclosure: I have a 16 day old baby so am feeling super emotional.
My auntie made us some bunting for the baby's room. It's really lovely. She is coming to see us this weekend so I thought it would be nice to put the bunting up. I researched to find the best way to put the bunting up without the paint coming off the wall.
We got some hooks that stick on. OH stuck them up and tied the bunting on. The hook came off and took the paint with it . We don't have any of the nursery paint to cover it. OH is furious. Won't speak to me. Told me that I've spoiled the nursery. I'm going to go get a tester in the morning to cover it up but he's not talking to me now and I feel like howling. I feel awful. He's had such a hard day at work after the baby kept us up all night.
How can I fix this?

Those hook that stick on are useless, get cup hooks instead.

I have no idea why your partner's being so horrible over an innocent mistake. Has he got form?

Er... he's being a dick.

It was an accident! It's not your fault and seriously you just had a baby literally 5 minutes ago and the last thing you should be doing is wasting your time to appease his mood. Let him sort himself out and focus on this new phase of your life right now - motherhood. Bloody heck what's wrong with him. It's bloody fucking paint.

Why is he overreacting like this? Is he usually so difficult?

He´s being horrible. This kind of thing happens. It isn´t a big deal. Tomorrow you can get the tester and fix it up. I suggest ignoring him until he stops being a dick and starts behaving like an adult.

You need to be kind to eachother and kind to yourself.

He is being a dick. You didnt mean to do it. Buy i wouldnt get shitty with him eitger over being a dick.

A new baby throws everything up in the air. Everyone is knackered emotional and grouchy

He needs to calm down and be kinder to you too.

I am sorry but your OH is being ridiculous. I understand it's tough when you are all sleep deprived with a newborn and you may all be a little highly strung at the moment. But it's just a bit of paint, not the end of the world.

Leave him to sulk calm down. Concentrate on your lovely new baby (Congratulations )

Wow he's being a cock.

You what?

Angry with YOU? What a prize tosser.

Stop trying to fix this. Makes it okay for him to be so horrible. It's not OK. You just had a baby. Focus on your and your baby. Congrats!

Your baby is 16 days old and your OH is treating you like this?

Erm, how is it your fault when you chose the hooks together and he put them up of his own volition.
Far more is going to get trashed in the house with small children in years to come than a bit of flakey paint.
Huge love to you though flower. Without wanting to sound patronising, I think this is tiredness and hormones. Don't fret. xxx

Is your OH usually horrible like this? Congrats on your baby

You will both be alright, you are in the wars at the moment but you know it gets better. You sound like a lovely compassionate person to be so understanding when you are probably so knackered and emotional yourself. He will probably feel awful for being sharp with you at some point, and you will struggle on.

good luck

It's really stressful having a new baby. This isn't a big deal- forget about it. congratulations on the baby! Hope you're feeling well

I think you're already doing plenty. This is not a thing to be upset about (and that's to both of you). The hooks damaged the paint (is it very new, that may be why). That's a shrug it off situation. The touch up will probably fix it.
I hope you get some rest as I have a suspicion the lack of sleep and overwhelming nature has made these seem very drastic. It's not. and

What a knob. It's paint, you can fix it later.

How's he going to be when you have a toddler crashing round the house destroying everything you love?

Wow so many people have posted the same thing by the time I finished posting! Doesn't that tell you something?

you are both absolutely exhausted.

bugger the bunting

the two of you need to concentrate on sleeping and eating as well as you can.

these early days with a baby are the hardest of times. you need to work together as a team to keep things going. really.

I also think he's being a massively inconsiderate twit.

Thank you. He is a good man but has very high standards and expects our house to be perfect all the time. He doesn't like if things aren't just so. Now I'm sat in the bathroom crying because he's got DD and I want her with me but feel I can't ask to have her because of the situation

He's really tired and it makes us irritable and nasty . In a bit he will be back to normal , congratulations on your baby my dear and be kind to your dh and yourself

Wow. How is he going to cope when your baby is a toddler and draws all over your newly painted living room wall with a red wax crayon?

Seriously though, these things happen. Can't the stick on hook just stick over the damaged paint, until you can get a tester pot to cover it?

Wow overreaction by him.
It s just some paint
Is he always such a perfectionist /cry baby ?
You both tired
But it really isn't a big deal
What will he do when something serious happens ?

Wow ok. Depending on the back story here, it's quite possible that he is not a horrible tosser, but is in fact sleep deprived, overwhelmed, exhausted...

I mean if he's always like this then that's different obviously, but if it's a one off I wouldn't take it to heart. It's a really really difficult time for both of you.