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OH has fallen out with me and I feel wretched

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CabbagePatchKid91 · 08/05/2017 19:46

Full disclosure: I have a 16 day old baby so am feeling super emotional.
My auntie made us some bunting for the baby's room. It's really lovely. She is coming to see us this weekend so I thought it would be nice to put the bunting up. I researched to find the best way to put the bunting up without the paint coming off the wall.
We got some hooks that stick on. OH stuck them up and tied the bunting on. The hook came off and took the paint with it Angry. We don't have any of the nursery paint to cover it. OH is furious. Won't speak to me. Told me that I've spoiled the nursery. I'm going to go get a tester in the morning to cover it up but he's not talking to me now and I feel like howling. I feel awful. He's had such a hard day at work after the baby kept us up all night.
How can I fix this?

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robinofsherwood · 08/05/2017 19:53

If baby kept you both up last night then he's probably in a super-stupid sleep deprived place and his reactions are all wrong because of that. I know you're sleep deprived too. If its out of character, I'd try not to react - dont apologise, dont try and make it up to him but dont get angry either. Hopefully after some sleep he'll apologise for being a muppet.

If he normally gets angry at you thats very different.

greenworm · 08/05/2017 19:53

He's being ridiculous. I hope he has the excuse of being as sleep deprived as I imagine you are, else he's a total dick.

I imagine this isn't the first time he's massively overreacted and blamed you for something minor going wrong?

Squishedstrawberry4 · 08/05/2017 19:53

He's being rather ridiculous in over reacting.

Go to bed and have a snuggle with your cute baby

Fruitcorner123 · 08/05/2017 19:53

Hopefully it's because he is stressed and tired and he will apologise later. Otherwise he is completely unreasonable. You haven't ruined the nursery and neither has he. You can get a tester pot at some point in the future and cover the spot. Just forget about it for now and when he's calmed down ask him to apologise and tell him how upset you are.

DarylDixonsJockstrap · 08/05/2017 19:54

Jesus! What a bellend!

PeaFaceMcgee · 08/05/2017 19:54

Is he usually such a controlling abusive arsehole? Absolutely disgusting behaviour from him over a simple tiny mistake that most people would shrug / laugh off.

His reaction was not normal. You often walk on eggshells around him?

sonjadog · 08/05/2017 19:54

Go and get your DD back, and then leave him to his sulks.

If he is a perfectionist, then he can sort out these things next time. Making you do the work and then shouting at you when things aren´t to his standard is absolutely not acceptable.

cestlavielife · 08/05/2017 19:55

Get out of the bathroom and cuddle dd together.

But he won't have everything perfect now a baby is here and he has to grow up .

Pillowpillowpillows · 08/05/2017 19:55

You don't ask for your baby. You take your baby.

Willyorwonte · 08/05/2017 19:55

Wow! He's being a dick.
Congrats by the way on the birth of your baby.
Accidents happen. It's a bit of paint fgs.
Wait until your baby has accidents .... anywhere and everywhere.
He's being precious and ri-DICK-ulous.

kittybiscuits · 08/05/2017 19:56

Go get your DD. If he won't give her to you, go back in the bathroom and call the police.

Sparklycurtainpole · 08/05/2017 19:56

This doesn't sound very healthy at all sweetie. Go and sit with him and your new baby. No one should make you feel like you can't be with your own child due to having to tread on eggshells. You're both obviously knackered but it's just plain wrong that you're crying alone and too scared about how he feels to even be with your newborn.

Squishedstrawberry4 · 08/05/2017 19:57

perfectionism = unnecessary pressure and a sterile childhood.

You should talk to him

Goingtobeawesome · 08/05/2017 19:57

Get out of the bathroom and go and speak to him. Tell him you're both knackered, you understand he likes things perfect but it doesn't give him the right to be horrible to you and the house will never be perfect with a baby, toddler, child living in it!

kittybiscuits · 08/05/2017 19:57

Don't threaten to call the police, and don't tell him. Just call them.

Cerberusia · 08/05/2017 19:57

He's being a prize dick.

If you want your baby, go and get her. Flowers

Brittbugs80 · 08/05/2017 19:58

Congratulations on your new arrival!

Command adhesive hooks are good. We have them on our ceiling to hang our Christmas decorations on, they've have been hanging on the ceiling for 3 Christmases and haven't fell down.

I'm slightly concerned you feel you can't get your baby back as your OH has him/her and you feel you can't?

Are you ok? x

ShuttyTown · 08/05/2017 19:59

Stop hiding in the bathroom, go get your baby and tell your DH he's a twat. Don't allow him to talk to you like that, ask him who the fuck he thinks he is!

tallwivglasses · 08/05/2017 19:59

Have you got friends or family nearby? You need some support, love. And if he has any friends get one of them to tell him he's being a dick.

tallwivglasses · 08/05/2017 20:00

Meanwhile go and cuddle your lovely baby x

Pillowpillowpillows · 08/05/2017 20:00

are you okay? Can a relative or someone close to come spend a few days with you?
Doesn't sound very healthy where you are right now. I feel so cross for you Sad

BertrandRussell · 08/05/2017 20:00

He's taken the baby and you feel you can't go and get her?

CabbagePatch-are you frightened of him?

Newtothis2017 · 08/05/2017 20:01

Another one who says just go and get your baby

early30smum · 08/05/2017 20:02

This sounds v worrying. Total overreaction over some paint. Are you okay?

ineedwine99 · 08/05/2017 20:02

Go get your baby lovely Flowers

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