Neighbour in garden.

[Buddinghell]

More of a rant.
We live in a row of new build terraces. Tiny gardens. So everyone can see most your garden from an upstairs window and everyone can hear everything if they are in the garden. We do try and give each other a bit of privacy. Someone has friends over in the garden we don't mow the tiny patch of grass. I won't be putting my washing up if I hear next door having breakfast outside.
All except my neighbour who is outside every time I am, doing sodding "jobs". The fence is rattling as I speak as she puts on a second coat that's flicking through the fence over my plants . I've had to come in from reading my book.
The annoying bit is that she doesn't work and I do. So I can only be in the garden weekends whereas she could be do stuff all week. She was in B& Q on bank holiday Monday moaning how busy it was too, duh, do you think?
I think she feels gardening is something you do at the weekends and garden centres are for bank holidays. So AIBU in being stressed with this.

I've read it all now.

Just get on with your life fgs and let your neighbors get on with theirs.

I would have thought painting a fence is a particularly quiet garden job.
It's not like she's hosting a rave is it.

You do sound a bit odd to be honest OP. I have just looked out and at least three lots of neighbours are out doing stuff in their gardens just now. It certainly won't stop me heading out there in a minute to chill. I will say a polite hello and then get on with minding my own business. Perhaps you should try the same.

You're welcome to come and soemd a weekend at mine OP. My Neigjbour a couple of doors down is having yet another party with shit music for the second night in a row. It will go on until well in the early hours of the morning despite the fact DC has an early morning hospital appointment tomorrow morning. (yes on a Sunday indeed) and his two immediate neighbours and the one behind him work nights and weekends.

A few weeks of this level of disregard for your immediate neighbours your garden fence lady will be a welcoming sight!

I have to say you're being a bit unreasonable. There is nothing wrong with painting uour fence of a weekend. She doesn't need to do it during the week and be banned at the weekend. You should all really use your gardens as you please, but simply manage noise levels.

I really can't believe you wouldn't hang your washing up if someone else was in their garden, that's terribly weird.

Just get on with your life, use your garden when you want.

I don't see the issue.

*spend

I hope she builds a big wicker man just to piss you off. Maybe that's what's assembling against your fence.
Unless she is sacrificing goats using a circular saw you have no case

Don't you think there's enough aggro in the world without you adding to it?

I lived in a house with a tiny garden when I was younger. I used to chat to the neighbours across the tiny fences. We had a couple of 6ft panels by the patio to give some privacy. Your social anxiety is not their responsibility and you're not in a position to dictate to neighbours how and when they enjoy their garden. They not behaving anti socially.

Surely this is not for real

Why can't you just keep your nose out? What she does is her business- none of yours. Some people like to relax by sitting doing nothing, others like to relax by engaging in hobbies- be that cycling/reading/gardening/diy etc.

It is none of your business. Wind your neck in.

The garden is 5m by 8m. There is no escape from anyone.

Fine. I will accept IBU.

Still think it would drive you lot mad too.

Are you in the UK? It's really not the sitting outside reading a book weather around here.

sparkling it is in Scotland. Beautiful weather

Wtf

Admittedly I am happier now my garden is bigger but it was that sort of size. "You lot" .

Some people find it relaxing to be busy.
My sis in law is like this. I find it exhausting watching her but she does get loads done.

This thread is bonkers.I'd hang my smalls out even if next door had their friends round.

You sound absolutely bonkers.

This is just the case with tiny terrace gardens. You have to make allowances otherwise you'd be driven crazy. My old next door neighbours noisy kids used to play football in their tiny garden. I can't say I didn't rather wish they didn't as the ball popped over the hedge for the umpteenth time, but a) it wasn't going to stop me sitting out b) they were kids, it was nice they all played in the garden together. I knew all their names before we were introduced :) its just a condition of living in a place where other people do.

After having absolutely hellish neighbours at my previous property i now have a kind of social anxiety around neighbours and i do avoid being around when they're out. Ideally i'd live on a large plot with tall walls and mature trees with lovely neigbours at a nice distance, but unfortunately this isn't always possible! I feel for you and paint on plants is annoying, but i think you're either particularly grumpy or have some anxiety that isn't healthy. It's fine to hide from them as i do, but know YABU.

Can you put up some kind of privacy screening? With our nightmare neighbours we had a large gazebo which gave good privacy (until they broke it).