To think, No, i don't have to let them try on my expensive shoes?

[ClothEaredBint]

I have a collection of expensive shoes, Irregular choice, they're upward of £80 a pair and most of them are sparkly as i like the glitter.

Obviously kids tend to gravitate to the glitter, and as i have them on display in my house, when i have a couple of friends over, the little girls like to ask to look and try them on.

I always say no, but my friend told me i'm being a bit mean, because "they're only shoes."

AIBU to think that not toys and they aren't going to like it if their kid manages to damage them and i ask them to replace them if they get scuffed or scratched? ITs not like it can be polished out or hidden, it'd spoil the look of the shoe.

I don't even let my own 8yo put them on as she'd fall flat on her face.

Put them away when little girls are coming over? (on display?)

How do you put shoes on display??

Put them away.

Sounds like that episode of sex and the city where Carrie's mate initially refuses to shell out for a new pair of monolos after they get nicked at a child's b'day party. Her friend tells her off for her extravagant life choices.

I would put them away when the kid comes round

You don't have to let them try your shoes on - as others have said, the simplest solution is to put them away, out of sight and out of reach.

Although "look but don't touch" is a good lesson for kidz

Yanbu. Your car is right there in the drive way and the keys right there on the tamely. It's no more a right to test drive your car as it is for me or my kids to try on your clothes and shoes.

Your house, you shouldn't have to hide away anything that may spark interest so someone doesn't have to say no to their child.

They've got their own shoe cabinet where they're kept, rather than in the box with all the every day shoes/trainers, again so they don't get damaged.

same as you put anything on display I imagine, in a cabinet perhaps. I guess you've not seen irregular choice shoes if you're questioning displaying them

yanbu, why should your shoes be treated as toys ? the display thing i understand as being because they are unusual you like to see them apart from only when you wear them, unless you display in a cabinet .
if these mums want their dd to try out these sort of shoes they can always buy their own ! in the meantime put them out of sight when people with kids visit,

x posted with the shoe cabinet bit

Shoe Cabinet?

I'm telling DH. He thinks I like shoes a bit too much.

.....a special cabinet ey?

Where is this shoe cabinet? If it's in your bedroom, why are friends' children playing there? If it's in your living room, kitchen or hallway, why do you have a shoe display cabinet there?

Of course not. It's your stuff that you paid good money for and you keep like that to look after them. You can move them for the time they are there but if it's a lot then leave them and say no. To you they're not just shoes, they are things that bring you joy. I'm sure they wouldn't let their kids faff around with their evening wear or fragile jewellery. Plenty of people collect figurines or plates etc and wouldn't be expected to do the same.

I'm now wondering where in the back of my wardrobe my IC Flick Flacks are. They're away but I wouldn't let DD play with them if they weren't.

YANBU, it's easy for kids to damage stuff, it's a good lesson for them than some things are off limits. Your friend is stupid.

And to PPs saying 'put them away' - why should she rearrange her possessions so a child doesn't have to be told 'no'?? Bonkers.

PS I too want to see the shoe cabinet

Don't put them away it's your home. Just continue to say no.

Or mention yes they can but any damage then they can pay, soon they will be telling their kids no before you even have to

YANBU. I'd just say - as it seems you have - "they're special grown up shoes, not dress up shoes. I'll lift you up to look at them in the cabinet." If you feel so inclined you could buy some cheap sequinny kids shoes for said child's next birthday, but you should be able to say no to children nicely without being questioned by the parents!

I'm not a fan of wearing Irregular Choice but I'd be interested to see a collection in a cabinet so I don't think that's weird.

YANBU, it's no different to people who have collectible plates on display refuse people who want to eat off them!
Irregular choice shoes are definitely not play things! I had a beautiful pair that someone dropped fag ash onto and burnt them and they were never the same after that!

Tbf, I said put them away before op said they were in a display cabinet. It kind of sounded like she had then lined up on the mantlepiece

A shoe cabinet? Like a glass display case?

If I had anything I wanted to display, I wouldn't want kids playing with it, no matter what it is.

I really want to see your shoes now though.

I kind of want to see them. I'd love a pair but I never wear heels. I have weird converse trainers instead

I do love the look of them and would totally have them on display like OP

SHOE CABINET!

They do trainers and high tops now too