What's with all the slag off my kid's father posts

[Clarke83]

I'm on Facebook. Mainly I use it to keep up with family who live far away but I also occasionally check in at the local cinema, restaurant, soft play etc. I realise that people use Facebook for a variety of reasons but why use it as a forum to air your grievances and anger with your ex and father of your children?

Seriously it's not even Father's Day until tomorrow and I've already seen a ton of posts from people slagging off their child's father or "sperm donor" as they put it, calling them a waste of space and how they are complete d*k h**s. Why do women do this, why so they stoop to such a level?

I was a single mother for two years when my husband of 12 years upped and left me and his two young children for another woman. I'm now in a happy long term relationship but I'll admit I'm still rather angry with my ex and can never forgive him for walking out on his children. But I don't chose to voice that anger to my friends and sometimes even strangers on Facebook. I know people are different but why do this, there's no need for it. Aibu here?

If you can't vent your frustrations on your own private FB to your friends when can you?

I know what you're saying but surely you can discuss such private and personal issues in person with friends?

Sorry I didn't know whether I was allowed to or not.

And I know they can post what they like but still isn't it a bit low to post these sort of things. Some people find Father's Day hard enough as it is as they've lost their own dad. Surely they don't want to see this sort of stuff.

Cunt
Twat
Dick
Douche
Wank badger
Knob jokey

And every swear you can think of.....it's allowed

I understand that I do. I also understand that some women may have been treated badly, a lot worse than I have with my ex but why post it on Facebook?

Brill I'll remember that next time. I just don't know whether my post would be taken down if language wasn't allowed.

It really irks me when people use 'sperm donor' as an insult. The sperm donor who helped me have a child is one of the most generous people I've met.

I know they can but once you've seen it you can't really un see it. I've seen some rather shocking things on Facebook so I know that this may seem like nothing but some parents have their kids as friends and what if they seen their father being royally slagged off. It's isn't nice really is it.

I just cringe whenever I see someone on Facebook slagging of their ex or even current partner, why air your dirty laundry? Half the time their statuses are public so the whole world can see.

I can't get fussed about it as long as they're using their own timelines and not mine.

The only time I really don't like it is when they have their children on their friend list, as that must be quite horrible for them to keep reading one parent slagging off the other.

The sperm donor comment really annoys me too. There's just no need for it. Some of the people on my friends list have posted some really awkward and viscous comments and it's certainly lowered my opinion of them.

YANBU - it's immature and makes the poster look bad.

I agree it isn't. I'm constantly hiding suggested posts and things like that but when your so called friends and aquaintences are posting horrible nasty things it's not very nice to see.

Some peoples exes are absolute bastards, more twattish perhaps than you could ever imagine, far beyond the realms of just being a little bit awkward or not paying for their children. And sometimes in those circumstances, people like to vent and don't consider first who can see their posts, they just want to rant. I just skim over it as I can understand the frustration

It lacks class, I must say, so YANBU, OP.

And I'd say lucky for you that you've not been worn down to the point of ranting on social media