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What's with all the slag off my kid's father posts

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Clarke83 · 18/06/2016 17:52

I'm on Facebook. Mainly I use it to keep up with family who live far away but I also occasionally check in at the local cinema, restaurant, soft play etc. I realise that people use Facebook for a variety of reasons but why use it as a forum to air your grievances and anger with your ex and father of your children?

Seriously it's not even Father's Day until tomorrow and I've already seen a ton of posts from people slagging off their child's father or "sperm donor" as they put it, calling them a waste of space and how they are complete d*k h**s. Why do women do this, why so they stoop to such a level?

I was a single mother for two years when my husband of 12 years upped and left me and his two young children for another woman. I'm now in a happy long term relationship but I'll admit I'm still rather angry with my ex and can never forgive him for walking out on his children. But I don't chose to voice that anger to my friends and sometimes even strangers on Facebook. I know people are different but why do this, there's no need for it. Aibu here?

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mathanxiety · 22/06/2016 19:28

The only thing you teach children when you remain silent is that they have something to be ashamed of.

The parents who write loads of stuff on fb for attention are possibly the sort who when their dc grow up cause problems with things like weddings and not going if ex is there for example.
Now there's a leap...
Very often, the presence of an ex means actual physical danger for women. Certainly the danger exists of further emotional damage.

We seem so ready to heap scorn on our fellow women here. We truly are not the compassionate friends to each other that we should be.

wibblewobble8 · 22/06/2016 19:40

The only thing you teach children when you remain silent is that they have something to be ashamed of. Math, you say everything im thinking, but only better.

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MissMargie · 22/06/2016 21:37

Kids don't choose their parents.

The worse the parent the more uncomfortable for the kids. You inherit your genes from both sides. So of course it matters what others say about your DPs.

Baconyum · 22/06/2016 22:02

Wow! Reported.

I don't think anybody should accept being called abusive and scary for any reason defending their dc against the crap behaviour of some shit NRP

My dd would laugh at the idea of me being scary!

I had read the post I am just sceptical.

PresidentOliviaMumsnet · 23/06/2016 00:20

A reminder that Mumsnet's here to make lives easier
What we can all do with is some moral support
Peace and love already
MNHQ

feathermucker · 23/06/2016 07:03

My son's father was the most horrible c**t to him; issues now - a few years on, we're still seeing the after-effects!

I didn't post any Father's Day sperm-donor comments, but I've said a few things about him before on Facebook!

Some people have experienced such bullshit from their kid's fathers (and mothers!!) that I can totally understand why they post stuff like this.

Undoubtedly, there will be some who get a thrill from it etc, but I'm afraid it's not for you to dictate what people put on their own Facebook pages. Block/delete/ignore etc....

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