To think it wasn't my fault that her coat got dirty

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In a busy coffee shop with 8-month-old DS and our NCT group. A woman pulled an extra chair up to join her friends at crowded table next to us. She sat down within grabbing range of DS and before I could stop him he twisted round in highchair and grabbed hold of her pale grey coatigan thing that she'd draped over chair and wiped his mouth on it He had prune puree and yogurt around his mouth as I was feeding him

Woman jumped up angrily and told me off. I apologised profusely but she was really angry. She insisted I pay for dry-cleaning. I refused (had she been nicer I may have offered) but she was making a scene and I loathed her.

If you sit within grabbing distance of a prune-covered baby surely that's not my fault? Or am I BU?

I would have apologised , did you ?
It does seem out of order tbh

I think YABU, I would be furious !

It happened within seconds & she put her chair close to him I can't see how you could've prevented it

Is prune puree a good idea when out and about lol don't think mine ever had prunes
Imagine the nappies , or maybe that's why you give it?,

YANBU, it seems fairly obvious that anything within reaching range of a baby is fair game

Apology was enough

Sorry just seen you did apologise profusely

Lila I apologised profusely

Well, yes, it is your responsibility. Should she have looked to avoid a seat near your baby in case he wiped his face on her clothes?

Of course yabu, I would expect a parent to supervise their prune covered baby

Of course you should have apologised. I would have immediately if it had been one of my dc. I know your son knows no better but he damaged her coat and yes you should offer to pay for it.

YANBU. Shit happens, you apologised.

I can't imagine getting furious over a bit of prune puree.

The dry cleaning not the coat

Yabu I'm afraid. It's up to you to stop your child damaging property.

Sorry, but it's not her responsibility to watch your child. What do you think she should have done differently?

Sorry see you did apologise but this is not her fault in any way.

I'll have to make sure I never sit near a baby again then

YABU. It is your job to watch over your child, not the adults responsibility to always keep away from his grasp.

YABU, your baby, your responsibility. I would have offered to pay.

She is BU for 'telling you off'
You are BVVU for saying it's her fault.
I don't have any DC and haven't got a clue what 'grabbing distance of a 8 mth old is' to know to ensure I am out of range of having my clothes used as a face wipe.

Of course I would have offered to pay for it, that's what I do if my children damage someone else's property.

I was watching him, I had the spoon halfway to his mouth when she dropped the coat over the back of the chair. He grabbed it within a split-second as it flicked near his face.

While she was unreasonable to get quite so angry, YABVU not to pay for dry cleaning. It was your baby that caused the damage. You should have offered to pay for cleaning as part of your apology

YAB immensely U - your baby got her coat dirty. I would be cross too!

The dry cleaning sounds a bit excessive. Could it not really have been sponged? What happens if she gets caught in a rain shower?
But it was your fault.

It may not be your fault but it's your responsibility to pick up the tab.