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To tell husbands friend not to drink

228 replies

Seeyalater · 13/04/2016 19:40

im pretty sure I'm nbu but my husband thinks I am?!?
My oh is having a friend stay over on sat night (he lives 2hrs away so he stays in spare room), they will go out for dinner and then play PlayStation/drink cider etc which they do every so often. However, I'm 38 weeks preg so husband won't be drinking, and I have said he ought to tell his friend not to have a drink while here as if I go into labour he will need to go home. Dh thinks he will be ok just to be in another room.... Shock I can't seem to get him to understand that having a random about the house when I'm
Labouring is not ok Angry

OP posts:
RudeElf · 13/04/2016 19:43

I think you need to postpone his visit if you wont want him there on the offchance you go into labour. You cant tell him not to drink.

OddSocksHighHeels · 13/04/2016 19:43

Could he not get a taxi home if he wasn't fit to drive?

You can't tell another adult that they aren't allowed to drink, sorry.

KayTee87 · 13/04/2016 19:43

Sorry I think you are being a bit unreasonable unless there's a reason you think you might go into labour at 38 weeks? Surely if it did happen he would just arrange to get a lift home?

bibbitybobbityyhat · 13/04/2016 19:44

I'm going to say yabu.

BiftasWifta · 13/04/2016 19:45

Why did you invite him to stay if you didn't want to risk him being there if you go into labour?

I'm sorry but YABU. You can't invite someone to stay but tell them they can't have a drink incase you go into labour.

BirthdayBetty · 13/04/2016 19:45

Cancel the visit is the easiest thing.

Oysterbabe · 13/04/2016 19:45

How far away does he live? Could your DH run him home?

guiltynetter · 13/04/2016 19:46

but you won't most likely won't be labouring, you'll be 38 weeks pregnant...YABU

guiltynetter · 13/04/2016 19:46

sorry most likely won't be labouring! makes more sense.

AddToBasket · 13/04/2016 19:46

YABU. Why do you think you might go into labour?

If that does happen he can get a cab home or get picked up in the morning.

Dutchess61 · 13/04/2016 19:47

Why does the friend have to stay when you're so close to labour?

yorkshapudding · 13/04/2016 19:48

If you do go into labour (which isn't that likely) then I'd imagine the friend will be calling himself a taxi pretty quick! I doubt he'd want to hang around.

FatPaul · 13/04/2016 19:49

YABU and you know it.

Clare1971 · 13/04/2016 19:49

You don't have to tell him not to drink but DH should tell him that , if you go into labour, you would both prefer him to go home. Then it's up to him if he chooses not to drink, is prepared to pay for a taxi or arranges a lift. I think it's totally reasonable of you not to want someone else in the house while you're in labour.

CountessOfStrathearn · 13/04/2016 19:50

oysterbabe, it is all in the OP.

You: "How far away does he live? Could your DH run him home?"

OP: "(he lives 2hrs away so he stays in spare room)"

I'd be less than impressed if my DH did a 4h round trip when I was in labour!

TurnOffTheTv · 13/04/2016 19:51

YABU. Unless you're having a home birth? Surely you'll just be going to hospital if not.

CountessOfStrathearn · 13/04/2016 19:52

You're not going to go to hospital straight off though but only once labour is progressing significantly.

memyselfandaye · 13/04/2016 19:52

A randomer? Thats not a nice thing to say about a friend?

If you do go into labour the taxi will be there before anything remotely interesting happens.

Do you have ultra fast labours?

It is rather controlling tbh.

SouthWestmom · 13/04/2016 19:55

Yeah tell him not to drink, he will cancel, you will have to put up with dh being pissed off you stopped his fun when you are still pregnant the next day.

Honestly, lighten up a bit and let your dh have a night out, I'm sure that won't be happening for a long time after you've had the baby.

GabiSolis · 13/04/2016 19:55

Yes YABU, sorry. You can't tell another adult not to drink. If you're having a home birth (sounds like you're planning on this) then surely he can just get a taxi home?

TurnOffTheTv · 13/04/2016 19:55

I like to be there early to get all the drugs Grin

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 13/04/2016 19:59

You can't tell an adult not to drink. I assume he's over 21. He doesn't need your permission or approval

Mouthfulofquiz · 13/04/2016 20:00

I was at home until 9cm last time so I'm pretty sure others do the same. I wouldn't have wanted my husband's mate in the house at the same time. But is it that likely to happen on that exact date? Not really. I think though, that the visit might be best postponed if it will cause you stress.

gamerchick · 13/04/2016 20:01

Put off the visit, you're only going to sit with lemon lips when the ale comes out. You're being controlling.

Your husband is banned from drinking?

IAmNotAMindReader · 13/04/2016 20:02

YABU