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To tell husbands friend not to drink

228 replies

Seeyalater · 13/04/2016 19:40

im pretty sure I'm nbu but my husband thinks I am?!?
My oh is having a friend stay over on sat night (he lives 2hrs away so he stays in spare room), they will go out for dinner and then play PlayStation/drink cider etc which they do every so often. However, I'm 38 weeks preg so husband won't be drinking, and I have said he ought to tell his friend not to have a drink while here as if I go into labour he will need to go home. Dh thinks he will be ok just to be in another room.... Shock I can't seem to get him to understand that having a random about the house when I'm
Labouring is not ok Angry

OP posts:
Divathecat · 13/04/2016 21:48

Tbf you go into labour from 32-42 weeks given the examples shown to me by my dear friends and family.

RudeElf · 13/04/2016 21:49

Just realised i spent the night i turned 38 weeks pregnant with baby no 1, clubbing and being designated driver for drunk friends. I told them all before i went that they could sort themselves out if i went into labour. Baby 2 at 38 weeks was spent having (non alcoholic for me) drinks at a friend's house. Again I was designated driver for Exp who was on the Irish mist that night. Friends were very helpful by covering their armchair in a bin liner incase my waters broke. Grin

RedHead02 · 13/04/2016 21:53

This is hilarious 😂

Why would the OP want a great big lump of a bloke sat on her sofa all night drinking, making mess, sleeping in the bed which will require washing sheets before and after, potentially having to do breakfast the next morning, taking up the whole lounge all evening etc etc etc WHILST 38 WEEKS PG?

I am far from uptight but I'd be telling my DH to fuck right off.

RedHead02 · 13/04/2016 21:56

I absolutely love this thread 😂

Let me think...I wonder why the op doesn't want some great big lump of a bloke playing PlayStation all night, taking over the lounge, making a mess, staying over which means clean sheets are needed and must be washed after, potentially making breakfast in the morning?! All at 38 weeks PG?!!!! 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

It's annoying. I am far from uptight but I know for a fact that this would annoy me. You can't relax in these situations. Op you are being far from unreasonable.

pearlylum · 13/04/2016 21:56

redhead- exactly. My OH wouldn't even suggest it.

RedHead02 · 13/04/2016 21:57

Oops posted twice as I thought earlier hadn't sent properly, the fact that I went to the trouble of writing it again is testament to how absurd this thread is

RudeElf · 13/04/2016 22:00

"then play PlayStation/drink cider etc"

Sounds quite a catch.

Hmm

And what does your DH do of an evening with friends that makes you so proud to have 'caught' him?

RudeElf · 13/04/2016 22:02

But none of that is certain redhead

I've stayed over in friend's houses after a drink and i dont make a mess, i change my own sheets, feed myself (and my hosts if they want it). Why would this man be doing all you say and why would OP be feeding him? Confused

Mslg · 13/04/2016 22:03

It's annoying. I am far from uptight but I know for a fact that this would annoy me.

You come across as very uptight actually. It's one bloody night. And make DH sort the sheets, clean and make breakfast for his mate. Seriously not a big deal.

OddSocksHighHeels · 13/04/2016 22:04

Redhead her DH could tidy the mess, wash the sheets and make breakfast. I'm more baffled by the fact that you think that's automatically Op's job. It shouldn't be.

RedHead02 · 13/04/2016 22:05

Surely if there's one time in her life that she can be a bit demanding it's when she is imminently due to give birth???

pearlylum · 13/04/2016 22:06

rudelf my Oh is a grown man, sleepovers and playstations don't really figure in his life.

RudeElf · 13/04/2016 22:07

That doesnt answer my question pearly

What does your DH do of an evening with friends that makes you so proud of catching him?

Chocolatefudgecake100 · 13/04/2016 22:08

Id be thrilled all my other half wanted to do is sit in with a mate playing the playstation its better than him wanting to go out drinking surely?its his mate wanting to drink anyway which dosent even affect u but maybe just say ud prefer he didnt stop over if possible YABU

pearlylum · 13/04/2016 22:10

My OH may have a meal then come home. He doesn't do sleepovers or have a playstation. My 18 yo son has even grown out of his playstation.

RedHead02 · 13/04/2016 22:12

I genuinely don't give a shit what you think. I love this thread. If any normal human beings had this conversation offline (well, off AIBU), no one would disagree with OP

RudeElf · 13/04/2016 22:15

My OH may have a meal then come home.

Ahh, yes i can see why you are so smug proud. Eating a meal and coming home are the trademarks of the eligible bachelor all men must aspire to. So much better than eating at home with your friend. Confused

OddSocksHighHeels · 13/04/2016 22:15

Erm, no, I am a normal human being and would tell my friends, nicely, that they have other options (taxi, train, hotel). You still haven't said why you think the cleaning, washing, cooking etc is up to the pregnant woman and not the DH.

RudeElf · 13/04/2016 22:16

Who is redhead ranting at?

OddSocksHighHeels · 13/04/2016 22:17

Actually, why the woman. It doesn't need to be a pregnant woman, you assume that it was her responsibility, why can't the DH do it?

pearlylum · 13/04/2016 22:18

Herself I think rudeelf

OddSocksHighHeels · 13/04/2016 22:18

Rude erm, err, well, erm, no I don't know.

arethereanyleftatall · 13/04/2016 22:19

Redhead - that's probably because surround yourself with those who have similar ideas to yourself.

Of the people in real life I know, no one would think the op is being reasonable. It's one night within a possible month if going in to labour. That's about a 3% chance. Go with the flow, cross each bridge as you get to it.

Dutchess61 · 13/04/2016 22:20

I know lots of people that would consider not having a bloke that thinks its acceptable to bring his mate home, game and drink cider when his partner is heavily pregnant Elf. I also don't think that Red is ranting. I do however think you are a being a bit weird.

CoolforKittyCats · 13/04/2016 22:22

If any normal human beings had this conversation offline (well, off AIBU), no one would disagree with OP

I am a 'normal' human being and disagree.

My DSis and her DH were at my wedding to DH when she was at 38 weeks.