To be annoyed Xmas plans scuppered as DS ill

[Breadwidow]

We were due to travel up to my parents for a Big family Christmas at my parents tomorrow, with my sisters Family who live locally joining us on the. DS has temp and cold symptoms. DH thinks we should probably stay at home unless he makes miraculous recovery by tomorrow (unlikely seeing as these things usually last a week or so with him). I know this is the best move, since we are travelling by train (no car) and my parents will be noisy and from excitement - not Great for sick nearly 4 year old. I'm just a bit annoyed DH cannot relate to the fact I'm disappointed - I was so looking forward to spending Christmas with my family plus we've sent all our presents there so DS will have nothing to open on Christmas day if we stay at home. Aren't I allowed to be a bit disappointed. I'm also Quite annoyed with DH or taking the kids out all day on mon and tues when DS is up in the night unwell on Sun/mon night. He did seem much better by mon morning but yesterday he was lethargic & DH Still took him to me up with a friend while I was working. Grrr, so Xmas is gonna be a damp squib. Gutted

Oh that's good to know, they are scary. I'm gutted, was so looking forward to spending Christmas with my sister and giving my kids a big Xmas with cousins like I had as a girl but DS is def too ill to go on a train. Poor thing has been ill a lot this winter. DH doesn't get why I was looking forward to Xmas at my parents so much, but think I have to accept that's cos they are not his family and though he likes them a lot he's never gonna love them like I do!

I think it's not just how he feels about your parents.

My husband has never been bothered about seeing his parents on Christmas Day.

So of course although he knows that it's important to some people, he personally doesn't get it iyswim.

So if a child was ill & arrangements cancelled/postponed, it just wouldn't be a big deal.

We would all be together so it wouldn't be a complete disaster!

Is your MIL coming over just to make sure that your son has some presents tomorrow?

That's lovely!

It's nice for her too as she was just gonna be with her partner on Xmas day, so now they get a family Xmas.

Up thread someone mentioned maybe giving antibiotics yesterday could have got him over this sooner, I thought the same but very unlikely as they take a few days to work plus it's prob a virus anyway. DH of course would not hear of giving them just to stick to plans anyway

What a shame your DS is still poorly.

Your DH sounds pretty controlling and you let him be. No way would I just do whatever DH decided. Sounds like yor family really know what he is like too. I can identify with you. I hate changing plans when they are made so I'd be exactly the same as you.

Is your DH always such a drama llama?

Happy Christmas! On here as just up with DD, everyone else still asleep

DH is not a drama llama I think. More I am. Turns out he was right to be cautious, DS' temp hit the 40 mark at one point yesterday. Maybe he should have just said at the start we'll see how his tomorrow rather than we shouldn't go as that is really what we did and he was worse. But he did that to warn me if plan change, I have a bit of a history of getting stressed when plans alter. Though I think with this I was mainly freaking about DS having a good Xmas. Anyway, arguably I am the drama llama, in terms of getting upset as plans changing, however it's nice to read that others would be too. I think that's my DH's problem - he thinks I'm being dramatic about things that would upset many other too. He's a fly by the seat of his pants no plans guy, his whole family are which is why they rarely get together even though they enjoy it when they do - no one likes to plan so it never gets organised!! Cod of this he doesn't get at all why many people like plans, get excited by them and then get stressed out when they have to change.

As for controlling, perhaps, I'm not sure especially given that on this he made the right call.

Merry Christmas!

I think people were thinking controlling because your husband seemed determined that his decision would be the one.

I wonder if he was thinking that you were so desperate to go to your parents that you weren't thinking about your son enough.

I'm also a worrier & run through possible scenarios endlessly

It is pointless & a waste of energy as things just have to be faced as & when necessary!

It's disappointing when plans fall through but endlessly going on achieves nothing.
(Must take own advice!)

I think people were thinking controlling because your husband seemed determined that his decision would be the one.

OP thought hers should be though

So the DH was right.

It's a Christmas miracle. 🎅🎅🎅

Merry Christmas Bread.
Poor DS - hope he's on the mend soon.
I'm a worrier and planner too! I drive the family mad because I want a timetable set in stone. New Year's resolution for me - go with the flow!
Hope you manage to have a nice day.

Here's to Christmas, stress and all!