To be annoyed Xmas plans scuppered as DS ill

[Breadwidow]

We were due to travel up to my parents for a Big family Christmas at my parents tomorrow, with my sisters Family who live locally joining us on the. DS has temp and cold symptoms. DH thinks we should probably stay at home unless he makes miraculous recovery by tomorrow (unlikely seeing as these things usually last a week or so with him). I know this is the best move, since we are travelling by train (no car) and my parents will be noisy and from excitement - not Great for sick nearly 4 year old. I'm just a bit annoyed DH cannot relate to the fact I'm disappointed - I was so looking forward to spending Christmas with my family plus we've sent all our presents there so DS will have nothing to open on Christmas day if we stay at home. Aren't I allowed to be a bit disappointed. I'm also Quite annoyed with DH or taking the kids out all day on mon and tues when DS is up in the night unwell on Sun/mon night. He did seem much better by mon morning but yesterday he was lethargic & DH Still took him to me up with a friend while I was working. Grrr, so Xmas is gonna be a damp squib. Gutted

[Sgtmajormummy]

Here's to Christmas, stress and all!

[SpinachJelly]

Merry Christmas Bread.
Poor DS - hope he's on the mend soon.
I'm a worrier and planner too! I drive the family mad because I want a timetable set in stone. New Year's resolution for me - go with the flow!
Hope you manage to have a nice day.

[Idontknowwheretogo]

So the DH was right.

It's a Christmas miracle. 🎅🎅🎅

[Shutthatdoor]

I think people were thinking controlling because your husband seemed determined that his decision would be the one.

OP thought hers should be though

[diddl]

Merry Christmas!

I think people were thinking controlling because your husband seemed determined that his decision would be the one.

I wonder if he was thinking that you were so desperate to go to your parents that you weren't thinking about your son enough.

I'm also a worrier & run through possible scenarios endlessly

It is pointless & a waste of energy as things just have to be faced as & when necessary!

It's disappointing when plans fall through but endlessly going on achieves nothing.
(Must take own advice!)

[Breadwidow]

Happy Christmas! On here as just up with DD, everyone else still asleep

DH is not a drama llama I think. More I am. Turns out he was right to be cautious, DS' temp hit the 40 mark at one point yesterday. Maybe he should have just said at the start we'll see how his tomorrow rather than we shouldn't go as that is really what we did and he was worse. But he did that to warn me if plan change, I have a bit of a history of getting stressed when plans alter. Though I think with this I was mainly freaking about DS having a good Xmas. Anyway, arguably I am the drama llama, in terms of getting upset as plans changing, however it's nice to read that others would be too. I think that's my DH's problem - he thinks I'm being dramatic about things that would upset many other too. He's a fly by the seat of his pants no plans guy, his whole family are which is why they rarely get together even though they enjoy it when they do - no one likes to plan so it never gets organised!! Cod of this he doesn't get at all why many people like plans, get excited by them and then get stressed out when they have to change.

As for controlling, perhaps, I'm not sure especially given that on this he made the right call.

[ouryve]

Is your DH always such a drama llama?

[CFSsucks]

What a shame your DS is still poorly.

Your DH sounds pretty controlling and you let him be. No way would I just do whatever DH decided. Sounds like yor family really know what he is like too. I can identify with you. I hate changing plans when they are made so I'd be exactly the same as you.

[Breadwidow]

It's nice for her too as she was just gonna be with her partner on Xmas day, so now they get a family Xmas.

Up thread someone mentioned maybe giving antibiotics yesterday could have got him over this sooner, I thought the same but very unlikely as they take a few days to work plus it's prob a virus anyway. DH of course would not hear of giving them just to stick to plans anyway

[diddl]

I think it's not just how he feels about your parents.

My husband has never been bothered about seeing his parents on Christmas Day.

So of course although he knows that it's important to some people, he personally doesn't get it iyswim.

So if a child was ill & arrangements cancelled/postponed, it just wouldn't be a big deal.

We would all be together so it wouldn't be a complete disaster!

Is your MIL coming over just to make sure that your son has some presents tomorrow?

That's lovely!

[Breadwidow]

Oh that's good to know, they are scary. I'm gutted, was so looking forward to spending Christmas with my sister and giving my kids a big Xmas with cousins like I had as a girl but DS is def too ill to go on a train. Poor thing has been ill a lot this winter. DH doesn't get why I was looking forward to Xmas at my parents so much, but think I have to accept that's cos they are not his family and though he likes them a lot he's never gonna love them like I do!

[Bogburglar99]

We have had delayed prescriptions of antibiotics for DS (usually when I was being particularly neurotic about the febrile convulsions). It's a recognised strategy for GPs to offer a delayed prescription and see how they go. Guess you are just doing that really. Glad you've found an answer that keeps everyone (reasonably?) happy and best of luck for outgrowing those bloody convulsions. 6 is supposed to be the upper limit and it's a great feeling when you have gone through a few feverish illnesses and it hasn't happened!

[Breadwidow]

The pharmacist didn't mix up the anti biotic so it would last a few days, I will not store for next time, just use if the bug doesn't shift.

[Breadwidow]

Our GP is very antibiotic happy. She prescribed them so DH asked does he have an infection or is it a virus? She said she didn't know and could well be viral, hence antibiotics may well useless. My old GP only prescribed anti biotics for things that didn't clear up on their own after 4/5 days, which is a good sign bacterial infection may have set in. NHS choices info backs up this advice. It's also much better for your gut to avoid anti biotics if you can.

[StrictlyMumDancing]

People don't get resistant to antibiotics. Bacteria do. And antibiotics fight particular bacteria so should never be stored in case you're ill later. Take the wrong antibiotics and you could make yourself worse.

Op, sorry ds isn't better and that you aren't going to your family. However is ds is that ill then perhaps you should revisit whether not giving the antibiotics is the right idea.

[LeaLeander]

Yes, better to do without antibiotics when at all possible.

[Kacie123]

I get the antibiotics thing - people are increasingly resistant to them and if you can get through without them, isn't that supposed to be better for the next time you need them?

[CurbsideProphet]

I've just read the whole thread and don't understand why your DH took your DS to the GP but is choosing not to give him the antibiotics? Putting Christmas aside, a day of antibiotics and calpol could have started to make your DS feel a lot better.

[Twinklefuck]

I'm sorry you're not able to go Hun

[Griphook]

Hmmm, how about starting on the antibiotics so ds can start to feel better.

[Breadwidow]

Update, we are not going. MIL coming here. That's ok as it means DS will still have some gifts tomorrow. Parents are coming boxing I'm going to head back to parents house with DD on Boxing Day Eve so I can see neice on her bday

[Funinthesun15]

*sorry for typos auto correct on phone!

[Funinthesun15]

Obviously your opinion on whether or not your son is well enough to travel is just as valid as your husband's

Exactly this.

It is the DH that has witnessed all of the convulsions in the past and tbh in his shoes I would be cautious too.

OP thought he would be better today. Maybe because they are so what to go to family as it turns out if isn't the case.

[TheBunnyOfDoom]

I would delay Christmas now. He's obviously sick.

[diddl]

Do your tickets have a particular time on?

If not perhaps you could travel later than intended so that he would at least wake up where his presents are?

Coughing can be exhausting, I don't think yourhusband overrreacted by going to the GP.

Obviously your opinion on whether or not your son is well enough to travel is just as valid as your husband's.

It sounds as though he wants him to be completely well to travel whereas you are just hoping for well enough.

Neither is wrong.

If it was your husband's family that you were going to he might be OK with forgoing it whereas you don't want so it's easy to see why you are at cross purposes.