To be annoyed Xmas plans scuppered as DS ill

[Breadwidow]

We were due to travel up to my parents for a Big family Christmas at my parents tomorrow, with my sisters Family who live locally joining us on the. DS has temp and cold symptoms. DH thinks we should probably stay at home unless he makes miraculous recovery by tomorrow (unlikely seeing as these things usually last a week or so with him). I know this is the best move, since we are travelling by train (no car) and my parents will be noisy and from excitement - not Great for sick nearly 4 year old. I'm just a bit annoyed DH cannot relate to the fact I'm disappointed - I was so looking forward to spending Christmas with my family plus we've sent all our presents there so DS will have nothing to open on Christmas day if we stay at home. Aren't I allowed to be a bit disappointed. I'm also Quite annoyed with DH or taking the kids out all day on mon and tues when DS is up in the night unwell on Sun/mon night. He did seem much better by mon morning but yesterday he was lethargic & DH Still took him to me up with a friend while I was working. Grrr, so Xmas is gonna be a damp squib. Gutted

[StrictlyMumDancing]

If its selfish to take him to him own family on the train when he has a cold then I take it your DH has admitted that his illness is probably down to DH's own selfishness?

I'd rather have a slightly poorly DS on a long train ride than an extra active one

We're going to my parents too, and my DD is just getting over one illness, DS is just getting one and I'm ill too. But we've cancelled christmas for the last 3 years due to major medical issues, so everyone has decided bugs and colds are not good enough excuses! I'm more worried I wont be able to eat my mum's dinner.

Sounds an awful lot like your DH doesn't want to go to your parents.

[fanjoforthemammaries7850]

i was more thinking about other people on the train too, I wouldnt want them to get ill on Xmas day. But its difficult I know.

[lorelei9]

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your DH took him out though he was already unwell?

what about if DH stays at home with DS and the rest of you go?

it is awful when you're ill, as a child, and people drag you about because you have no say in it. I bet he wants to stay home in bed, poor love.

[Sparkletastic]

No way would I be cancelling. Dose him up and take plenty of fluids for journey. Could even take a fold up buggy if he will fit in one to save any unnecessary walking.

[PresidentUnderwood]

Massive overreaction IMO.

Fluids, feet up, paracetamol DS will be fine. If you're really worried & can afford it, then upgrade to first class.

is your DH normally like this?

[Breadwidow]

His temp is 38. DH thinks we can have Nice Christmas at home. DH Likes my family but it was my idea/ plan to go. I think I was a bit mean to him in my original post . DS seems a lot better on Monday morning, did not drag him out, more like DS dragged him (they went to his fave place, the natural history museum - on Monday morning he said to me before I went to work 'Daddy's taking us to the dinosaur museum today'. When Got him on Monday night he was fine and was also fine during the night. Yesterday DH didn't see his own friends - went on 'play date' with DS' friends. I had No concern about this on tues morning, but was pissed off to hear earlier today that though DS played happily with his friends he was grumpy and slow on scooter the way to the from the Play date, sign of him being a bit ill, so perhaps DH should have not stayed out as long.

[fanjoforthemammaries7850]

sounds like a bit more than a cold. He is your son though so I'm sure you will make the right call.

[May09Bump]

Is it possible to hire a car - do you or DH drive / can it be budgeted?

I wouldn't take an ill child on a train - it can be miserable at the best of times, but I would drive and set him up a quiet area in your families house to escape to if it gets too much.

[roundandroundthehouses]

I wouldn't cancel for a cold unless there's more to it than that. I'm actually also considering cancelling our plans due to a cold, but that's to avoid an encounter between a phlegmy hacking 14 yr old and two very elderly unwell people.

[Breadwidow]

DH advocates putting the kids first always, I Don't like plans being ruined. He was similar when DS was ill before we went on holiday, fortunately he got better before we left

[PenelopePitstops]

Your dh sounds like he doesn't want to go and is using your son as an excuse.

[whois]

It really doesn't sound serious enough to cancel Christmas Op!

[Inertia]

Cancelling for a cold is ridiculous! Your husband has found a convenient excuse to avoid something he doesn't want to do.

[Sandbrook]

So you actually have none of your DS' Father Christmas presents in your house, they are all in your mother's?

No chance I would stay at home in that case

[Breadwidow]

We could Hire a car but it would cost around 5x train tickets. We ruled it out before as way to travel and DH would prob say not worth it. Train is 2 hrs 20 mins plus 30 min tube journey to station, but I suggest we do that bit in taxi

[BitchPeas]

So it's better for his child to wake up to no presents on Xmas morning than to take him on a train ride with a cold?

To me that's just cruel!

[Breadwidow]

All DS presents, bar 2 stocking fillers, are at my mum's house. qas to make our packing easier. Stupid me

[Thurlow]

Well that's definitely reason to go.

He has a cold. That's rubbish, but nothing calpol and cuddles can't help with.

He'll be even worse if he doesn't have any presents at all!

[glintwithpersperation]

Your DH is being obstructive. I would tell him that you are going with DS with or without him

[Breadwidow]

I agree with all the posts saying we should go. How do I convince DH? My family also were sympathetic to his view rather than scoffing. If I say mums net disagrees with you it won't go down well

[ifonly4]

Would your family be happy for you to still go if DS is fighting off a bug, which could be spread around the family? If they don't mind, how is DS in himself? Is he lifeless and looking pale on the settee, or playing with his toys? I guess he's not really bad if you feel he'd miss out not having presents on Xmas Day (my DD was ill one Christmas and didn't care about her presents as she was that bad).

I guess if you're travelling by train, you haven't got a car. If you do however that could be a better transport option even if it's a long journey - you can easily keep it cool with open windows, stop if needed for DS.

[Breadwidow]

If I go alone I'm not sure DH would forgive me!

[TheBunnyOfDoom]

Take him, he just has a cold. Most kids have some kind of snotty nose bug this time of year. Sounds to me like your DH can't be bothered to spend Christmas with your family and is making excuses, tbh.

[MouldyPeach]

Won't your DS be really disappointed if you don't go? Better an Xmas with a cold and family and presents and fun than an Xmas with a cold and nothing much else.

[Breadwidow]

Thanks for the advice. He's chatty but pale. Should also add DH cancelled us seeing his family today cos of DS