to think Mumsnetters are quite antisocial?

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Just from reading different threads its just the feeling I get.

People don't answer the door or their home phone.

It has to be also be pre-arranged for anyone to pop over. My cousin came to deliver something today, no idea she was coming, happy to see her and invited her in.

People don't seem to like other people in their house, I was at a friends party last week. They were still up at 7am, I fell asleep and ended up staying the night - didn't ask and it wasn't a problem. I think this would horrify some.

A "girls night" seems to be viewed as rather childish.

If a partner has friends over it seems to have mutual agreement that this is annoying.

I could be very wrong and happy to be told so.

I've always thought similar on so may threads. Shocked about the not answering door thing

Arr feck off!!

Drink!!

What, all 600,000 of us? Statistically, that's fairly unlikely.

I hate unexpected guests . And in my old place did used to ignore the door if I wasn't expecting someone.

I'll admit though that I can be fairly antisocial. Forced social interaction isn't my things. I much prefer talking to the people who live inside my phone

Some days I don't feel like answering the door or the phone. Usually around here it's Mormons or Jehovas and I don't feel like discussing religion on the doorstep in my pyjamas. And sometimes I just don't feel like talking on the phone.

I'm the last person you'd describe as antisocial though... well, I say that. I'm skipping out on drinks and a night out tonight to snuggle up in my PJs and watch Wreck It Ralph

I dont know about all of mumsnet but I will happily admit to being pretty antisocial personally.
I routinely ignore my phone and the door. Anyone who knows me knows not to just turn up at my house.
I hate having people in my house.
I don't have any issue with girls nights or partners who have friends though.

DH is very antisocial, will merrily ignore phones/doors if he can. Having young children and a sociable wife means he has to put up with folk in the house at times but there's no doubt he secretly doesn't enjoy it much.

When the DC's have friends over DH has a well-worn routine; he greets the friends, makes polite talk for exactly five minutes then creeps into his office while I'm elsewhere. When the noise gets too much for him after another five minutes, the office door will slowly creak and close and you can almost hear the enormous sigh of relief that he's survived a social interaction.

I am anti social. I like it that way thank you and do the view it as a problem.

Well I'm like you, but am often surprised how many people on MN are so miserable anti-social, yes. Certainly a ridiculously high proportion of posters, and this certainly doesn't reflect my RL experience.

Unsociable; antisocial means you behave badly, or smell, etc.

You are right about these examples and i am often surprisef when i read some threads.

But it is not that mnetters are this or that. Some people are. Mn makes you to 'meet' people that you wouldnt meet in rl, different to you etc.

Also any internet forum will have lots of anti social members. The social ones are out having fun. Although some of us are social but trapped indoors because of children, lack of money etc.

I am anti social according to your initial judgment and happy with my choices.

Thanks for the recognition.

Anti social by your standards OP and proud!

Lots of introverts find socialising tiring rather than fun and prefer to chat online which is less draining. If you are a wild party animal who just drops in here for parenting tips, then you probably don't have all that many introverted friends, in real life, especially if you thing (or say) that they are boring and antisocial. So of course they are more likely to be on Mumsnet than at a party.

I am very sociable thank you very much.

However I hate popper inners, and I never ever answer our home phone.

I think 90% of MNers are sociable. They must be always out on a Friday night because MN is v e r r y s l o w w w thread wise on a Friday, in general.

Op you forgot meter readers.

I don't care if people visit unannounced

I answer the door, have girls nights in (and out), would happily have people sleep on my sofa if they'd come round for a drink, often have friends round for drinks, don't mind people dropping in unexpectedly (if I know them!). However if a new neighbour brought a cake round when id just moved in I wouldn't invite them in . I'm very sociable with people I know.

I'm not anti social

I just don't like people.

I never understand the not answering the door thing or people having to call before they visit tbh. "Girls nights" are a regular occurrence in my life and I'm 46! DH goes out regularly with his friends too and it never bothers me he rolls in at 6am sometimes. I do the same . We've always done it even when the children were small We have social lives together and apart. Not all Mumsnetters are anti social.

I'm antisocial. I like the Internet because I'm on control of he level of interaction.

I work with people and I am all peopled out by the time I get home.

especially if you thing (or say) that they are boring and antisocial

I never said boring

Is not answering the door anti-social unsociable? Perhaps it depends where you live but having had a neighbour mugged at knifepoint on the door step I ignore the door unless I'm expecting someone. On the rare occasion when I have answered the door because they've spotted I'm in through the window it's been Jehovah's Witnesses or an ex offender selling dusters - it's never anyone you'd like it to be.

As for the housephone, if it's before 6.00pm during the week I let the machine get it. It's always someone trying to sell a magazine or newspaper subscription or "Very important information about a PPI claim."

I do book time off work, tell nobody at all.

Then I have a day to myself.

Oh I have a social life. But it happens when I want it to. I go out, others come here, drinks are consumed, shopping occurs, the works! But I like to know when people are turning up and have my house vaguely tidy. And I'd like to be dressed...which I don't do if I'm staying in and not expecting anyone. I do the socialising thing on my terms.

On all the threads you mention, there are normally as many if not more people saying that it is somehow wrong, weird or anti social to do those things than there are people saying they do them.

I think people should be as social as they are comfortable being. From the cave dwelling hermit to the party animal who goes out on a thursday and gets home on a monday and everything in between.