to think Mumsnetters are quite antisocial?

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Just from reading different threads its just the feeling I get.

People don't answer the door or their home phone.

It has to be also be pre-arranged for anyone to pop over. My cousin came to deliver something today, no idea she was coming, happy to see her and invited her in.

People don't seem to like other people in their house, I was at a friends party last week. They were still up at 7am, I fell asleep and ended up staying the night - didn't ask and it wasn't a problem. I think this would horrify some.

A "girls night" seems to be viewed as rather childish.

If a partner has friends over it seems to have mutual agreement that this is annoying.

I could be very wrong and happy to be told so.

We never answer our landline as the only people that call it would be cold callers.

We answer the front door, mostly because dh has unwittingly given the whole house carte blanche for ordering stuff on his amazon prime account. We don't get anyone just turning up for a visit - our friends/family would text or call (mobiles) first.

I actually don't think its unsociable to not answer door or phone invasion txt me people.

oh, meant to say that it is perfectly possible to be a combination.

There are people who just walk right into my house. I also do not open the door to people who look like they are going to try to sell me something, save my soul, change my supply of anything or get me to donate £2 a month to save the Red Lipped Batfish. I regularly screen my calls and ignore the phone. I text and fb with friends late at night. I loathe 'girls nights out'-or any boozy nights out for that matter. I also would often invite a friend or neighbour for coffee and it would somehow end up being a party for 20 people that lasted until 2am.

Everyone is different. There's no one size fits all.

Why do people not answer the door or the phone? I find that strange.

a woman in my area answered her door to a stranger and got acid thrown in her face.

because they don't want to. Why do you find it strange?

you don't have to open the door to someone.

Why bother watching someone walk past your window with a clipboard and open the door to them when you're only going to say no thanks and shut it again? Bit of a waste of energy really.

As Stratters says, unsociable means you don't go to parties. Antisocial means you go to parties and shit in the plantpots.

what are you if you get horribly drunk and throw up in them?

Hypothetically speaking.

Tenish posts before the "unsociable" popped up...

I am not anti social. I am introvert. It is not something that needs to be fixed. Some extraverts can be very arrogant and narrow minded in their veiws of people and how they should conform to their social norm.

I always answer the door, but I suppose it depends where you live. We never have any problems with cold callers on our home phone or mobiles either.

I don't answer my door.
I don't answer my phone unless it's a number I know or my phone has saved.
I do like a girls night.
I don't mind dp's friends over, unless it's more than once a week.

Yepp, I'm abit anti social

Drunk OP?

I am anti social and very selective with my friends - so bite me

I've always thought similar on so may threads. Shocked about the not answering door thing"

I don't get it either. We have had workmen at our house the last three days and they parked their van in our drive. I ended up parking my car behind a neighbour's car and blocked her in. She knocked on our door when she needed her car to go to work. I imagine she would have been pretty pissed off if I had decided to just not answer the door.

I assume those who never answer their door or phone don't have window cleaners/get shopping delivered/receive deliveries from other online ordering/don't have elderly relatives who only have landlines/live in rough neighbourhoods.

Can sort of understand people not liking popper-inners, although they don't bother me, anyone calling on the off chance though knows they have to take us as they find us, but I too cannot understand why you wouldn't answer the door or the phone....what if someone needed to contact you urgently?

No, Bunbaker. My window cleaner is paid by direct debit and the postie knows to leave parcels in the shed. As for elderly relatives, they're all dead. I have caller ID and couldn't tell you who my neighbours are or what they look like.

I always answer my phone and door.

I have actually sat in a plant pot at a party.

I'm very sociable

As someone said up the thread, I imagine the people who always answer the door and like unexpected callers either live where they grow up, or very geographically close to family and friends. I've moved around a lot, my closest friends are in France, Switzerland and Brazil, all of both our families are non-UK. Unexpected rings at the doorbell where we live now are charity callers, people trying to sell me double glazing, or the JWs, and I'm busy. I work a lot of hours, and want to spend time with my son and husband. Am I wrong in thinking that the people who say they delight in unexpected callers don't work till eight at night, sometimes six days a week?

The expression 'girls' night out' is cringeworthy, if you're over 20. By all means go to a pub with female friends, but why call it something so weirdly juvenile?

Yep that's me.... another non door opener.

I'm introverted. I like to socialise, but on my own terms and I crave solitude after a certain amount of time with others to recharge.

There are also a lot of people who hate parties and weddings (but go anyway), and a surprising amount of women who seem to have friends they actually loathe.

Also always suprised at the door thing, there are any number of reasons someone might be knocking on your door? There is even a subset of people who not only don't answer the door or phone, but get irate about people daring to phone or knock in the first place!

Bunbaker I don't have window cleaners. I know my posties knock and will ignore it if I'm feeling so inclined and go pick my parcels up later , I know when my shopping is delivered and I have an answer phone.

Nobody, what if your neighbour wanted to let you know you'd left your car lights on, or something equally innocuous?