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To let my ten year old wear 2 inch heels to the school disco?

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AwfulMaureen · 02/04/2014 13:08

She's desperate to wear them...she's only got them because she needed a pair with heels in a show she did recently and I got her a cheap pair...they're the kind with straps.

She's had a bad time recently and suffered a knock in her confidence as well as the upheaval of moving house. She would wear them with plain jeans and a t shirt....is that oK or will all the other Mothers be cursing me?

I don't allow my DDs to wear any really grown up clothing at all....the heels are a sort of cuban heel really....but definitely a little bit grown up looking.

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AwfulMaureen · 02/04/2014 13:09

When I say they are the kind with straps I mean like a birthday shoe....so they won't fall off and she walks fine in them as she's used to ballroom dancing in heels.

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WipsGlitter · 02/04/2014 13:10

I'd say no, unless a lot of the others will have similar on.

Youdontneedacriminallawyer · 02/04/2014 13:11

I'd say no too. There's a lot of running about in school discos, and doubt these would be suitable.

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AwfulMaureen · 02/04/2014 13:12

I have no idea what the others will wear to be honest...DD is most emphatically NOT the kind of child to do running about at a disco.

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BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack · 02/04/2014 13:12

It'll be fine if she is used to dancing in heels anyway. it's a school disco, girls love to dress up for them.

Pootles2010 · 02/04/2014 13:13

Could you say no and get her some really pretty sparkly flats?

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AwfulMaureen · 02/04/2014 13:13

Betty that's what I thought...it's kind of their version of playing dress up surely? I know plenty take handbags with lipgloss and a bit of glitter in them....

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kilmuir · 02/04/2014 13:14

Will look chavvy

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AwfulMaureen · 02/04/2014 13:14

Pootles she's got two pairs of really lovely ballet flats...she's not keen at all on them. I wonder if it's partly because she's been moaning that she's short in height recently....she's one of the shortest for sure...

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WowserBowser · 02/04/2014 13:15

My mum got me a little pair of heels. I was probably younger than 10 and wore them for parties. I don't wear them at all now.

I would say yes, if she wants to wear them.

SaucyJack · 02/04/2014 13:15

I think it's fine for a party.

She's ten- not two.

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AwfulMaureen · 02/04/2014 13:15

Kilmuir "Chavvy* is a despicable word and not one which I care to allow to affect my choices. To be honest, a lot on MN will judge those who accuse others of being "it" more than the accused.

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AwfulMaureen · 02/04/2014 13:16

Saucy my thoughts again....I've never let her have a heel until these...when they're tiny they're totally unsuitable I agree...but a poised ten year old who is trained to dance the bleddy Cha cha cha and the foxtrot in them...I think she'll be fine doing a bit of Gangnam style to be honest.

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WorraLiberty · 02/04/2014 13:17

I'd let her wear them if she wanted to.

Serious question though. How big a part do the other mothers play in your life that you're worried they might start cursing you?

Comeatmefam · 02/04/2014 13:17

I wouldn't let her, no.

Half an inch or an inch at a push.

My 10 year old dd would go arse over tit in two inch heels.

almondcake · 02/04/2014 13:17

I think it is fine. That's no different than the character shoes DD wore for ballet at 10.

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 02/04/2014 13:18

It's fine for a disco, it's dressing up isn't it? I'd be very surprised if the majority of them weren't dolled up to the nines with full on slap as well.

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AwfulMaureen · 02/04/2014 13:19

Worra lol it's more that I don't want their DC to be saying "But Mini Maureen had HEELS on! WHY can't I have some!"

And then they'll all be "That awful Maureen...I told you she was awful!"

Grin Comeat yes I'm sure some ten year olds would go arse over tit but as I said, mine does ballroom and has for years...she can dance any dance and walk well in heels.

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Taffeta · 02/04/2014 13:19

If you are happy and she is happy that's all that matters. Sod what anyone else thinks.

Thetallesttower · 02/04/2014 13:20

Character shoes aren't 2 inches high!

Do you mean 2cm perhaps OP?

2 inches are quite high shoes.

I wouldn't tbh, but then neither of mine could cope with 2 inch heels, perhaps a very small chunky heel- I wouldn't be against that.

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AwfulMaureen · 02/04/2014 13:20

Almond thank you...they are very like character shoes. I don't think they look half as good with her jeans as her flats but it's about letting her make some choices and maybe giving her a bit of a confidence boost as she's very shy.

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NigellasDealer · 02/04/2014 13:20

oh let her if she is good in them.....it is a pair of heels not crack.

wintertimeisfun · 02/04/2014 13:21

i wouldn't but i am old fashioned and don't dress dd up in an older style but each to their own

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AwfulMaureen · 02/04/2014 13:22

Tallest no....two inches.

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BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack · 02/04/2014 13:22

All young girls want to do it look older - when I was 10 I couldn't wait to wear a bra and get hairy armpits - now I curse them both :)

It's a disco, it will be flush with heels, lip gloss, glitter, straightened hair and stuffed bra's.

Let her wear them, she will be fine and it will make her feel good.

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