To let my ten year old wear 2 inch heels to the school disco?

[AwfulMaureen]

She's desperate to wear them...she's only got them because she needed a pair with heels in a show she did recently and I got her a cheap pair...they're the kind with straps.

She's had a bad time recently and suffered a knock in her confidence as well as the upheaval of moving house. She would wear them with plain jeans and a t shirt....is that oK or will all the other Mothers be cursing me?

I don't allow my DDs to wear any really grown up clothing at all....the heels are a sort of cuban heel really....but definitely a little bit grown up looking.

So the path to fixing a girls confidence lies in heels and make up. Great.

How silly. Would you say that someone who takes their kid out for ice cream because they've had a rough day is teaching them to fix their problems with food?

A child here in Scotland is a bairn, or as Fanjo says, also either a wee girl or a wee boy.

Got nothing to do with height, my 6ft 3" cousin is "Wee Derek" and his uncle who is 30 years his senior, and about 5ft 6" is "Big Derek"

OP, I have two DDs, and I am the the most old fashioned, prudiest mother you could ever hope to meet, and I would have had no problems at all with alowing either of them wear a heeled shoe to a disco, let her wear them, and I hope she has a great time>

Agreed gordy.

My DD's now 23 & 26 had 'spice girl' shoes when they were in years 5&6, hideous things, think trainers with high heels they wore them to school discos and thought they were the bees knees! DC1 even had a version of the Union Jack dress that ginger spice (Gerry?) wore
Neither of them have become prostitutes, or drug addicts, or even smoke,both have professional jobs,
Stop overthinking OP, let your daughter wear her lovely shoes,let her have some confidence and feel good about herself, hope she has a great time, life's too short to worry about 2inch heels

Agreed gordy.

Please don't round on me with the PA "hth" either.

You know the threads about "why is MN so much nastier of late"? It's because of posts attacking posters (even ones making silly/unpopular points) rather than dealing with the views themselves.

It's a shame that MN has changed so much since PB.

I let DD1 wear the mini dress up monsoon heels her grandma was badgered into buying her to birthday parties and she's 4, shoot me!

She also likes to go out dressed as a spider or wearing very odd combos so I'm not too worried.

If you are both ok with it then sod everyone else, to her they are dancing shoes, make them banned and disgusting and you will reinforce the glamorisation of such things for when they are older.

Sigh... okay, okay. Spectacular point missing there.

OP - what have you decided?

www.dancewear365.com/shoes/tap-shoes-and-character-shoes/cuban/bloch-cabaret-leather-stage-shoe-s0306/
I looked at these and thought - fine though it wouldn't be my choice with jeans and a plain t-shirt
Then I looked at this and they are listed as the same height heel which I honestly don't see how this could be possible?
www.dancewear365.com/shoes/tap-shoes-and-character-shoes/cuban/bloch-broadway-hi-character-shoe-s0377l/

Personally I'd be more concerned that there's bound to be spillages on the floor at a school disco and she's more likely to slip in heels and twist something than in flats. If she's a keen dancer then it could be a royal PITA.

If she's been down, why not take her to buy a pretty new top for the dance?

I'd let her wear them. Put her flats in a little bag to take along with her then she can swap them if she feels uncomfortable.

Or a nice pair of dungarees and some sturdy workboots...

Think dammitsue just loves posting very extreme, inflammatory views. She was like this on the cat run over by a bike post the other day. Weird!
I reckon there is more chance of a child who has been repressed when growing up to go off the rails in teenage - slapping on the slap and wearing inappropriate clothes.

Hahaa, extreme views!? Those shoes Oscar has posted are fucking high! Slut high. Not cutesy ikkle girly heels. But, I am an extremist for not bowing down to nasty comments on threads!! OK, let my reign of terror continue then.

How can you act all feminist then call shoes "slut high". The mind boggles.

You need to see almondcake's link (above at 14:18) for the shoe in question here. Not the different (higher heeled ones) that oscarwilde has lit upon.

Different people have different perceptions. But perhaps it would help if we started with the same shoes?

Mid-heel dance shoes do not cause the changes in motion or posture of eg high narrow stilettos.

There are some very weird people on here lately

How can you act all feminist then call shoes "slut high". The mind boggles

I agree with bells on!

Let her, just make her put some flat shoes in her bag.

I remember this dilemma when my DDs were younger. I was always against letting them wear stuff that was 'too grown up'. I think I did let them wear low heels though, and it was fine. A wider heel though, nothing narrow/stiletto looking. Its a difficult one..they are starting to think of 'glam' by that age. It didnt do my 2 any harm so Id say go for it. If the shoes were outrageous you wouldn't have bought them in the 1st place, even if just for a show..

Let her. Not worth saying no to. If she's been down and it would make her happy who gives a f*ck what the other mums will say?

oh fgs let her wear them! I cant see why everyone is being so fussy :s

How can you act all feminist then call shoes "slut high". The mind boggles.

This.

Some posters need to get a grip on their offensive posting if they ever want their views to be taken seriously.