To let my ten year old wear 2 inch heels to the school disco?

[AwfulMaureen]

She's desperate to wear them...she's only got them because she needed a pair with heels in a show she did recently and I got her a cheap pair...they're the kind with straps.

She's had a bad time recently and suffered a knock in her confidence as well as the upheaval of moving house. She would wear them with plain jeans and a t shirt....is that oK or will all the other Mothers be cursing me?

I don't allow my DDs to wear any really grown up clothing at all....the heels are a sort of cuban heel really....but definitely a little bit grown up looking.

Winters neither do I. As I said, her clothing is all jeans and plain tees....or little jersey dresses and leggings...big jumpers and sweatshirts. This is a pair of heels....her jeans and tee are very age appropriate.

But honestly I get "oh so and so is allowed to play on his XBox at breakfast/get the latest Nike trainers every 3 months/have Internet access/gel his hair for school etc etc nearly every day from my 10 yo DS.

I always answer the same thing "I am not interested in what other people do, only in what you do."

And if the other mothers can't do that, well then I certainly wouldn't be worried about what they thought.

Betty thank you...I'm totally NOT into fake tan or dressing kids in grown up stuff....but I do want her to feel that "I look really cool" feeling.

DD wore her character shoes to her leavers' meal. She only owned trainers and school shoes, and both would have looked odd with a dress.

A two inch heel is not very high. It is easier to walk in a block heel than a stiletto, and easier to walk in a shoe with a strap than without. DD could easily run around safely in character shoes. There's probably more than half an inch of heel on a start rite sandal anyway. There's more than an inch of heel on DS's school trainers!

winters unpurse your lips

Taffeta yes...you're right. It's my choice and I'm sure they won't let it affect theirs.

Yes I would.

It's 2 inch heels to a school disco. A one off I presume.

We're not talking nipple tassles here

if she wants to wear them, let her wear them

shes perfectly able to walk and dance in them

what do any of you think would be the harm in a little girl wearing a pair of tiny heels?

They are dancing shoes.

Discos are for dancing.

Therefore dancing shoes must be allowed

Lots of ten year olds will have started their periods by then, plenty old enough to cope with heels on a special night. As a PP said they are ten not two.

Just a thought. If the disco is in the gym or school hall, they might not be allowed heels? Same reason they have to have flats and non-marking soles.

Character shoe heels are 1-2 inches high, depending on the regulations of the dance exam the child is intending to take.

Not sure about the other Mums cursing you but my DD would be very judgey.
She went to her End of Yr 6 Disco in dark denim jeans, a chiffony top over a black cami and sparkly black flip-flops not the lovely dress I bought her

But all her friends were dressed the same as her (of cpourse)

She was very scathing at the high heeled girls "they couldn't dance about"

She can walk & dance in them, plus is shy and self conscious about her height? Let her! She 10 and she wants to :D - I dont see the problem. Just be prepared for the judgey pants and looks from the other parents

I'd have no problem with it as I used to do loads of ballroom dancing and was trained to walk/dance in heels from a very early age.

Although...you may not realise OP but if your daughter took part in open competitions and took exams with one of the main governing bodies of ballroom, her shoes would be "illegal" if they had a slim heel, also if the heel on her shoes are more than 3.5cm (1 3/8 inches). These rules were brought in to limit any potential damage to little feet and ankles. She's be allowed slim/higher heels when she gets to 12.

So I'm guessing what I'm saying is that even the ballroom world thinks they're too high...but I'd still let her wear them anyway :)

Definitely let her wear them. It's an occasion for dressing up after all!

My DD had bridesmaids shoes with a heel about 1.5 inches and wore them to parties and discos.

I wasn't aware of anyone passing adverse comment about her choice.

Cant see a problem as long as shes able to walk and dance

yes, if she can walk. She wont look chavvy. She will look happy and like a wee girl dressing up.

Nothing more creepy than a child teetering and clicking about in heels. I judge their parents very harshly.

well, dammitsue wont be there. so don't worry if she will judge you.

High heels are designed to push out your bum and tits. Hardly appropriate for children. Disgusting, in fact. And like I said, creepy.

I would let her wear them. She is 10 and it's a disco. No different to wearing a bit of lip gloss or nail varnish in my opinion. I think it can look bad (not at all 'creepy' - WTF!) when a child is 'teetering' around looking like they have their mum's shoes on but she won't be because as you've said, she is very confident in them so I think it's fine.

god she's what - year 6?? defintely let her!! my two were in small heels for dance aged 7 or 8. they had the strappy bridesmaid style shoes with a 1.5 inch heel in y5 or so for parties and stuff, they LOVED them it was a BIG DAY in their lives when they got to wear them for special occasions. I don't think a pair of party shoes is a direct line to a life of sex drugs and rock n' roll.

i think you should unclench, sue