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To let my ten year old wear 2 inch heels to the school disco?

166 replies

AwfulMaureen · 02/04/2014 13:08

She's desperate to wear them...she's only got them because she needed a pair with heels in a show she did recently and I got her a cheap pair...they're the kind with straps.

She's had a bad time recently and suffered a knock in her confidence as well as the upheaval of moving house. She would wear them with plain jeans and a t shirt....is that oK or will all the other Mothers be cursing me?

I don't allow my DDs to wear any really grown up clothing at all....the heels are a sort of cuban heel really....but definitely a little bit grown up looking.

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Bedsheets4knickers · 02/04/2014 14:37

Oh let her wear them she's 10 not 4, and it's a party . I would x

OneOfOurLilkasIsMissing · 02/04/2014 14:39

The 'other mothers' who won't invite little miss glamour to their nice innocent childrens parties!

A snob, in other words

I've found most mothers not to be snobby. It might just be the nice area in which I live though. Nice as in, lots of nice sensible people, not 'naice' as in middly classy type place

BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack · 02/04/2014 14:39

Dammitsue - I think you need to brush that enormous chip off your shoulder. You sound very angry?

Little Miss Glamour because she is wearing heels as a one off to a school disco......were you not allowed to go to school discos when you were a kid or something?

If people were to not invite a little girl to a party because she wore heels to disco, well in my eyes, that would make them a bit of an arsehole.

LokiDokey · 02/04/2014 14:41

Another in the 'let her get on with it' camp. 2" Cuban heels at a school disco are hardly stripper shoes through town on a Saturday afternoon now are they.

FauxFox · 02/04/2014 14:42

What Betty said.

You are way OTT Sue there are bigger things to worry about.

LokiDokey · 02/04/2014 14:43

Oh, and as for other mothers' who won't invite little miss glamour to their nice innocent childrens parties! well I'm afraid if other Mother is that bloody judgemental that she makes a decision on the morals of a family based on the type of shoes she wears for a couple of hours at a special occasion then I wouldn't want the invite anyway because I'd be doing my damnedest to make sure my kid didn't judge someone else on their footwear Wink

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 02/04/2014 14:44

curlyweasel, referring to a kid as a mini prostitute is at best totally vulgar. at worst, well i wont say

ramonaquimby · 02/04/2014 14:46

why are you asking if you're letting her wear them anyways? never know why people post on when their minds are already made up!
my 2cents worth - no. I think they are too high for a primary school girl at a disco

Curlyweasel · 02/04/2014 14:47

Nipple tassels GUFFAW!

LadyEnglefield · 02/04/2014 14:49

My DTDs (8) had pink glittery shoes with 1.5 inch heels when they were flower girls last September. They loved wearing them.

DTD2 wore hers to the school disco last week, didn't go arse over tit, didn't get any snidey comments.

She's a little on the short side, probably the smallest in her class, and absolutely hates it. In fact she's had a few nasty comments from a couple of boys about her height which have really upset her.

Obviously, I wouldn't let her wear shoes like that on a day to day basis but as a one off it really boosted her confidence. Mind you, so did arriving at the disco with DP in his dinner suit! He was off to a black tie do and dropped them off on his way!

Let her wear the shoes & to hell with everyone else!

LtEveDallas · 02/04/2014 14:50

DD's school had a KS2 disco last year and specified that heels of any kind were NOT to be worn - including by the parent helpers. I'd check with the school first if I were you.

I wouldn't let DD do this, but then I know that DD would probably end up standing on someone else's foot causing tears and tantrums. If you are sure your DD isn't as clumsy as mine I can't see the issue.

dammitsue · 02/04/2014 14:54

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BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack · 02/04/2014 14:55

You are just being pathetic now!

LokiDokey · 02/04/2014 14:55

oh dear Sue, now you are coming off as a bit of a cow tbh.

Curlyweasel · 02/04/2014 14:58

Fanjo - really? Did you not see what I was doing there?

Okay. I think you calling OP's DD a 'wee girl' is INCREDIBLY offensive - especially as OP has already said DD is having self-esteem issues regarding her height.

I mean, really. Come. On.

OneOfOurLilkasIsMissing · 02/04/2014 14:59

For someone who likes very clear distinctions between 'adult' and 'child' in every respect, you're acting in a rather childish manner Sue

MiscellaneousAssortment · 02/04/2014 15:01

I'd check that they're allowed then do it.

One evening. One little girl with low confidence, who needs a boost. With jeans it's not exactly the height of craziness is it?

They are Dance Shoes not fuck me shoes!

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 02/04/2014 15:05

nice try. but in scotland a child is a "wee girl"

meditrina · 02/04/2014 15:05

There's no need to round on sue because you don't agree with her.

But I think equating high heels to cigarettes is a ludicrous straw man.

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 02/04/2014 15:05

we're not. it's because she is being quite offensive. hth

dammitsue · 02/04/2014 15:07

So the path to fixing a girls confidence lies in heels and make up. Great.

FederationPresidentBarryFife · 02/04/2014 15:09

I say let her wear them too. I had a fabulous hideous pair of white kitten heels that my Gma bought me when I was about the same age. I loved wearing them and felt special and confident. She'll have fun going and feeling so grown up. Sounds totally lovely and harmless.

eightandthreequarters · 02/04/2014 15:10

Just let her wear them. It's only shoes, for heaven's sake.

Curlyweasel · 02/04/2014 15:11

I thought a child was a bairn not a wee girl. Are boys wee girls too then? How very odd! Isn't the use of language strange sometimes.

You can read all sorts of things into it, or deliberately misunderstand things if you REALLY want to, can't you?

You shot my post in the face - good on you. Shall we leave it?

gordyslovesheep · 02/04/2014 15:15

Is have no issues with it at all. I think patents should choose their battles carefully. It's a pair of shoes ...ignore the goady posters , they should be revising