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Original poster

that parents should fucking ask me first before going out and leaving their son outside playing with mine ..

193 replies

ggirl · 15/03/2014 15:00

kids are 10/11
playing happily which if fine
but I want to go out
ds's friends parents have buggered off somewhere so we have to wait for them to come home ......wankers

and i don't want to take their child with me

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AgentProvocateur · 15/03/2014 15:01

Why do you have to wait? I'm sure they won't be gone long, and probably think he's fine outside on his own. You're making it hard for yourself.

Sirzy · 15/03/2014 15:03

Why do you have to wait?

Maybe they are happy for him to be left home alone/out playing alone.

Original poster
ggirl · 15/03/2014 15:03

they've locked him out
I'd feel rotten leaving him

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GlaikitFizzog · 15/03/2014 15:03

Oh dear! I hope they haven't done that. Is it possible they said "come one wee jimmy we are going to the shops" and wee gg (your ds has said, "it's Pom my mum said he can stay and play"?

I remember pulling a similar stunt at their age.do you have any way of contacting them?

onedev · 15/03/2014 15:03

I'd assume they're fine with him playing as he is - I'm sure they're not expecting you to look after him. Do what you need to do.

auntpetunia · 15/03/2014 15:04

bloody cheeky! does child have a phone to ask where they are? if

GlaikitFizzog · 15/03/2014 15:04

My god, of you can make sense of my post well done! Too many typos to correct!

LaurieFairyCake · 15/03/2014 15:04

Does he have a phone?

Go out, take your kid, tell the other kid you're off out and to call his mum if he's not allowed on his own.

pussycatdoll · 15/03/2014 15:04

I'd just go

Original poster
ggirl · 15/03/2014 15:04

ok fair enough
am off out

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Nomama · 15/03/2014 15:06

Well, if they live next door or nearby then they haven't left him with you, they've just left him....

Go out! He's 10/11, surely he can cope with being alone for a while. It's not illegal or anything!

Thumbwitch · 15/03/2014 15:10

Poor kid, that his parents have done that!
Do go though, he's not your responsibility - and maybe that'll teach them to be less cheeky in the future.
Mind you, at 11 I had my own key to the house so I could have let myself back in under those circumstances.

quietbatperson · 15/03/2014 15:11

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Catsmamma · 15/03/2014 15:16

we had neighbours that used to do this...it was grandparents who were the neighbours and the daughter and grandchild would come visiting. He come and foist himself on my lot, and they'd bugger off without a fecking word

not
a
fecking
word

...can you tell this still riles??

Twice they dumped him....third time I was out gardening and stopped their car....it's a shared drive... and told them i was going out so unless they wanted to leave him on their doorstep they'd best take him.

I think the fact that I continued to garden and sit out for the rest of the day confused then but they always collected him in after that.

Thumbwitch · 15/03/2014 15:30

Quitebat - but that's fine if you have a key. Not so much if the poor boy has been locked out of his own house.

LoveBeingCantThinkOfAName · 15/03/2014 15:40

Personally I would wait, does he know where they've gone or their no.?

Schoolchauffeur · 15/03/2014 15:40

We had this all the time with old neighbours of ours when DD was six in a very safe cul de sac where all the kids played out. Their DD was a menace, letting herself into our back garden to play whilst we were eating dinner and peering through the window as we hadn't answered the door as we were eating!

She always turned up "to play" just as her parents were going to do the Saturday supermarket shop and we would see their car leaving! No word said, their house locked up so we were stuck. I sent her back one day and her dad came over and accused DH of making their life difficult as now they'd have to take her out with them and "she didn't like shopping", acted as if we were his paid childminder who had let him down at the last minute!!

DH pointed out that to many people locking a six year old out of the house and going out without getting someone to accept responsibility for her looked like child neglect. It never happened again!

Thumbwitch · 15/03/2014 15:47

Shock - he said that you were making their life difficult? The cheek of him!!

quietbatperson · 15/03/2014 15:48

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arethereanyleftatall · 15/03/2014 15:48

Could you plhone the parents and say you need to go out,and can't take their child with.

Thumbwitch · 15/03/2014 15:55

Not so good then, Quietbat! :(
Bet you don't do it to your DC, do you?

expatinscotland · 15/03/2014 16:14

I'd have called the police on 101. Yes, I really would have. That's child neglect.

Nomama · 15/03/2014 16:16

The police?

The kid is 10/11 - old enough to be criminally liable for his own actions. He can certainly be left to his own devices for a few hours over the weekend.

That would be a ridiculous over reaction and the police would probably be quite short with anyone making a phone call for this.

quietbatperson · 15/03/2014 16:16

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expatinscotland · 15/03/2014 16:20

He was locked out of his home with no one accepting responsibility for him, and yes, I have done in the past and instead of being short with me they had words with the parents who did this.

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