that parents should fucking ask me first before going out and leaving their son outside playing with mine ..

[ggirl]

kids are 10/11
playing happily which if fine
but I want to go out
ds's friends parents have buggered off somewhere so we have to wait for them to come home ......wankers

and i don't want to take their child with me

[GlaikitFizzog]

Nomama, the police would not be short with anyone for reporting this. 10 years old may mean different things to different children. If the parents are happy to abandon without informing anyone what other neglect is going on?

Disclaimer, it's a few years since I worked for the police, so attitudes may have changed but I doubt it

[BookABooSue]

I did the same as Glaikit at that age ie inviting friends to play without checking with my parents, etc. I wouldn't leave the boy on his own in case that is what happened.

[mercibucket]

what a fuss over nothing at all

he is playing out. his parents are happy for him to play out. he is well old enough at 10/11 to be out playing.

[Foodylicious]

Are they back? did you go out?

[ggirl]

All's well , dh came home so he wasn't abandoned .

I know he's old enough to spend a short time outside his house waiting for his parents to come home but I felt bad doing that.

I wouldn't want ds to be left locked out ..but then I wouldn't lock him out in the first place.
Not the first time it's happened .

Others have done it by asking ds is it's alright if their son can stay while they pop out ..ds always asks us first..he's learnt that it annoys me.

[MrsDmitriTippensKrushnic]

It's one thing for a 10/11 yo to be left at home or left playing with access to home, it's quite another to leave them on the streets. It's nothing to do with playing out. What's he supposed to do if he gets hurt, or it starts to rain, or he wants a drink/pee/watch TV? Assuming he'll go knock on someone's door is just lazy parenting.

[babyboomersrock]

I can't believe some people think it's ok for a 10/11 year old to be left alone, locked out. What's he supposed to do if it rains? Or if he needs the loo?

[macdoodle]

I can't believe the fuss over nothing. I cannot see how this was any of the OP business. He wasn't in your house or your care was he? Why did you feel you needed to be involved. Nosy and judgy IMO.

[HermioneWeasley]

Macdoodle - people can be as "nosey and judged" as they like in my book when it comes to responsible parenting. Or "being a responsible adult" as I like to call it.

Fucking off with no way of your child contacting you or even having shelter is utterly neglectful IMO.

[ggirl]

I can't see what fuss I'm making... besides starting this thread.

[Nomama]

Me either, ggirl.

I remember surviving perfectly well without phones, keys, open doors etc. I think there is a lot of overthinking and fear out there these days. But a 10 year old left playing out for an hour or so should not cause anyone a problem - certainly not you!

[YouStayClassySanDiego]

There are some arses posting on this thread.

Leaving a 10/11 year old alone on the street and locked out of their home is shite behaviour, anyone who thinks otherwise is barking.

OP was concerned, quite rightly so.

[expatinscotland]

Were you locked out, kim, they left lunch stuff outside? And with no warning that they were not going to be there?

[rookiemater]

OP you are absolutely right to be concerned. What would happen if this boy had an accident - are you deemed to be responsible as his parents have gone away?
I'd have a word with the parents when they come back. At that age I believe it's fair enough for a child to be on their own for a short while say an hour or so, but they should have access to their home and a mobile so they can contact their parents if required.

[expatinscotland]

She doesn't have the parents' phone number. COMPLETELY irresponsible to fuck off and expect other people to look after your kids because 'they know house to go to.'

[Thumbwitch]

They do, Kim - but the boy in the OP's post might only know her! And she wanted/needed to go out, so what does he do then? Knock on random doors if he needs the loo? Piss in the street?

[Jellymum1]

Im not being funny but I Wouldn't think a 10/11 year old is old enough to be left locked out alone? What would happen I wonder if you went out op and got home and neighbours kid was missing!!! Im certain they'd have something to say to you for going out and leaving him in the street. At 11 these kids might be old enough to play out but with access to the house! Poor kid.