To think this woman should answer her phone if she is responsible for my son ?

[Shinyshoes1]

Or am I BU ?

My son has been dating this young girl for about 2 months it's all very intense

My son is 16 and his gf is 15 ... He frequently request to stay at her house .... I've refused for a few reasons

1. children are far more sexually aware than when i was younger ..
2. they've been hanging out for very little time although they spend every waking hour together
3. I don't know the home set up ... She has an injunction against her mum or vice versa ... There's an injunction somewhere .. She lives with her aunt
4. I don't want them rushing into anything

They all meet up in secret ...

The young girl has gone away for 10 days with her aunt leaving my son a bit crestfallen , however the mum has taken has taken him under her wing .... I've never met any of them as

1. they are 15/16 it's very early days
2. he's 16 and it's only very recently I've given him Quite a bit of freedom

He stayed over the mothers last night , as I said the daughter is on holiday , there was a " family party " he's got on with all of the family members he's met so far ...

He asked to meet the rest of the family members and he asked if he could stayed the night .....

I have just phoned to speak to her for the very first time as this is the most significant time he's spent at her hoide and I get a text

"she's cooking dinner she daid ring later "

I am pissed off as this is will be the first time I've spoken to her
My DP thinks its very strange that he's staying at the gf mothers house as she's away
Dinner can effin wait .... She's cooking for my son and Her i rvin that an effort should be made ...

I know it's not all about me and she shouldn't be at my beck and call but
I put all of my callers on speaker phone so I can prepare dinner and speak to them at the same time , I I did this with my sister earlier today
Why is my son texting the message , why don't she put the potato peeler down and send a text or like I say just press the speaker button
I just find it rude
Very rude

Could your son be lying about where he is?

Sounds like your son and his girlfriend are pulling a fast one to me.

Well he's 16 & a big boy now so I don't really know what you are expecting? I think YABU.

YABVVVU

You called in the middle of her making dinner. She said she would call you later. Behave like a functional human being.

I wouldn't be worried about the etiquette of it all- the bigger issue is why on earth would a 16 year old boy want to stay at his girlfriends mothers if said girlfriend wasn't there........

I agree it sounds like he's telling porkies!

I'd tell him to get his arse home immediately and don't let him go back until you've gone and met the woman and spoke about the set up

At 16 he's responsible for himself and not the mothers responsibility. My phone doesn't work in the kitchen so no chatting if I'm cooking.

Got to agree about where your DS is staying. Try not too stress tho.

I don't think she is the problem here.

He is with the girlfriend. Mum is not there. Whos got a court injunction?

Whaaaat? His girlfriend doesn't stay with her mum and has an injunction against her, but he's gone to the mum's house for a "family party" and to stay over when gf isn't there? And he desperately wants to stay over WITH the girlfriend but his request are refused?

OP, you've been had. I bet the number you have for his girlfriend's mum is not hers at all, and any further attempts to speak with you end up with him fobbing you off!

Your OP makes little sense. If the DD or the mother have an injunction why on earth would he be staying with the mother unless there's an attraction there?

Why would he be staying with the mum if the daughter has an injunction against her?

I really didn't understand the who's who of your post, but the crux of it seems to be that your 16 yo (pretty much adult) son is at someone's house and you think they should drop everything they're doing to speak to you the second you wish to speak to them?

Is that it?

YABU.

how very odd!

your ds is staying overnight with a woman his girlfriend has an injunction out on?

I agree with others- he is lying.

BUT- if it is so very important that you speak to this woman who you claim is responsible for your son then why the hell have you left it til he's already there to speak to her and not called her before he went to make sure it was ok?

I'm another that thinks he's with his GF

If he really is at his GF mums then I think that's weird in itself and why would he be with her without his GF if there's an injunction between them?

He is either with the girlfriend or something is going in with the mum

And you're focusing on her not putting the potato peeler down to chat with you?

I'm also baffled as to why he's with the mother if she and the daughter aren't on speaking terms, and why he would be sleeping over.

Weird all round.

Yep I'd be trotting round personally to "collect" him.

But remember what it's like to be that age, everything IS very intense!

Well this is all just fuckin nuts, innit?

Yes erm what they all said. He's been spinning you a big story.

You've been had, OP.

Shiny He's obv pulling a fast one...I'd just tallk to him about contraception if I were you.