To not lie to the dr as instructed by dh.

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Dh is clearly being an unreasonable arse.

He suffers from hayfever. Normally he gets it on prescription as it is so expensive over the counter and he gets through a lot of it. It costs nearly £20 to buy over the counter. He has recently moved to my dr's surgery, previously he was still at the one where he lived before and his mother used to get the prescription and pay for the charge.

I suffer from a long term medical condition which entitles me to free prescriptions. So he wants me to go and lie to the dr and get the hayfever stuff so we don't have to pay. I have refused. This morning he said to me to go to the chemist to get his hayfever stuff and I said ok if he gave me the money (I'm a poor sahm, he earns 70k+ a year). He refused and said I could pay as its my own fault for refusing to get him free prescriptions.

I will not do this a) because its just plain wrong, b) because I've never had hayfever in my life and it'll probably look odd of I suddenly develop so badly I need eye drops, nose drops and antihistamines and c) because I have quite enough on my medical record without anything else.

I'm not being unreasonable am I?! He is not very pleased but in all honestly he is a bit of a bulky sometimes and I think he thinks I will give in if he's unpleasant enough.

he sounds like an utter wanker

Bully not bulky!

You aren't being unreasonable at all.

What a horrible life for you to be with someone who treats you with contempt.

What an idiot, make him get it himself!

I wonder if he criticises people who fiddle their welfare payments. I see no difference.

He is an arse.

Also own brand anti histamine are about £2 for a weeks supply.

What a shit.

YANBU, he is an unreasonable arse. You shouldn't lie because there could be a conflict between the hay fever medication and your medical condition, what would happen if you became ill and the dr assumed it was because if the hay fever medication he thinks you're taking? And not to mention the moral side of things. Don't do it, 70k doesn't really merit free prescriptions.

Of course youre not being unreasonable. Aside from the fact that its fraud - which should be deterrent enough - what if you develop a new condition, and the only medicine for it is contra-indicated for people with bad hayfever? What if his symtpoms worsen so much that he needs to go to the doctor, and then of course can't discuss it. Does he have health insurance, and do you, becuase this kind of fraud could invalidate it.

Why are you a poor sahm when he earns 70K?

I would be rubbing his pillow all over the garden as soon as the fucker left the house.

HTH

he earns 70K and won't pay a prescription charge - tosser!

YANBU.

He's an arse, how long have you been together?
Certainly don't get him the medication if he doesn't pay up front, it's not infectious so it's not your problem.
I pay for my prescriptions and they are very expensive, but then I've got the money to pay for them which others don't.

You are a poor SAHM says it all really. He's a dick. Buy some strong laxatives and disguise them as his hay fever tablets. And put chilli oil in his eye drops.

" (I'm a poor sahm, he earns 70k+ a year)"

this is very sad

do you really not think that his salary is for both of you?
I suppose he doesn't think that way either

Sorry, what is this whole your money, his money business?? You are a team, it's everybodies money. Please tell me you have access to the (joint) funds.

And YANBU. He's an arse.

yanbu

but what on earth antihistamine is he using that is so pricey? sainsbury's citirizine is £1 for 14 (the same as zirtec)

I was aghast he even suggested it tbh.

He's a cheapskate and a wanker.

Also, why do you not have enough money just because you're a SAHM? I assume you are looking after his children?

Set up a joint account or LTB.

YANBU!

He is. Prescription charges are annoying - especially when you're on medication all year round for ever and don't qualify for free prescriptions. But they aren't actually that much and it's a small price to pay for being well.

He does have an alternative if he doesn't want to pay for the medication: go without and just suffer the symptoms.

You are a poor SAHM and he earns 70K? He doesn't pool his money with you, and he bullies you?

The fucker can sneeze.

What the hell kind if doctor is going to prescribe a shed load of hay fever meds to some one who is very obviously not suffering from hay fever and has never done so?

It wouldn't work even if it was ethical.

It's £6 ffs.

However yabu to describe yourself as a poor sahm when your partner earns 70k! Are they his children?
If so that income is joint.

Tbh he sounds like a complete knob, tell me what are his redeeming features?

Also if you have long term condititions you need a mutuall relationship of trust with your doctor. If he figures out you are lying, why will he neccessarily take you seriously next time. If he doesn't, what if he wants to send you for tests? And if he doesn't figure out that you ate lying how are you going to respect his professional opinion next time you need it?

I'm a poor sahm, he earns 70k+ a year

There is something badly wrong with this statement.

Your household income is 70k, I hope you have access to adequate money.
If you we're both skint I'd nderstand his request.