Absolutely Sabrina.
This is the probelm Mugoftea, it's not flushing a relationship down the pan because of a drunken night out.
I think that's a fundamental misunderstanding of people's deal-breakers.
It's not the drunken night out that's the issue. It's the fact that any man who goes to a lapdancing club and pays for a dance, has an attitude to women which I personally would find so disgusting that I couldn't any longer feel any respect for him.
It's a bit different if he's young - young men are learning, they may grow up, they may look back at stuff when they're older and decide that was shit and they wouldn't do it now.
But a fully grown, reasonably aged adult man going to lap-dancing clubs, is either a pathetically weak easily led man - not someone I could respect - or a man who doesn't respect women. That means he doesn't respect me. And even if he makes an exception for me and respects me but thinks of my sisters in the sex industry as sluts who aren't "real women" like his wife and sisters and mother, that means he's a shit specimen of a man. And that, for me, is the deal-breaker, not the drunken night out.
I'm not surprised by how so many women seem to be able to not spot that, because we are raised to pretend that men treating women as sex objects is just a bit of fun. But I don't think it's a bit of fun - I think it goes to the heart of a man's integrity, of what he is as a human being. I don't want to live with a human being who is willing to de-humanise other human beings.
What other women do, is up to them. But just because they don't mind living with men like this, they have no right to tell women who do, that we're somehow frivolous or unreasonable or throwing away worthwhile relationships for nothing. It's not nothing. If you want to pretend it is, that's your choice. But it's not mine. And it's not the OP's and I think she deserves some support whatever she chooses.