to find friends sexual history a bit grim?

[LoversThatWentWrong]

Now I'm not a prude or a "pearl clutcher" but we got onto the subject of how many people we had slept with etc and I found my friends sexual past not shocking, just really grim.

She has slept with 15ish people and couldn't remember half of their names. Nothing wrong with that if you're single and enjoy no strings attached sex but she only slept with most of these men in order to get her numbers up. To boast about how many men shes slept with.

I know other people who slept around a lot in their past but they did it because they were single and enjoyed sex - it wasn't about getting their numbers up at all.

15? Is that all? Stop being so
judgemental.

Getting her numbers up? Has she low self esteem then?

The rule about other people's sex life I always follow is, if you might not like the answer, don't ask the question

As long as she stayed safe and she doesn't have an issue about it, it's not your place to judge

Oh and YABU

Have you missed a zero off the end?

Judge-tastic!

Oh, and agree with pinkyrefrose, 15 isn't that many anyway

It sounds like she worded it wrong and meant 'to experience a variety of men' or something.

If it was numbers and boasting she was into, she'd just lie...no-one would know.

Each unto their own, I couldn't care less about anyones 'number' or their reasons why as long as they are ok with it themselves.

Is 15ish really that bad?

Anyway - I do agree that sleeping with someone for the numbers is madness but I doubt that's actually why she's doing it; it's much more likely to be to do with self-esteem/needing validation that she's attractive.

That's a paltry score.

Yes what 'worra' said, she could've lied about her number and no-one would know.

The number is irrelevant really, as it depends on each persons 'number' as to wether they think it is low or high ( its higher than I would be comfortable with ) but so long as she is happy about it then I don't see why you should dwell on it :S
Or am I just weird to not be interested in other people's sexual history?

YABU. The only sex life I'm interested in is my own. Couldn't give a flying fuck about anyone elses, or how many people they've slept with either. It's none of your business, stop judging.

Er, you don't sound a very good friend.

You know what's really grim? You coming on ere to tell us that.

I think people are reading this wrong, or I've worded myself badly. I don't care how many she (or anyone else) has slept with - could 15/150/1500. I don't care.

The number is irrelevant.

It's the fact that she slept with most of them to say that she'd slept with this many. She said she had a competition going with a friend of who could sleep with more men etc.

Yeah, she 'said' that. Whatever.

Couldn't give a flying fuck about anyone elses, or how many people they've slept with either

Neither could I. I'm not judging the number in the slightest. It's the reason behind it.

It's all subjective surely, 15 is a lot to me.

If she did all this post 30, when she should have gone past this kind of phase, that's one thing. But I'm guessing this is 15 over a lifetime, including the carefree years? If so, it's nothing. Most people have had fun in the past.

LoopDeLoops she did say that yes.

Otherwise I'd just assume the same that she might have done it to make herself feel desirable.