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to find friends sexual history a bit grim?

254 replies

LoversThatWentWrong · 09/03/2013 15:39

Now I'm not a prude or a "pearl clutcher" but we got onto the subject of how many people we had slept with etc and I found my friends sexual past not shocking, just really grim.

She has slept with 15ish people and couldn't remember half of their names. Nothing wrong with that if you're single and enjoy no strings attached sex but she only slept with most of these men in order to get her numbers up. To boast about how many men shes slept with.

I know other people who slept around a lot in their past but they did it because they were single and enjoyed sex - it wasn't about getting their numbers up at all.

OP posts:
Booyhoo · 09/03/2013 23:33

what is it with asshole exes still thinking they are entitled to info about your sex life? my ex did similar recently in a "I just want you to be happy" way, saying that it was ok for me to have a fuck buddy because everyone needs one of those! Hmm i didn't divulge whether i did or didn't btw. nosey git. fuck off and get your own sex life to talk about.

ifancyashandy · 09/03/2013 23:42

I know Booyoo! He proceeded to tell me about myself. In a way that'd reduced me to tears backin the day. It was hugely satisfying to retort that his opinion of me meant nothing to me. And mean it. Soooo 'freeing'.

Strange that it made him make a pass at me..

It's been 15+ years you nobber Hmm and Grin

Booyhoo · 09/03/2013 23:47

what a dick! some people need to learn when to let go (which would ideally be the point at which i asked you to leave)

ifancyashandy · 10/03/2013 00:01

To be fair, I was devastated when we ended. Fifteen years ago. [Hmm]

Am kinda over it now the faceless (safe)shagging helped. A lot Can't say I behaved with dignity back in the day. But we were together 10 years & he shagged me ex-best mate broke my heart. And i was a bit, honestly, deranged. So maybe he was getting his own back. But it was lovely to be detached and slightly quizzical & amused by his behaviour.

Booyhoo · 10/03/2013 00:15
Grin

i think it's safe to say you are well rid. i breathed a MASSIVE sigh of relief when exp left (without a fuss which helped a great deal). it's the fuss he has created since then that has caused more Hmm moments. cool and detatched. that's my mantra.

ifancyashandy · 10/03/2013 00:24

It's a fair mantra. As I learnt too late a few weeks ago. Yay us!

NoTimeForS · 10/03/2013 00:41

She was having a competition to have sex with the most partners possible for part of this total, which is 15...

I wonder if there were restrictive rules in place. They had to be called Michael. Or... they had to have 3 nipples. They had to have studied Business Studies with a year abroad. Oh! They all had to have also previously had sex with Angela Simpkins, the dentist from Worcester.

This sounds like a fun game. What about we have one now on mumsnet? How many men can you sleep with in the next year who can ride a unicycle? Ready, set, GO!!

Booyhoo · 10/03/2013 00:46

do previous unicyclists count?

for a while i went through a 'J' phase. unintentionally, but the 'J' era exists nonetheless.

ifancyashandy · 10/03/2013 00:54

I've slept with a lecturer in being a clown! Honestly! Does that count?! Truly, he's a PhD in Circus god bless the Danes

tethersend · 10/03/2013 00:57

Everyone knows its only girls with low self esteem who have sex.

Nice girls just get fingered by the bins behind Woolworths.

pinkyredrose · 10/03/2013 01:04

tethers Grin

ifancyashandy · 10/03/2013 01:12

Thank the Holy Lord above for my low self esteem Grin

IneedAsockamnesty · 10/03/2013 01:47

And here is the reason you should never talk about your historical sex life with anybody at all.

Its nothing to do with anybody else and always causes problems

ErikNorseman · 10/03/2013 10:34

I had a 'competition' going with another single friend for a few months in my very early twenties. We allocated points for a snog, a shag, more points for one you hadn't done before, points taken away if you went there with an ex...it was all a big joke and although we kept a running total there was no suggestion that we did anything in order to beat the other one! It was silly, immature humour.

ErikNorseman · 10/03/2013 10:36

I will admit that I don't remember never asked all their names! And I don't care...

Confused40 · 10/03/2013 10:46

Agree with most of the comments on here about YABU! It speaks volumes about your judgment of your friend based on her sexual history. Its her life, her body, as it is your life and your body. Its called choice and its her choice to sleep with as many people as she so desires. The reasons behind why she slept with them is irrelevant! Its her body, her choice, her reason for doing it, her life! What you could advise however, is that she might want to think about safe sex in order to not contract any STD's.

ChairmanWow · 10/03/2013 13:14

This sounds like a fun game. What about we have one now on mumsnet? How many men can you sleep with in the next year who can ride a unicycle? Ready, set, GO!!

Come Mnetters, someone has to bite. Us old married gits need sexy younglings to live vicariously through. Someone start the MN Unicycle Challenge thread so all you laydeez with low self esteem can cheapen yourselves for our pleasure.

AKissIsNotAContract · 10/03/2013 13:53

Ifancyahandshandy was he dressed as a clown at the time. Extra points for you if he was :)

ChairmanWow · 10/03/2013 14:05

Even more points if he rode into the room on one of those tiny bicycles.

AKissIsNotAContract · 10/03/2013 14:07

Don't want to bumlick but I love your posts ChairmanWow

AnyFucker · 10/03/2013 15:01

I second that emotion, AKINAC Smile

I shagged a fella once who rode a tandem. Could I sneak that one in ?

RhinestoneCowgirl · 10/03/2013 15:06

Briefly went out with a lad who could ride a unicycle. Also could juggle and do fire eating.

Insert joke here about being good with his hands or summat...

ChairmanWow · 10/03/2013 18:12

You guys! Blush

Actually you've really cheered up a massively pregnant and grumpy old git. Thanks me lovelies!

Fire eating...is that a euphemism for something?

AKissIsNotAContract · 10/03/2013 22:06

Presumably you rode it with him AF, riding solo on a tandem would look a bit lonely.

McNewPants2013 · 10/03/2013 22:15

I only judge people who have many sexual partner without using a condom.

The reason is that i think that person is putting themselves at risk of a serious STD

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