to find friends sexual history a bit grim?

[LoversThatWentWrong]

Now I'm not a prude or a "pearl clutcher" but we got onto the subject of how many people we had slept with etc and I found my friends sexual past not shocking, just really grim.

She has slept with 15ish people and couldn't remember half of their names. Nothing wrong with that if you're single and enjoy no strings attached sex but she only slept with most of these men in order to get her numbers up. To boast about how many men shes slept with.

I know other people who slept around a lot in their past but they did it because they were single and enjoyed sex - it wasn't about getting their numbers up at all.

[Moistenedbint]

One thing seems apparent - bragging about sexual conquests is becoming as prevalent amongst women as it is men. It's sad, needy, approval seeking crap tbh.

[Moistenedbint]

Not referring to you ifnotnowthenwhwhen ..

(Unfortunate timing yadayada)

[LapsedPacifist]

15?

[Booyhoo]

i dont get why you get to judge her reasons for having consentual sex. are you worried about her emotional well-being? if so why are you on here bitching about her rather than saying "i'm worried about my friend" if you aren't worried that she is insecure or trying to boost her self esteem then why does it matter if she did it for a competition?

[AKissIsNotAContract]

If she did it purely to boast she'd have slept with thousands. 15 is hardly in the realms of Annabel Chong

[badbride]

Chairman Fair enough: it's tricky to read between the lines of the original post and guess what's going through the OP's friend's head. And sure, if she's happy, safe and having a great time, good for her. I got a different impression from the OP though.

Anyway. I reckon the best thing would be for the OP to tactfully explore the reasons behind her friend's activities, just to make sure she's OK.

[shesariver]

She said she had a competition going with a friend of who could sleep with more men etc

That sounds like good fun to me actually! Well not now as Im a happily married woman but if I was younger and single, mmm....

[RatPants]

15 isn't that many. Why was she trying to "up" her numbers?!

[Moistenedbint]

She said she had a competition going with a friend of who could sleep with more men etc

Mmmm classy chick...

[badinage]

Anyone who competes with anyone about how many people they've shagged is a bit of a tit really. It's like the threads that crop up occasionally on Mumsnet asking the same question. I mean, who gives a shit? Why do people have these conversations, or reply to threads with their 'tallies'? Is it to boast, shock, compete or goad?

[badbride]

On a lighter note, I am utterly at some of the numbers confessed to on this thread. Not from a moral perspective, you understand, but one of logistics. Where the hell do you find all those blokes? A male-order catalogue???

[Bitofagirl]

She has nothing to be ashamed of at all! OP you need to get a life! I am so glad I don't have judgemental friends like you.

We had a wall chart in uni back in 1996.

[idiot55]

I read the post differently to most other people, I think the OP was referring to the fact that her friend was nt young and single when these encounters took place nad that was why she was shocked?

[IfNotNowThenWhen]

badbride
Well. If you start at 17, and have, say, 15 years of single-ness, you might meet one or two blokes a year, sooo...
When you are young and unencumbered,and go out a lot, it's not difficult to find willing partners.
Would that it were as easy now!

[chandellina]

Who cares?

[Booyhoo]

idiot55

you think OP's issue is that her friend is too old for sex or that she is in a relationship?

[idiot55]

oops, I thought she meant most of the encounters took place while in a relationship and thats why she was shocked.

[Jengnr]

Oh so what? Who cares who other people shag?

[Booyhoo]

i dont think so but i could be wrong.

[ifancyashandy]

Slightly off topic but a few weeks ago I bumped into an ex. He always was a judgmental arse. I'm a long time single & he asked me 'so, do you just have sex with one night stands' in a sneery voice. The answer (apart from 'why do you give a shit?') was 'abso-fucking-lutely. I'm a single woman, no kids & am over 16 (and some) who always practices safe sex. I may - once or twice a year or so - allow a chap to come home with me. Your point Mr Ex?'

Some of my married / long term partnered up friends cannot comprehend my behaviour. They think my self esteem must be lacking. It ain't. I prefer & like myself more single.

Perhaps the same stands for your friend but she feels she has to defend in the face of some opposition?