to be annoyed when parents send their DC's with a bag full of sweets and chocolate when they come to our house for tea?

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WHY??
I will provide your child a snack. Hey, sometimes I even bake some biscuits or something. I would never dream of sending food with my DC if they have been invited somewhere.

I have now adopted the strategy of sending food back unopened and uneaten with an "it's ok I made cakes" and hope I don't offend but the message might get through.

I have never come across this before but YANBU... although I do know of some mums (not personally) who seem to have a snack for all occassions.

Jesus fucking Christ.

They were trying to be nice, give it a go yourself sometime!

I do that. Thought it made me a nice person. Great, I now find out it doesn't. MN is making me feel like shit Mum of the year this week.

Omg!!!

Your poor kids! Why are you over reacting?

Ungrateful fucks. Don't tiny realise you've been slaving over a hot oven in keen anticipation of their little ones coming round?

And I agree with Bupcakes.

I'll send a bag of bloody mung beans and sushi next time.

It depends on the scale - if its one little thing apiece (including all your DC) then OK but they should send some for the mum too but if its loads then its a bit odd, especially if their expectation is that they scoff it all then and there.

Why would it annoy you? It's a nice gesture, and if it's too full of colouring/likely to make the children more hyper just limit the qty.

sparkling your sweets would be welcome here but I can't guarantee the DC's would be the ones eating them

A child came to my house with a bottle of cpca cola. 3 yrs old.

Wow.

Is there nothing that doesn't piss people off?

YABU. It's quite sweet that they send their DCs with things. And yes, you are being rude to reject it.

It really depends on the quantity. E.g. a friend of DS's brought a pack of chocolate fingers to have as a treat after tea - nice gesture. If someone came with a big bag full of sweets and expected to eat them there and then, I might think it was a bit odd.

Thank you Cardea. My carrier bag usually contains some Muffins and some fun sized chocolate bars.

On the other hand, I have always been taught that it is good manners when visiting, especially if for a meal, to take something as a small gift. I would take wine if I was going for dinner and I would generally send sweets with my dd for her to share with the child(ren) she is visiting. I don't intend any slur by it and have never take offence when children visiting our house bring something similar. If the child was bringing sandwiches, you'd have a point but they're not. It's sweets. I would take offence if you sent my offering back with those comments.

Tidy the whole of MN is awash with pissed off people at the moment it seems.

Flippin heck, over-reaction of the century. Its called being polite, like if you are invited to dinner and take a bottle of wine, or you buy flowers or chocolate if someone does you a favour.

With your new adopted bitchiness strategy I wouldn't worry about anyone coming over for tea soon, they will all think you are ungrateful and weird and avoid you.

at 'Is there nothing that doesn't piss people off?'! So true - you can never please everyone.

I don't care about the fact its sweets!! Blimey I do give them sweets and chocolate but I will provide them (as I thought was clear from my post ) I'd be the same with an apple or whatever....good grief.

I'm sure they're just being nice you fucking loony.

What's the best course of action if they've been sent with far more than you think is sensible for them to eat in addition to their meal? You can't keep it all if its clearly meant to be some for the visiting DC and some for your DC - so either you have to send theirs back or let the visitor scoff themselves sick.

What a misery guts you sound. YABU and I think it's terribly rude of you to return it.

I think it's a lovely thing to do but you seem to be taking it all a bit personally. I'm sure it's not meant to be a reflection on your ability to provide a snack. It's just a little treat, no?

A bit like taking a bottle of wine around to a friend's house.

or sweeties

Fucking right, Sparks.

I ALWAYS send DS with a treat whether it's a box of mini-muffins/bg of chocolate buttons each/whatever.

But then I know that DS's friend's mums haven't spent the afternoon baking wholesome goods for the children.