to be annoyed when parents send their DC's with a bag full of sweets and chocolate when they come to our house for tea?

[Stuffedcat]

WHY??
I will provide your child a snack. Hey, sometimes I even bake some biscuits or something. I would never dream of sending food with my DC if they have been invited somewhere.

I have now adopted the strategy of sending food back unopened and uneaten with an "it's ok I made cakes" and hope I don't offend but the message might get through.

ooh, I send mine with goodies, it's meant as a present. never thought it might be unwelcome.

I would assume they had brought them to share as a kind of thank you. Can't imagine ever feeling annoyed or upset about it though.

Yup, I send mine round with a pack of buns, posh biscuits or a cake and sometimes if they've spent all day at the house or if I know the Mum has had a load of kids in, I throw in a bottle of wine when I pick them up - I'm a right cow me, and thoughtless at it.

Dried fruit is one of the worst things for teeth. Both sticky and uber-sweet. It is a known cause of tooth decay. My daughter has some caps on her milk teeth and I'm sure raisins and prunes were a prime culprit, along with smoothies and juice, as she barely ever gets to eat refined sugar.

YABU
can you not just accept the treats in the spirit they were intended, why do this annoy you?

Yup, my dentist has relegated raisins to the devils list and don't even get him started on those strawberry fruit flakes! They stick to the back teeth and slowly ooze sugar.

Wow I am obviously a really bad person like the OP cos I absolutely hate it when people do this. it is particularly bad when you have a sleepover and kids turn up with literally carrier bags full of crap. Is it really necessary to ingest a pound of sugar to watch a DVD for goodness sake?
A nd in my experience it is the kids with weight issues who are the worst offenders. So shoot me down in flames now......

They were shop bought *Sparkling" but they were Mr Kipling.....Exceedingly good, you know!!!

Actually, if you're going to have something sweet, the best thing is chocolate because it melts instead of sticking to your teeth.

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I must be a right cow too - and proud to be one!

Mmmm. The Mum is probably raging right now Bally.

Ds1 (13) went to a sleepover last week and took 3 bags of the worst possible sweets. Even Dib Dabs and Drumstick Lollies. Imagine. How awful is that? 13 year olds like eating crap while watching a DVD i find. I will send him with celery sticks and carrot batons next time.

My Mum would slap the legs off me if I or anyone else went to someones house with our arms the same length. She did the same if we went to someones house when we were kids and my mother in law still brings me something if she comes round to my house , and she's known me for 20 years.

I think it's a lovely gesture.
I can't quite get my head around that it would be offensive in any way.

But, on a more positive note, you've reminded me that I have stashed a bag of haribo in a cupboard. :)

wow - yes YABU aren't you!

I used to give DD those shitty yogurt covered fruit things, believing them to be a healthy snack. How wrong was I, they are full of sugar.
Thank you Fakebook for your total lack of empathy. I hope you never have to watch your child having teeth drilled because of the so called healthy snacks that school and nutritionists bang on about. Dentists are now saying that their surgeries are full of kids who have been given dried fruit and smoothies showing bad enamel damage. Here's a low sugar [hbiscuit] for your troubles.

It's the sort of thing I would do because if someone is having my child for tea etc the least I can do is send over a treat for their DC and mine. Although, if they were to send it back unopened saying that the DC had had homemade cake, I would just say, "oh thank you how lovely. I will save the X for when your child comes to ours next."

I don't get what the issue is.

They just want to teach their children that when you go to people's houses its nice to bring something - which is quite a normal thing! I don't see why you would be offended. How weird

Thanks. Make it a full added sugar one please. I believe in eating everything in moderate amounts. How many raisins does a child have to eat for it to cause tooth decay? Also, surely it's common sense that you wouldn't start going overboard with sweet dried fruits just because they're healthy? Sorry for offending you, but I thought you were joking.

Anyway, even if my child did have teeth problems I would never send back gifts like that.

Fakebook - talk to any dentist; they will tell you a similar story to those on here ime.

Dried food is no better than sugary sweets when it comes to your teeth.

I think sending something is fine. Sending sweets and sugar would be unwelcome to me. My daughter has had to have three teeth out, three caps and a filling under GA because of decay and I don't give her a lot of sugar. She's only six. Some kids simply don't have strong enough teeth to cope with sugary treats (and yes, in my case, it was down to smoothies, juice, cereal bars and dried fruit, all entirely my own fault because I simply didn't realise they were as bad as all that and there was no way to know my daughter had weak teeth before the decay happened - obviously I feel absolutely awful about this). One parent once tried to give me some lollies for her daughter and mine and I said 'I'm very sorry but DD can't have these, it's really nice of you but I don't want to have to say she can't have them when yours can' and I explained the weak enamel thing. I don't think she was offended. She didn't realise my daughter has terrible teeth. However, she is the only parent who has sent something in three or so years of play dates. The others didn't, probably thirty or so sets of parents. People don't do it round here. So it's not always the done thing.

I never cease to believe some of the threads on here. Ds is 17 now but when he had his pals round and vice versa we all sent some extra treats.
And Moomin, you really didn't say that did you..
WTF have weight issues to do with anything?

Dentist I used to work for gave DD chocolate for Christmas as 'its much better for her teeth than raisins'

Everyone with a child that's needed fillings I've ever known has said it's been because of fruit.

No on ever blames haribo!

My ds has never had a filling and he's 17 now.
And he has had a lifetime of sweets.