to be annoyed when parents send their DC's with a bag full of sweets and chocolate when they come to our house for tea?

[Stuffedcat]

WHY??
I will provide your child a snack. Hey, sometimes I even bake some biscuits or something. I would never dream of sending food with my DC if they have been invited somewhere.

I have now adopted the strategy of sending food back unopened and uneaten with an "it's ok I made cakes" and hope I don't offend but the message might get through.

And most children without enamel.defects can have the odd lolly if you brush their teeth afterwards.

I would be fucking mortified if someone handed me back a bag of sweets gifts that I'd brought round for the children. Then I would go home and rage about your smug 'Oooh have your poxy sweets back I've been baking homemade cakes all afternoon' how utterly rude.

Haberdashery... I don't know what to say really, that is alll.
You've made your mind up.
But... nah, waste of breath.

I always send a treat with my children when they go visiting. The treat usually is something I have baked, but on a few occasions I have sent sweeties. I think it is rude not to bring something along when you are a guest. Perhaps that is just a difference in manners, but it was how I was raised. How the host mum chooses to serve my offering is of course up to her.

A child did once bring home-made flapjacks because 'it's polite to bring something'. He was the guest from hell, and I had to ring his nanny to ask her to remove him. Hey ho.

I'm totally happy with my child having as much fat and as many calories as she wants to take in! She's a skinny beast and can do with the calories (as are most kids), which is why I gave her things like smoothies and juice to drink and ended up with her having a horrible case of severe tooth decay. And of course the odd lolly isn't going to do most people any harm. But three in three hours? Come on, isn't that a bit OTT?

I have made my mind up, that's true. Because last week, I had to hold my six year old while she had a cannula put in and I had to hold her for hours while she wept after the operation to take her teeth out and I have had to deflect comments from other kids about why does she have weird silver teeth this week and I have had to deal with her having tooth pain for the last six months and I have had to deal with her not being allowed to have what her friends get and I have had to lie with her at night while she cries because she has to have an operation and she's scared to the point of vomiting about it. Yes, I have made my mind up. Not all children will have these issues. But some will and unfortunately you cannot tell which will have the issues until it actually starts to happen. In one year we went from two tiny tiny fillings to full on decay and tooth removal. And that was with a good diet (acknowledged by the consultant dentist at the hospital). So forgive me if I find the desire to give children sugar for a treat a bit unnecessary.

Definitely a regional thing, no one does it round here. It would be considered odd, and slightly rude, as though the host couldn't be trusted to provide food and treats for the visiting child.

I can see how it is nice to arrive laden with treats, but actually the one time I can remember it happening I was annoyed. Some friends arrived with 2 homemade pecan pies - lovely, but I'd made puddings already, and didn't really want to overfeed people (and frankly I am a feeder by nature) or be left with huge amounts of food to eat up the next day either. So, not polite or thoughtful in my book, instead rather thoughtless.

Haberdashery giving a balloon to a small child is worse than giving them sweets. Do you know how dangerous balloons are?

OP when you have a dinner party and your friends dare to bring a bottle give it back with a note:

'Its ok i grow my own grapes and make my own wine'.

Ahhhh, yes..those thoughtless guests showing up with a hostess gift! The nerve!
I do hope you castigated them soundly, so they will know in the future to never ever darken your doors with their pecan pies..

PMSL..Laquitar!

I can't believe so
Endive was cheeky enough to bring two homemade pies. That's just bloody rude, I hope you gave them short shrift!

I wasn't joking about balloons, it's very easy to choke on an uninflected balloon.

Usual, I've got half a bottle of wine and some Wagon wheels? Sound good?

Balloons with nuts inside them are worse. Or jelly tots. Ridiculous.

Usual, I can add half a pack of Oreos and some candy corn..

NI usual I think to dreamt it.

I've got a 3/4 of a tin of Quality Street, it was dead cheap so I bought it for the Christmas present box but succumbed to the munchies late last Saturday night. I'll be round in five mins Suspect

finisher what's candy corn? I only like thevtoffee pennies in QS. Andvtjecstrawnerry creams

I've actually got very small thumbs.

I think you mean 'uninflated' rather than 'uninflected', Tufty.

Enjoy your toothless old age, all of you. I sincerely hope your kids never need dental surgery, though. Because they are the ones who may suffer for your idiotic idea that sugar=fun.

Yes Haberdasher I did mean that. I was serious about balloons though, I know a girl who choked on one: when they do that blowing out/in thing with them if they inhale to take a big breath the balloons can be sucked to the back of their throat.
I'm sorry about your daughters teeth and her operation, are thatcher milk teeth? Will her adult teeth be affected?