to be annoyed when parents send their DC's with a bag full of sweets and chocolate when they come to our house for tea?

[Stuffedcat]

WHY??
I will provide your child a snack. Hey, sometimes I even bake some biscuits or something. I would never dream of sending food with my DC if they have been invited somewhere.

I have now adopted the strategy of sending food back unopened and uneaten with an "it's ok I made cakes" and hope I don't offend but the message might get through.

The last time I was in a supermarket with ds he wanted Oreos, and I told him it was American crap and what was wrong with good British Biscuits.
He told me I was a racist .
But I still say chocolate digestives eg beat oreos hands down.
And is there anywhere in the world more perfect than a Cadbury's Chocolate flake?

I accept things in the spirit in which they are given,no matter what it is.

OP. you are a twat.

I wouldn't, of course, give any small child an uninflated balloon! Apart from anything else, they are not that much fun for the child.

Yes, it's her milk teeth. She is six. Yes, it may affect her adult teeth as they will come in earlier than usual in the spaces and of course a six or seven year old is less capable of brushing molars than a ten year old which is when they might usually have come in. Also she is more likely to suffer from overcrowding and need braces as her jaw has not fully developed. And as we have found that she has weak enamel, she will need to be more careful than is usual with her adult teeth when they come in. So she won't be having any more lollies any time soon and I will stick to non-edible non-sugary treats because I want her to have nice teeth. Don't we all want our children to have healthy teeth? It's nothing to do with being middle class, that really riled me. I don't think it's precious or middle class to want your child to be healthy in every way.

I have horrible teeth with a similar history of a parent who didn't give me much sugar. And I hate that DD is heading for the same thing. Poor kid. I know you're all lucky and your kids are lucky and have strong teeth but spare a thought for the children who you're sending sugary treats to and maybe send something a bit less potentially damaging? A pretty badge or a titchy notebook or a lego person or some nice pencils costs no more or not much more than a packet of cakes or sweets.

Candy corn is American..I think (sorry Lady Beagle) my sil sends a Halloween package every year from Boston. They are really multi coloured pieces of sugared wax as far as I can see...I think they are disgusting, my dh children love them...
Oh my God, do they sell these Cadbury infused Oreos at Tesco? I will be there sharpish in the am..

YABVU The correct etiquette when you're a guest is to bring a gift that can be shared with the host, sweets are entirely appropriate in the context of children. Rejecting the gift and returning it is rude (you don't need to open it and share if you have alternatives which would spoil like your cakes, then you just keep it for another time)

As others have said, as an adult visiting you would normally bring wine and chocolate, it may well be that's not always done with children - it's can certainly be complicated if the visits are organised at the last minute and I wouldn't feel it particularly rude not to bring something.

But it's certainly not rude to bring food to share with your hosts. It's extremely polite.

I am going to get some post haste and not share it with everyone..As my good manners do not extend to immediate family..

Excellent strike through fail..

I'd love people to send sweets and shit with their kids!

I don't see the issue with it. I thought the whole point of having other peoples children is to feed them shit!

So the majority of people on this thread are happy for their kid to trough through an unsolicited bag full of sweets and chocolate then are they? Personally I like to teach my kids moderation.
I have frequently had kids turn up with ridiculous amounts of crap, 2 litre bottles of coke, pounds of haribo. I do think its a bit rude of another parent to assume you are happy for your child to guzzle massive amounts of rubbish.

makes note to send carrots and pulses to SPs house I think people need to calm down a bit and realise that children showing up at their home with snacks is not a reflection on their hosting abilities but a show of good manners on part of the visiting child..

Sweets and chocolates are not actually normal snacks, you know.

Who says the children are "troughing" the sweets?

"unsolicited bag full of sweets and chocolate" - This made me laugh! It sounds like sweets equal hard drugs

If one of my dc's friends brought sweets, and there were too many, I'd let them have some, and save some for another day. There, still fun, but in moderation.

Kids will be opening their coats and will have bags of bon bons, haribos and dib dab all fasten inside which they will be selling to the kids in alleyways or on the round about at the park.

"Sweets and chocolates are not actually normal snacks, you know."

Given in moderation they are. All four of my dc are all perfectly healthy weights, have good teeth and love healthy food. Sometimes they eat sweets and chocolate. I think that's more sensible and normal than clutching your pearls at a lollipop.

Some people feel desperately unsmug because their kids have missing teeth because of tooth decay. Some people feel sad and ashamed because their kids have had to have teeth pulled out because of decay. Some people just don't give a shit if you think they're smug as long as it means their kids might hang onto their teeth for a bit longer. Some people are happy that their children find things other than sugar a treat. And some people just think you are stupid if you think that giving children highly sugary crap is the same as giving them a treat.

InSp

"Psst...Oi kid...wanna sherbert dib dab? You can have this first one for free..."

Isn't it the children's equivalent of arriving at a dinner party with a nice bottle of wine for the hostess?

"Psst, dib dabs are the shizzle right now. Buy one dib dab and get a panda pop half price"

Pull panda pop from under his/her hat.

"Don't take them round to your friends houses though, eat them under the slide"

Yes chocolate is definately a treat!

You can get sugar free lollipops by the way, sugar free sweets too. Chocolate is better for your teeth than most fruits too, especially if given close to teeth brushing time. (fruit acids soften enamel, so if you brush soon after having fruit or juice the brushing damages your teeth).

My dc like healthy snacks, and treats that don't involve food. They also like sweets. That doesn't make me stupid.

There is a another thread on here tonight about taking a dish to a dinner party. The general consensus seems to be that it is rude to take something without checking with the hostess. I think the same applies to sweets to be honest
And yes my views on this have probably been coloured by a couple of the DCs more greedy friends who always turn up with loads of stuff.
And I do think you are talking rubbish usualsuspect, kids are much more likely to eat crap when their older if they've been brought up on it.