To expect a colleague with suspected Aspergers not to be rude to me

[pointybird]

I share an office with Bob, and 2 years ago the company employed his 24 year old son Fred who (I believe) has Aspergers. Bob (the father) also displays autistic traits. Fred is increaingly rude to me and I have had to complain to management in the past about the way they both speak to me. Neither Bob nor managment have explained Fred's difficulties to us and I am at a loss as to how deal with Fred's rudeness.

Fred's behaviour is also very bizarre....locking himself in the loo every half hour and shouting/laughing to himself. He is also lazy and incompetent but Bob obviously protects him. How do I deal with this situation, given that management refuses to acknowlege the situation?

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What is he saying or doing that you perceive to be rude?

You don't have to put with it diagnosed or not. Explained or not. Simple.

hello Raisin

OP, what sort of work do you do?

Hellair UnC

he constantly challenges everything I say, calls me silly, throws paperclips on my desk etc

Lydias, it not necessarily simple.

Are you actually qualified to diagnose these people?

Why is everyone so unwilling to comment. The OP has the right to co.plain if she feels bob and Fred are rude. If there's is no basis she will be told to jog on.

Paperclip throwing needs to stop. Is he challenging what you say because just to wind you up or because he genuinely thinks your wrong? If he has ASD it's proba ly the latter.

then the OP should do that, Lydias

she's the one with all the information

Could it be that they are just plain rude arseholes? (plenty of them exist- I work with a few myself)

Why is it not that simple?
Diagnosed condition or not, no has to put up with being treated in a rude manner. Aspergers doesn't give anyone the right to make others unhappy.
The OP need to complain, if its down to aspergers they need to work a way to be able to work together.

Or maybe you are wrong and that is why he challenges you.

Nothing gets resolved by her sitting taking it 'just in case' hr has additional requirments.

usual (in your 3rd manifestation)

get out from underneath that chair, i want to put my cup on the floor, i don't want you knocking into it

uncharted she should do what? What is suggested?
Thanks for pointing that out to me.

Oh another one.
Disability come around again has it?

Jolly gooooood.

Must be difficult Aspergets or not. Speak to Fred about it and/or his superior.