To not be interested in what my mum (67) has been up to all week ?

[Willowisp]

My mum runs some sort of activity week, where (IMO) she queen bees around, eats lots of cake (already fat) & refers to it as a 'holiday'. She has a great time, but I'm not interested. (miserable boot face emoticon)

She's just rung me, given me a breakdown of how they all enjoyed it/gave money/did a whip round/bought thank you presents. Great.

Then she's told me she's babysitting (for free) for her (crafty neighbour who asks her 2-3 x a week) & is cross because I've shown no interest.

When her mum was alive, she lapped up everything & rewarded her with lines of "oh aren't you good/great/super" "how wonderful" etc.

Then she proceeded to tell me what she's doing in the garden....in minute detail..

I'm in my 40's, I've got my own family - kids, pets, washing & ironing & quite frankly a "I'm back from x & had a great time" is all I need. I don't bore her with the minutia of my day(s). Nor have the self importance to embellish & boast about something she's been doing for about 8 yrs.

Yes, I am an old bag & most likely, incredibly UR, but I just had to get it off my chest before I ate all the chocolate in the house.

Yep, you're an old bag. YABU

Seconded - you are horrible!

She used to wipe your bottom, I would cut her a little slack.
(But feel free to vent here, any time).

YABVVVVVVVVU

Yabu

You don't seem to like her very much

We have just realised that my mum who is 58 has dementia, seriously, take more interest, I didn't and now I so wish I had xx

Wow. Your Mum sounds lovely. You, not so much actually.

Reality check

67. Won't be around for long.

What you're describing is a bit boring conversation - that's a loooooooooong way from a shit relationship where she craps on you.

Well I hope my DC's are more interetsed in what I do when they are older. You sound awful.

I'm sorry OP, but you don't come across very well here.

YABU.

Your poor mum :(

Presumably like all mums, she listened to your pointless stories for years? Karma baby!

Wish I still had a mum to bore me

You say you've got your own family, well YOU'RE her family. One day when she's gone and your kids say the same (hopefully not) you might realise. Only then it may be too late.

YABU mine's been dead a number of years sorry but you don't realise how lucky you are to have her

YABU sorry. You just need to listen. Your Mum is more important than ironing and cleaning. There may be a time when you miss it.

I don't think you are BU at all. I have a sister who does the same...every bloody minute detail about her daily life, what she has eaten, what the woman down thew road said to her and how she put her in her place and on and on and on.

Drives me batshit.

YABVU. If a woman can't talk to her own daughter about what shes been doing with her life, whi can she talk to?

One day your kids will be all grown up with lives of their own. how will you feel if they think anything you have got to say about your day is time wasting drivel?

Aw Willow, I hope you enjoy your chocolate . I bet you love your Mum, but just don't have lots of time / energy to spend enthusing with her sometimes.

I've been hoping that no-one phones all week, because I really have nothing left to give at the moment.

I know exactly what you mean, my Mil is in her late 70's and she has to tell me a long a convoluted version of her activities for the week and then she speaks to her son and tells him the same information.

I wouldn't feel so grr about it but she is out every bloody day. She is in the masons and has a big group of friends that she lunches with but yet we have to have a moment by moment run down of her movements and she'd like the same of our life but I'm not prepared to share.

Are you not felling well Willow? (I'm not being sarky, sometimes we're all a bit mardy if we're under the weather).

She sounds quite sweet.

cuttingp....mum is a bit different from sister?

I don't like her mostly, she is bossy, domineering & controlling. But that's another story.

The trouble is, she loved me too much, but, well, whole other story.

I just wanted to vent. I do love her, but I'm not interested in the detail of the 'activities'.

Absolutely orienteerer

Yes, I am under the weather & yes, I'm looking forward to living by the sea, in my rocking chair, surround by unwanted cats & dogs