To be unsurprised that so many women get post natal depression?

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My late mum had post natal depression after a horrendous birth during which she almost died. Couple that with the shock of becoming a new mum and the general lack of staus that society offers mums (especially single mums like me) and I am not surprised that so many of us get so down. It is a wonderful time but it also so tough. What can be done about it?
My birth wasn't great (I had a c-section)and I did it without a dp yet I didn't get pnd like my mum did. I did get the shock of my life mixed with a lot of love!

I don't agree at all troisgarcons

"some people are weak" what a shocking and ignorant thing to say.

I had PND after DS1, not after Ds2. Did I get stronger in that time, or could it have been that the circumstances surrounding each birth were totally different?

Troisgarcon - really? Nothing to do with a chemical imbalance in the brain then? Still I don't suppose anything we say will change your mind though, being as strong minded as you are.

I had PND and let me assure you it was genuine. It's no wonder some people suffer in silence with ignorant attitudes like that.

if you have suffered you will know its a horrible thing that is totally not your fault and if you are reading this and think you are suffering please get help it will be the bravest and best thing you ever do

Some people are weak?! I was a very very strong person when I got PND. It wasnt a choice it just happened sadly. That doesnt make me a weak person! That comment has made me !!!

trois- wow! 'it demeans those who genuinely have MH issues' er think you just did exactley that.

people dont talk about it because of people like you. it shouldnt be hidden and it is alot more common than people think.

you sound alot like the person that told me to pull my socks up....i couldnt love my baby or myself, couldnt motivate myself but stupidly hadnt thought to pull my socks up!

Wow troisgarcon what a really insensitive thing to say. Pnd is a very real mh condition and nothing to do with being weak! I think the change in our support network is to blame- I was very close to getting Pnd after ds was born as he had reflux and DH had gone back to work. I got about 5 minutes sleep over 3 days and was seriously not coping. Fortunately my Mum came to stay with us and I managed to get a bit more sleep and that made a huge difference. Not everyone has a support network set up to help deal with the stress of having a new baby!

I am very far from 'weak' ta.

I had my first Dc when I was 18 and in an abusive relationship, had no support and was homeless and I did'nt get pnd.

When I had Dc 2&3I was (still am) married, living in a nice house ect and was crippled with pnd.

Illness does not discriminate.

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OP I'm sorry your thread has been highjacked.

Who else thinks that trois should get a medal for being so STRONG and GETTING ON WITH LIFE and COPING so well?

Nominations here please!

[have never been so fucking angry on MN emoticon]

Thanks tois

trois

I am tempted to do one of those fake Message deleted by Mumsnet posts

• just so everyone assumes that I was really brave enough to really write what I think about attitudes like those expressed by troisgarcons

I have reported your post trois. I hope no one suffering with PND reads it before it gets removed. If you are suffering and you do read it, trois is clearly one of the minority who believes that it is better to kick someone when they're down than to help them. What she says is utter bullshit.