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To think my dh is a total twat

216 replies

VivaLeBeaver · 26/11/2011 23:03

hes just got back from a jolly fucking holiday in Spain. Second holiday without us this year.

He went a few days after I was discharged from hospital after a week stay with a slipped disc. He actually booked it last minute while I was in hospital.
When he left I was still pretty much bed bound and sleeping a lot due to morphine.

While he's been one dd has been poorly with a terrible old and has been off school for three days. I've hadthis awful cold, possible flu. Terrible sore throat, raised temp, sweating buckets, not sleeping.

He's come back and is slamming around downstairs. I was in bed. After 30 mins I o down, he's ignoring me. I ask him what the problem is and he's moaning about the house being a mess.

It's not that fucking bad. Front room is cluttered as dd has been doing craft stuff which I couldnt face sorting, I haven't hoovered as I'm not allowed due to my back. Kitchen has been cleaned but dishwasher needed stacking. There are some bits on the stairs that need bringing up.

How fucking dare he be such a cunt. He's had a weeks holiday and left me home sick. I'd never have gone if he'd been as bad as I was when he left. Yes he didn't know I was going o get this bad cold, flu thing buti was really bad with my back. I've told him how upset I feel and he's still not talking to me.

OP posts:
grovel · 26/11/2011 23:05

Spoilt boy.

Shoot him.

Then leave him.

pictish · 26/11/2011 23:06

Yes he's a twat.

Esta3GG · 26/11/2011 23:06

Yup sounds like a prize twat.

DitaVonCheese · 26/11/2011 23:06

WTAF? YANBU. (Sorry, NAK)

HecateGoddessOfTheNight · 26/11/2011 23:06

sooo - he doesn't give a shit about you, basically?

Books a holiday while you're in hospital, leaves you to recover alone - while taking care of the children I assume?

comes back to find you poorly and starts slamming about the place cos it's not tidy.

It's not tidy cos he left his wife just out of hospital, to fend for herself and take care of a child/children, while he booked a bloody holiday?

What
The
Fuck

I am horrified.

why exactly do you put up with this?

Backtobedlam · 26/11/2011 23:07

YANBU! Why is he going on holiday without you and the children? Was it a special occasion?

Honeydragon · 26/11/2011 23:08

UANBU he is a twat

HecateGoddessOfTheNight · 26/11/2011 23:08

I mean, it's very clear he deliberately booked a holiday so that he did not have to be there for you when you came out of hospital. How can he do that? Does he even claim to care about you at all?

AgentZigzag · 26/11/2011 23:08

I'd like to reassure you and say you have it out of proportion, but I can't.

He's a twat.

And a cheeky one at that Sad

squeakytoy · 26/11/2011 23:08

Yes, he is a twat. A very selfish one at that.

I would tell him not to bother unpacking his bags if it were me.

tiredemma · 26/11/2011 23:08

why are you putting up with this?

LoopyLoopsRootyFroots · 26/11/2011 23:08

I remember you saying that he was going on holiday. Cock.

Could you book one? First week of xmas hols with or without the kids? Somewhere hot? Tell him the day before you go. Put him in hospital first

AmIthatbad · 26/11/2011 23:09

OMG. Selfish, selfish twat. I can't believe he would book a holiday while you were in hospital. Awful, poor you

VivaLeBeaver · 26/11/2011 23:09

Right he just tried to come to bed but I've got dd in here with me and have told him to go and sleep in dds room.

Why do I put up with it.? Because I'm a fucking idiot.

Holiday wasn't a special occasion. He saw a paragliding holiday he wanted to go on so went.

OP posts:
pooka · 26/11/2011 23:09

Twat. Angry

What are you going to do?

Has he redeeming points or is he always this much of a thoughtless, careless oaf?

SantaDesperatelySeeksSedatives · 26/11/2011 23:09

I'd have changed the locks on him before he even got a chance to slam around the house in a huff. Selfish wanker. I guess with him not speaking to you it aleast means you don't have to make conversation with the mean git.

Hope you and your DD feel better soon though! and try to make sure your husband catches your cold.

pictish · 26/11/2011 23:10

If I were you I'd be devastated OP. I'd cry me a river to be treated with such indifference. I really feel for you.

LoopyLoopsRootyFroots · 26/11/2011 23:10

Honestly? Don't put up with it. Just don't.

Moodykat · 26/11/2011 23:10

Agree with Hecate. my DH wouldn't dream of going on holiday without us. Let alone if I was in your situation with a bad back.
Umm...am at a loss. You know that YADNBU right?!

VivaLeBeaver · 26/11/2011 23:11

And thisis the dh who makes me take dd on holiday by myself every year because he says holidays are boring. He spends no time with either me or dd and then wonders why I'm not overly interested in sex.

OP posts:
Pursang · 26/11/2011 23:11

YADNBU. And when you and the DC are feeling better I would book a lovely cottage break somewhere, sans-DH (dick head) to recover properly.

elliehh · 26/11/2011 23:11

Get some self esteem, realise you are better than him and deserve one hell of a lot more, kick him out.

cjbartlett · 26/11/2011 23:11

Oh my god I'm so Sad this is you viva

Who the fuck pisses off on holiday when their partner has got a slipped disc

And he's not talking to you?

Honestly that's so crap it's untrue

pooka · 26/11/2011 23:11

I also remember your hospital thread. You've had such a shitty shitty time of t lately and he sounds as much use as a chocolate teapot in terms of making sure you recover quickly and well.

Arsehole.

Backtobedlam · 26/11/2011 23:11

You're not the idiot-he is. I was hoping it was some sort of once in a lifetime holiday, and though he still shouldn't have gone, may have redeemed him slightly. Just a normal holiday he fancied...definite tw*t

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