to think asking for honeymoon contributions from people you haven't invited to your wedding...

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...is just a tiny bit gauche?

Not close to this couple so didn't expect a wedding invite. We're facebook friends (I was at uni with one partner but haven't seen them in years). Received a fb event invite titled 'Getting married' so thought for 5 seconds I'd have an excuse for a new frock, then realised it was an 'invitation' to all their fb friends to contribute to their honeymoon, whether invited or not.

Worst bit is, some people have obviously not read it properly and left a load of messages saying sorry they can't make it but thanks for thinking of them etc etc. The groom has now posted huffily saying that this isn't a wedding invite as they were sent out months ago, and this was 'clearly stated' on the event. AIBU to be boggling at the brass neck? And now wondering if I can pull a similar stunt to fund my next holiday?

Sharrie I will get the account details to you pronto - at the minute I'm busy sending them to a Nigerian prince who needs my help in exchange for $50 million euros.

Oh you did have the option then? :o

"Mumsnet made me do it" HAHAH!!!!

I just love the fact that even after his interjection to reaffirm what an unspeakably cheeky shit he is clear up the misunderstanding, people are still posting to say they are sorry they can't make it!

Please keep it up for the evening as I'm out n on my phone so can't make out much. Will be on my Internet later

What a bizarre (and rude!) thing to do.

Has anybody mentioned 'sense of entitlement' yet ...

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Asking for honeymoon contributions is borderline at the best of times imho and must be done sensitively given there isn't really any sense of gifting involved (in the sense that even a gift list allows the giver to choose something and feel smug at their own good taste and generosity).

Asking for honeymoon contributions from people you haven't invited is EXTREMELY rude!!!

We got a few gifts and cheques from people we hadn't invited and tbh I was a bit mortified by it, even though most were just well-wishers and neighbours of our folks' etc. I wouldn't have dreamt of ASKING for them!

Hahahaha. I would know if I'd BEEN INVITED...

Or an evening invite only? That would make the FB thing even worse.......... in a funny, top AIBU way!

Yes, we really need more information. Is it a child-free wedding? Will it be abroad? Are there any long-standing family feuds involved? Mad relatives?

And ... what about parking at the wedding? Will there be disabled and parent and child spaces?

This is important information. We need to know.

I think that he will have some unexpected guests at his wedding, not realising that it was not an invite but s gift request. Ha ha jokes on him

My comments's been deleted now. Arf. Good job I got that screengrab eh?

No one else has said anything yet. Bloody wimps.

Lol well good on you for making a stand!

Somewhere, in a forum far far away, there is a thread that goes 'We have asked complete facebook randoms for cash contributions towards our honeymoon camera. We haven't invited them to the wedding because let's face, we don't really know them. My hatchet-face cah of a MIL says IABU so I've dis-invited her to the wedding. Now she says she won't pay for the honeymoon!!!! WWYD?'

Sharrie you can just delete anything that comes on your wall, if you hover to the rh side of any post you'll see a little cross. You can do it yourself, it's not like reporting to MNHQ

SO SO dreadful!!!! Do you think anyone would actually contribute?

This is one of the best threads I've read on here for a while. Well done OP on pulling him up on his rude behaviour.

Haaa....can you imagine MN if we could delete comments we didn't like. It'd be empty! Great idea Sharrie Might get some work done then.

this reminded me of when my OH was asked to contribute towards a wedding present for a bloke who worked for same people as him,he hardly knew him and had not got an invite so he declined and people were surprised.

Sharrie do you know him too? I missed that bit!! Please don't get yourself unfriended because the people of MN need to know what happens next.