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AIBU?

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Original poster

to think asking for honeymoon contributions from people you haven't invited to your wedding...

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hellsbells76 · 04/10/2011 22:03

...is just a tiny bit gauche?

Not close to this couple so didn't expect a wedding invite. We're facebook friends (I was at uni with one partner but haven't seen them in years). Received a fb event invite titled 'Getting married' so thought for 5 seconds I'd have an excuse for a new frock, then realised it was an 'invitation' to all their fb friends to contribute to their honeymoon, whether invited or not.

Worst bit is, some people have obviously not read it properly and left a load of messages saying sorry they can't make it but thanks for thinking of them etc etc. The groom has now posted huffily saying that this isn't a wedding invite as they were sent out months ago, and this was 'clearly stated' on the event. AIBU to be boggling at the brass neck? And now wondering if I can pull a similar stunt to fund my next holiday?

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WilsonFrickett · 05/10/2011 17:08

Ah, it was the Nigerian spam comment you made to Wine and Pizza! sorry! Blush. I'm good at facebook though! Grin

SharrieTBGinzatome · 05/10/2011 17:11

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warthog · 05/10/2011 19:34

bloody well done. i'm glad he's not got away with it.

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hellsbells76 · 05/10/2011 19:40

Oh actually I stand corrected, he hasn't deleted my comment after all, it just wasn't showing up when I looked at the event on my phone earlier. Now isn't that even weirder, leaving such a critical comment to stand?

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BelleEnd · 05/10/2011 19:43

This should be in classics. And hellsbells should be Prime Minister.

pigletmania · 05/10/2011 19:43

oh hells are there any replies to it, and what are they per chance.

ColdSancerre · 05/10/2011 19:44

Maybe you've made him see the light? I think he'll post an apology for being a knob.

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hellsbells76 · 05/10/2011 19:44

There aren't any replies - yet. WIBU to post this:

"Glad you've amended the title now - hopefully it will avoid any more confusion. Still think it's pretty unpleasant grasping behaviour asking non-invitees for money at all, and also think unfriending me was rather childish. Oh well. Have a lovely wedding day."

or shall I just let it lie now?

Grin at PM. I can't think of anyone who'd be worse at that job than me but thank you anyway!

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WoTmania · 05/10/2011 20:02

YWNBU to post that last bit but that might get you deleted from the non-guest gift list Shock

Uppity · 05/10/2011 20:04

Oh my goodness.

this is hilarious.

ROFL at just a bit gauche

Grin
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hellsbells76 · 05/10/2011 21:22

I'm sitting on my hands here. I know I've made my point and it would just be unnecessary needling to take it any further but blimey I want to post the above (and also 'it's ok, you're not invited to the wedding, they just want your cash' on all the apologetic 'sorry we can't make it' messages). But no, I shall Rise Above It and Be The Bigger Person (oh how dull).

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pigletmania · 05/10/2011 21:37

I am just so Shock at the sheer rudeness, grabbiness, entitlement of some. Asking people who you hardly know and havent invited to your wedding to contribute towards a honeymoon and camera Shock. Has he no shame!

SharrieTBGinzatome · 05/10/2011 21:48

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SnapesMistress · 05/10/2011 22:14

Am disappointed at the other guests not commenting as well. :o

ColdSancerre · 05/10/2011 22:25

Me too Snapes, I would have hoped for a few likes.

FunnysInTheGarden · 05/10/2011 22:42

just a rofl or two here. What a fab thread and a fab OP!

FunnysInTheGarden · 05/10/2011 22:44

in fact really really we want him to be made accountable here on MN, where he can be ripped to shreds by people who don't know him. Hells can you arrange that please?

SnakeOnCrack · 06/10/2011 16:34

ANY UPDATES ON THIS?

Proudnscary · 06/10/2011 16:48

Hellbells you will go down in MN history for such an entertaining thread and devilishly genius reply to your flouncy twat of a 'friend'!

MQ - move this 'un to Classics quick smart.

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hellsbells76 · 06/10/2011 21:32

I'm sorry to report there are no developments since the last post :( My comment is still there (no likes or further comments - wusses) and I am still unfriended (but at least won't have all the honeymoon pictures cluttering up my newsfeed). Perhaps it's all over. But thank you everyone for a hugely entertaining couple of days...am a bit overwhelmed by all the compliments as all I did was post my bewilderment - the comedy genius that unfolded was all your doing! I will have a little chuckle to myself on the wedding day imagining coachloads of remote FB friends turning up at the do and insisting they were definitely invited Grin

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WilsonFrickett · 06/10/2011 23:23

Ahem. On behalf of MN a tiny bit gauche was all yours, and that made the whole thread for me.

You rule. You better report back though. Even one tiny like will add to the rich tapestry...

pigletmania · 07/10/2011 08:05

hellsbells yes the wusses if that was me I would have written something in agreement. Yes keep those thoughts in mind Grin

Proon · 07/10/2011 11:03

Oh go on hellsbells, prod him a little bit more!

kenobi · 07/10/2011 15:45

if any of your friends are friends of his and get tagged in his images, you'll be able to see the whole lot. Please, please let us know if this happens Grin

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