to think asking for honeymoon contributions from people you haven't invited to your wedding...

[hellsbells76]

...is just a tiny bit gauche?

Not close to this couple so didn't expect a wedding invite. We're facebook friends (I was at uni with one partner but haven't seen them in years). Received a fb event invite titled 'Getting married' so thought for 5 seconds I'd have an excuse for a new frock, then realised it was an 'invitation' to all their fb friends to contribute to their honeymoon, whether invited or not.

Worst bit is, some people have obviously not read it properly and left a load of messages saying sorry they can't make it but thanks for thinking of them etc etc. The groom has now posted huffily saying that this isn't a wedding invite as they were sent out months ago, and this was 'clearly stated' on the event. AIBU to be boggling at the brass neck? And now wondering if I can pull a similar stunt to fund my next holiday?

That is beyond awful. I don't think I would be able to resist the urge to tell them so too.

Defriend. No one needs to know such obnoxious people.

WOW!!!!!!
What a complete cheek!!!!!!
They should pay for their own effing honeymoon the greedy twats.
I would do exactly as KIelly suggests and get the greedy idiot to have to write down exactly how greedy and grasping he is.

Ps even though I am not officially inviting any fellow mners, if any or you would care to donate to my holiday fund it would be greatly received. I will of course send you all a round robin email telling you how wonderful my free holiday was all at your expense.
What? no takers!!!!!

I'd worry about the mental health of someone who thought this was an ok thing to do. Seriously. It's that bad.

That is very, very funny. I wouldn't be surprised if some journo picked this up...

DandyLioness I would love to but it's a private event so not shareable (so he must have known on some level that it was a bit, er, off). I do have a crappy screengrab pasted into Word that I sent my sister because she refused to believe me...

We could all ask to "friend" them, with a message saying "You don't know me, but I've heard you need money for your honeymoon, can you give me your bank details?" and see if they reply.

Oh god I hope not re journos. Not least because it's a gay couple and I can just see the Fail having a field day with that :( And his partner is (or was when we were at uni years ago) really lovely, he doesn't deserve to get hauled over the coals just because he's marrying a grasping so-and-so...maybe I should get this thread deleted?

He doesn't really use fb so I doubt if he knows the extent of it. May have agreed to asking for contributions to honeymoon without realising that meant everyone they'd ever met in their lives would be asked...

It's a gay couple? Oh, the same of my people

That was shame, obviously.

The people who "left a load of messages saying sorry they can't make it but thanks for thinking of them etc etc." did exactly the right thing.... and the twat fell right into their trap!

hahahahahahaha

Some people have a nerve. I don't know whether to be or at the outrageousness.

Bloody hell! That takes "bare faced cheek" to another level.

yes please, this has to go viral! Fecking what the feck! Comedy genius, as already noted above! They could finance their hideous honeymoon with a Daily Mail spread about their brass neck and sell the pictures to OK or Piss Off magazine or sthg.Heck, I want to gatecrash their wedding and I already don't like them enough to want to be even a little bit charitable.

Oh yes, please do put a very pointed reply back on there and then tell us all what the reply is.

Thank you hellsbells I really needed a good laugh and this has made me

What the hell planet do these people live on?! I predict collection baskets will go round during the ceremony al la Sunday mass

I've read it properly now (only skimmed before as so incredulous) and they're actually asking for contributions towards a fancy camera so they can bore everyone to tears- share their honeymoon pictures with us lucky people. Not sure if that's better or worse.

Here is the wording of the event:

"Hey Hey,
How are you?
Cheeky me here, being very cheeky indeed!
As you should hopefully already know, I am getting married to ** on the 15th, and a few people have been asking for a wedding present list.
We haven't set one up as there is really nothing we need.
However saying that we thought it might be nice if people contributed towards something we could use in the future, and on Honeymoon in *.
So if you would like to contribute towards a DSLR camera for taking lots of amazing pics to upload onto facebook for your eyes to see, please send me a message and I will send you my bank details.
Cheeky I know, but if you don't ask, you don't get!!
Love and hugs, and thank you in advance.

and *
xx"

And here is the huffy message (love the PA 'x'):

"This isn't an invite to the wedding, they were sent out months ago! This is a cheeky Facebook invite to all my Facebook friends to give me money so I can get a new camera! A few have asked for the present guest list, but we don't have one. But thought a new camera would be good. The wording of the event invitation, does say this all very clearly. X"

I suppose at least he acknowledges it's 'cheeky' although 'completely fucking outrageously rude' would be closer to the mark. I would post scathing message but lots of mutual friends and am coward and don't want to stir up trouble so am bitching behind their backs on here instead

What an absolute nobber! Cheeky is nicking a few chips off someone's place, not inviting cash gofts from someone you don't know well enough to invite to the wedding!

Wow, that is beyond cheeky and rude. He does say that people have asked about a gift list, but surely the thing to do would be to tell those people that they'd like contributions toward a camera, not ask for donations from people who aren't even invited to the wedding!

ha ha ha hahah hah ha

You know what you're doing to my weak pelvic floor?

Feel actually terribly sorry for them as the awfulness will dawn on them...

Dreadful.

That's the rudest thing I've ever seen. Beyond cheeky.

Bloody hell. That's unbeliveably rude.

Must set up a page for my Christmas list