AIBU?
To not want all our weekends eaten up by ds's football playing?
emkana · 22/05/2011 20:41
Asking on behalf of my SIL actually. Her ds wants to play football, training twice a week and matches at the weekend. She hates the thought of it, especially considering she has two younger daughters. Is it a sacrifice you have to make?
cantspel · 22/05/2011 20:45
But the season doesn't start till september and then finishes around march/april.
My son still trains twice a week in the summer and the odd tournament or friendly.
So yes being a mum is doing things you dont like but it isn't that bad and our club is very social so now i find most of my social life centres around the club and people we have met through football.
marialuisa · 22/05/2011 20:58
Sorry, we both work f/t so have never really got the whole "family time" thing-sounds like hell. We do enjoy spending time together though and that sometimes means supporting each other's interests,even if those interests woul not be our first choice of ways to spend time.
Presumably your SIL's kids are young for this not to have come up before? What will happen when the party circuit starts or the girls want to go to dance classes? The way you spend time together changes as kids get older.
cantspel · 22/05/2011 21:01
I have been involved with youth football for years and it never ceases to amaze me the number of parents who cannot be bothered to turn up to their children's games.
We have spent today at a youth tournament. Around a 1000 children out in the fresh air playing football. It was cold and windy but i still would rather be there than not support my child.
GoodDaysBadDays · 22/05/2011 21:03
I have 4dcs. One plays football, sometimes the others come and watch (picnic and large bag of toys essential!) Sometimes we find a park nearby, sometimes I drop him off and don't watch, and occasionally dh is not working so he takes him.
Yes it takes up a large chuck of many weekends but not every weekend but he enjoys it and its good exercise.
Days out happen in the afternoons or when there's no football.
My ds also comes with us for activities for other dcs. It's part of being a family!
ssd · 22/05/2011 21:05
couldn't agree more cantspel
a weekend taking the kids to their things is normal here, its good to encourage kids in sport/crafts/whatevers their thing
family time is what happens the rest of the week/weekend
emkana, I think your SIL or you needs to shake them selves up a big, get a pair of wellies and a warm jacket and get out their and support your son!
Lilyloo · 22/05/2011 21:07
If they are saying no to any activities that aren't collectively what 'everyone' wants to do i can see them spending lot's of time sat at home.
It will only be a matter of time until 5 year old wants to take up an activity anyway.
Playing matches is really the main part of playing football and is why they learn the skills imo
However if mum and dad aren't commited to taking him no point half heartedly going into it
ssd · 22/05/2011 21:08
the matches are what all the trainings for 
so youd your SIL would rather he just stayed at home and hung around with his mum instead of doing something he'd probably really enjoy
poorbugger
I take it the girls will be discouraged from doing anything enjoyable as well? 
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