Babysitter having sex?!

[JaneFonda]

This is a long story, I'll try to keep it short.

On Wednesday night, me and DP went out and asked a family friend's DD (17) to babysit for our DS's (7 and 5), we said her boyfriend could come round as well as they are both lovely teens.

Everything seemed fine, until today.

We have security cameras in/around our house and DP was checking them as there has been a group of teenagers causing nuisance around our neighbours' house over the past couple of weeks, so was seeing if any damage was caused, when he called me over.

On the camera, we saw the babysitter and her boyfriend kissing, then beginning to get undressed before disappearing into another room, and coming out some time later. I can only assume they had sex in there, and I feel quite disgusted and as though our home has been violated.

DS's were fast asleep upstairs, so no concern there, but I just don't know what to do. WWYD?

Have just read through a lot of the replies and am a bit at how few at the start had obviously read your post and were quick to jump on the omg u filmed inside your house bandwagon! I think if you feel that you are not being unreasonable then you need to live by that standard - morals often being the fibre of us etc! I think whomever made the point about how everyone would react if it were a nany or a childminder was spot on - is it because the bs was 17 and this was like pocketmoney that it seems ok? I can honestly say I have sat here and cringed at my memories of babysitting! Mostly I did babysit on my own but I distinctly remember a bf coming with me one time If I were you I would maybe just say actually u know what I feel a bit uncomfortable that you bring your bf over here and would your parents be ok with it and so on. Ask her specifically not to get up to anything in your house (if she is old enough to be having a shag then surely mature enough to deal with this in an adult manner) lol.

Agree it is disrespectful of anyone to use your home as a free motel. However your bs is 17 and less likely to resist the tempting opportunity which frankly you set up than, say, an older friend. Presumably if you hadn't seen the film you would n't have given it a second thought, so no other evidence of such at least ? Either you accept the possibility fo them getting frisky or say no bf.

I think it is unacceptable but I also think that it's fairly inevitable if you allow a babysitter to bring their boy friend. I doubt they get too many opportunities for an undisturbed shag unless they have extremely liberal parents. If she is such a good babysitter I would tell her that she is not welcome to bring her boyfriend over any more when sitting for you. Do not tell her why- let her work out that you know.

There can't be too many (legal) jobs where you are paid and can have a shag on your employer's time. I think it as unacceptable as if they were having a party with their mates in your house. Granted, most babysitting is pretty humdrum and the charges are often asleep but they are still working and expected to be available at a moment's notice in the event of an emergency. I would have thought that being mid-shag would hinder them in that.

When you play back a security camera it's usually on a fast forward/fast rewind setting to save you watching everything in real time.

So it's entirely possible that by the time the OP's husband realised he was watching the babysitter and her boyfriend kissing and stripping off they were already finished undressing and vanished from the sight of the camera. It really is split second stuff at that speed on the cameras.

JaneFonda, I think the best thing for you to do, is let the babysitter know there are security camera's in the house. That will probably cool their ardor.
Not sure what all the fuss is about regarding you having camera's?
Lot's of people have Nanny Cam's.

On telling the nanny, (or whoever is in the home) about the security cameras.
"4. Good performance - Knowing that there are cameras in the house keeps nanny on her toes. She'll be more circumspect in dealing with the children, following schedules, and keeping away from the phone and the master's bedroom."
From [[http://www.streetdirectory.com/etoday/the-nannycam-top-five-reasons-why-tell-nanny-you-have-it-wfjpww.html The Nannycam: Top Five Reasons Why Tell Nanny You Have It
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But why was the OP watching the footage? Surely you would only watch the footage if there had been a burglary? Otherwise you would just record over it?

She said in an earlier post that there had been people in her neighbor's yard and the neighbor was wondering if she'd caught any of their faces on the camera. I think .

I can't believe how many people are having ago at OP for filming the babysitter without consent when she has quite clearly stated that she didn't expect the babysitter to be in the utility corridor. She didn't set out to film her.

I never would've had sex whilst babysitting, but then I was a pretty boring teen. I had the odd sneaky drink and cigarette, but that was about it.

having a go

Also, OP has explained why they were watching the footage...