Babysitter having sex?!

[JaneFonda]

This is a long story, I'll try to keep it short.

On Wednesday night, me and DP went out and asked a family friend's DD (17) to babysit for our DS's (7 and 5), we said her boyfriend could come round as well as they are both lovely teens.

Everything seemed fine, until today.

We have security cameras in/around our house and DP was checking them as there has been a group of teenagers causing nuisance around our neighbours' house over the past couple of weeks, so was seeing if any damage was caused, when he called me over.

On the camera, we saw the babysitter and her boyfriend kissing, then beginning to get undressed before disappearing into another room, and coming out some time later. I can only assume they had sex in there, and I feel quite disgusted and as though our home has been violated.

DS's were fast asleep upstairs, so no concern there, but I just don't know what to do. WWYD?

[hobnobsaremyfavourite]

you have security cameras in your house?

[hobnobsaremyfavourite]

I thought you had to warn people if CCTV is being used

[RobF]

Did it not cross your mind that this might happen when you allowed a teenage couple to babysit?

If it upsets you that much, find another babysitter.

[worraliberty]

Well firstly I wouldn't have said the BF could come round if I didn't expect them to get up to something, and secondly...did you tell them you would be spying on them? Did they know about your indoor cameras?

[bigTillyMint]

It wouldn't bother me TBH, as long as the DC were asleep and had no idea of what was going on, and as long as they didn't mess up anything in the house. Or use my bed!

[icooksocks]

Isn't that akin to being a peeping tom?? Surely you need security cameras outside, why would you need them inside?

[zikes]

Cctv inside your house?! Freaky.

[SauvignonBlanche]

I take it you hadn't told them about the secrity cameras inside your house?

[JaneFonda]

Sorry, I feel I should clarify so I don't look like a weird stalker!

We have several filming the garden/porch area, and one that films the porch is at an angle that it films the porch and also shows the utility corridor through the glass doors.

Not actually inside the house!

[Mamaz0n]

you have CCTV inside your house??

I think i would mention to the babysitter that you have the CCTV and that maybe next time it would be better for her boyfriend not to help babysit.

let her know without saying and embarrassing her that you are aware of what happened.

not much else you can do really. I hope the cleared up after themselves

[Ooopsadaisy]

You film people in your house? Why do you have cameras in your house?

I hope I don't know you.

Poor girl. Her parents will probably think you are pervs.

WWID? I'd chuck out the cameras, destroy the films and take a long hard look at how I treat others.

[Hardandsleazy]

Isn't there an issue re filming people when they don't know? I realise it's a bit hazy as she isn't an employee but I think legally as well as ethically it's a tricky one (unless she knew about camera which sounds like didn't).

Also IMHO am not surprised - I can't say I would
Have been any better at that age(although see why you are appalled). But kids presumably know nothing about it. It may be better to say nothing an find another sitter .

[Flounder]

Cameras inside your home??? Feel sorry for your babysitter tbh, luckily for them they went into another room.

[HalleluiaScot]

As someone who has a 'DP', what is the problem with extra marital sex?

[suzikettles]

If I was your babysitter then I guess I'd be the one feeling violated if I knew that someone had filmed me getting undressed.

Delete the film. Tell no-one. Don't use her as a babysitter again if you feel uncomfortable with it.

[NettoSuperstar]

YABU.
Your DC were asleep upstairs.
What is wrong with them having sex?

[JaneFonda]

I don't film people in my house!

Halleluia - Extra marital sex is NOT the issue. The issue is that they had sex in my house, whilst being paid to look after my DCs.

[millie30]

I think if you hire a 17 year old babysitter and allow her to bring her boyfriend, you can't really complain when they have sex. Did you think they were going to play scrabble?

[Hardandsleazy]

Well can see why you are livid (although no harm done and no a hock given age ) - I would say nothing for all reasons here and just don't use her again .

[Ooopsadaisy]

You give 2 17 year olds the run of your house and you don't think they'd have sex? Really?

Babysitting is the perfect shagging opportunity (or it used to be about 500 years ago!)

[NettoSuperstar]

I'e gad sex in my house, though I don't get paid for looking after DD she has been in the house

[JaneFonda]

Bluddy - you have totally taken this out of context. I didn't 'secretly' film them - security cameras for the porch show part of the utility corridor; an area that they didn't have any reason to be in anyway, considering it's on the other side of the house.